this sucks!!!!!!?

Question

i just found out that my dad might have another kid
WITH ANOTHER WOMAN!!!!!!!!!!!
my life sucks!!!!
what do u think should i 4give him?
can i cry on ur shoulder?

the kids 2 or 3 years old already

Answer 1

Are your parents still married?

You need to forgive him because now you have a little brother or sister to be a good role model to.

Answer 2

Yes- you should forgive him. Yes, you can cry on my shoulder. No, your life doesn't suck. Your fathers actions suck. If this is the only thing he has done that really hurt your feeling though, you are much better off than alot of people. Talk to him- tell him how you feel and do your best to be understanding. You might have a really cool step sibling out there- get to know them and remember that it is not the other childs fault at all.

Answer 3

Most of us are here for the same reason....to support you....It is OKAY for you to be upset....and even angry with your dad...You have just gotten some information that has (not only!) rocked your world....it will FOREVER change the dynamics of your world!!!!! so....go ahead....get angry....let it out... how COULD he be so selfish with his own PERSONAL needs to NOT EVEN CONSIDER the CONSEQUENCES of his actions and how it would EFFECT others he is closest to... HOW COULD HE DO THIS TO YOU!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!??????????????!!!!!!!!?????????
.......because he is human....and because he is not perfect...maybe even FAR from perfect.... but human....after all...
yes...you should forgive him....but don't let him "off the hook" too soon.... you must remember that it is NOT your fault OR the child's fault....this baby did not ask to come into this world...ESPECIALLY under these circumstances...but "here he (or) she is!!!!!" Now what is your Dad doing about it????? Whether you like it or not...you must find a way to cope with this situation....and you will need to love and support your brother or sister...keep an open mind....and find a way to reach out to this child...because like it or not ....he or she will be part of your life for the rest of your life....and so will your father...you must work out some solutions together....and move forward in this new world he has created....It may be tough...but I BELIEVE you can do this, and that you WANT to do the right thing or you would not have reached out to us...and shared your hurt and anger.....
Good luck...and be "wise" ( use a little more wisdom and retraint than your father!) to handle...and you will be just fine!!!! I have faith in YOU!!!!!

Answer 4

Yes, forgive him. Everyone makes mistakes and I know if he's a good dad, he doesn't love you any less. Are you perfect? No one is. We all have a right to be angry but the child has nothing to do with it. Probably has no idea what's going on. Develop a relationship with your sibling and stay positive about it. Your dad will have to deal with the mistakes he deal in his life so don't make it harder than it will already be for him.

Answer 5

This will never change the fact that he is your father, you forgive him or not y are family so just think wisely your father is a male like all other males, if you consider what he has done as a crime and betrayal than don't bt what will you gain. he thus will stay yr father, the only one you can count on when you r in trouble / when you need help or money.
The actual choice is up to your mohter, if this is considered as betrayel it was betraying her not you anyway.

Answer 6

I just found out that i have a 19yr old brother who lives in NY. A 15yr old sister in FL. and 5 yr old twin brothers living in the US VI. Here i was thinking that i was the only child he had. And I'm 22 yrs old just finding this out. But what can u do? Nothing really just forgive him and get to know your siblings. at least that's what I'm trying to do now.

Answer 7

Do forgive the dad. He has presented you with a younger sibling to play with, without bothering your mom to carry him in her belly for 9 months.No need to cry child. On anybody's shoulder.
When you are older & maturer you will understand why your dad behaved this way. Maybe thereafter you will not only pardon but actually admire him for this act.

Answer 8

You need to quit being so selfish! Look at your question again - it's all about you! Your Dad didn't do anything to you or against you. You mention you have a half-sibling, but you don't even mention whether this child is a boy or a girl. Why? Because that's not important to YOU!

Answer 9

I am 38 and I have a half brother who just turned 10. I thought my life sucked but instead it got better. I dont know your situation but my dad is an ***. I now love my brother but at first I used him to get back at my dad but i realized he is cool and we have a lot in common. I still hate my dad.

Answer 10

It depends how your mother treated him I would say if she did not fufill his needs he should have ended the relationship and then found someone but if that s not the case then as a man i would say sometimes we have a need that we cannot contain look at the whole situation then make ur judgement

Answer 11

love your new brother or sister, not the childs fault. forgive your dad,he's only human & makes errors like everyone else. if your parents are still married, try to stay neutral, if the are divorced welcome the new person with open arms & give them a chance. if it doesnt work out, just go with the flow(unless it gets really ugly)
you have a great opportunity to be the bigger pserson here, your life will be happier if you put forth the effort to accept..