She is going through a custody battle with her ex-husband and brother and sister-in-law. We have been dating for several months but i want to wait to see how this shakes out before i go further in our relationship. Her kids are 16 and 14 years old, respectively.
2006-08-16 06:22:21 · 10 answers · asked by royaperry 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
I would stay away from the introductions for awhile . . if there is a battle going on, you don't want to be fuel to someone else's fire . . wait til things cool down and then be introduced as a friend on their mother . . . being the age they are, I am sure they will be more inclinded to understand who you are . . . is the father dating anyone? in that case, you could be introduced but in a public place where you "run into each other" and take it from there . . . I just wouldn't start showing up at the house all the time just yet
2006-08-16 06:39:52 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
I dont think that jumping in and introducing yourself as the "boyfriend right now will help." These are teenagers and they take things more direct and serious then smaller children. Take your time in this matter, you dont want them to resent you or there mother right now. It could be a situation where all the blame is put on you, from all parties if things dont go well. You will know when the time is right, just follow your heart. Divorce is never easy and neither is a custody battle. Be there first as a friend and secondly as a lover for this woman and the two of you will never go wrong. Remember that those kids will need her more now than ever so you will have to adjust to moving over a little from time to time. Patience is a virtue.
2006-08-16 13:33:51 · answer #2 · answered by iamahotty36 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well I think as a good boyfriend right now staying behind the scenes is a good idea,but by all means support her and her parenting skills even though you haven't seen them in action,but comfort her and when all this is over and things settle more would be a better time to be introduced into the family..but regardless if she gets custody or not love her and support her emotionally..meeting the children can wait
2006-08-16 13:31:48 · answer #3 · answered by crazyinlove 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I dont believe you can put a time limit on it. I of course wouldnt do it from the get go, but you never know how long its going to take you to know that this girl is really the one. Once you both know that you are going to be a couple and for as long it lasts then I would want to meet the kids. If you wait to long like to be engaged or anything the kids are going to hate you for it. Out of no where there you are and your dad #2. Give the kids respect and time with mom. No matter there age they are not going to like the fact of you for a short time. Get to know them. You should never date a woman that has kids just to be with her! She has a obligation to them first! You seem like you really want things to work out with her. Sit back and relax and when she is ready for you to meet them, she will let you know. Good luck!
2006-08-16 13:33:10 · answer #4 · answered by WENDY G 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
all you do is introduce your lady and then introduce them as "This is Marys' son , George and daughter Irene" not too formal and just enough info for the people to know whom they belong to . Plus the kids don't feel left out and welcome , but mot like your pushy . I have been there . I have 3 and my husband has 3 , and now that they are all grown I can breath .
2006-08-16 13:29:52 · answer #5 · answered by vpsinbad50 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Wait until the battle is finished and when that is finished, she has to talk to them first to see if they are ok with it.
2006-08-16 13:29:57 · answer #6 · answered by baby_luv 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I agree with you. It would be best to wait there are too many people involved and they will probably be looking for you to do something wrong.
2006-08-16 13:28:32 · answer #7 · answered by nastaany1 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
hello well my mom and dad are divorced and the best time is when you get time tell them that no one can take their mom place and that you are dating someone else and if they dont like it dont worry they will get over it
2006-08-16 13:31:48 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
she can introduce you as a friend anytime, theres nothing wrong with that
2006-08-16 13:27:46 · answer #9 · answered by wilfreds805 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Wait until you are engaged.
2006-08-16 13:27:16 · answer #10 · answered by Fishgutts 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋