He is an a** and verbally abusive. also an acholic he will not let me take the kids and i will not leave them behind
2006-08-16 06:06:39 · 20 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
Go to the courthouse and file for divorce. You can ask that you and the children be allowed to remain in the residence pending the outcome of the proceedings. Also, as he is abusive you can ask for a Temporary Custody Order giving you custody of the children until the Court can determine permanent custody. I would suggest seeking legal counsel for this, but if you cannot afford an attorney check with the court and they will provide you contact information for the Legal Aid office in your area. The plain and simple of it is, the kids will need to remain in the home they know, where their life is, and the court will recognize this. Depending on the children's ages and the fitness of your parenting abilities the court will allow you to stay in the house with the children and maintain custody. Lastly, as soon as you get it filed and the temporary orders in place, contact the local Police or Sheriff's Department and have an officer or deputy go with you to the house to give him his copy and ask him to leave peacefully. The presence of an officer will keep him for becoming abusive or refusing to leave. I would however try and arrange to do this when the children are not at home to witness it. I hope this helps.
Just my 2 cents worth
2006-08-16 06:17:07 · answer #1 · answered by capbarrow2 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
My husband isn't an acholic but the verbal abuse and being an a** is the same. When I leave I plan on waiting til he goes to work, rent a moveing truck, have some family / friends come over to help, and by the end of the day i will be out of here before he gets home. WITH MY KIDS. When he gets home he'll get the point. Good Luck Girl. Wish you the best.
2006-08-16 06:32:40 · answer #2 · answered by why?? 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If he's verbally abusive and an alcoholic, the courts will never let him keep the kids.
I would go speak to the police to see what you can do about leaving the house immediately with your kids. Maybe they can have someone go to the house while you gather all the stuff you will need for the kids and yourself.
Also, get yourself a good lawyer.
2006-08-16 06:13:09 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well, my dear, he has to sleep sometime. Be very quiet, get the kids and go! Either that or, does he work, do it then, does he go to the store for his beer? Do it then. Here's another thought. Call the police department, tell them you need to leave, but you are afraid of him, they will come and escort you and the kids out. As long as they are not physically in his arms, the police can help you get them out. If he is holding a child, they CANNOT legally take them away from him, so be careful!
2006-08-16 06:13:44 · answer #4 · answered by mcnees79 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If he is truly abusive then you can get an order of protection against him and then he will not be allowed near you, the house, or the kids until the judge rules differently. This may be your first step toward a divorce.
2006-08-16 06:13:48 · answer #5 · answered by willinkc 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
call the police and tell them what you are going to do and let them be there with you so you don't get hurt and file for a divorce as soon as you can so that he can not take the kids b/c be for some one files the two of he can take the kids back and you can't do any thing to stop him
2006-08-16 06:17:39 · answer #6 · answered by ardgo2112 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Take the kids to a women's shelter. They will help you file for custody. Leave while he's at work or gone somewhere. Have stuff ready to leave so if you have to go right away you can.
2006-08-16 06:13:59 · answer #7 · answered by dlfoster67 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Do what you have to do, take the kids to Mom's then tell him your taking out the garbage and leave!!! You need to get the hell out of there. Go to a shelter if you have to. Then get a restraining order for him. You can get your stuff later.
2006-08-16 06:31:07 · answer #8 · answered by ? 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Go to counseling get some help and start putting money back into a savings so that you will be able to stand on your feet if you do decide to leave him. Get a restraining order and talk to a lawyer
2006-08-16 06:29:52 · answer #9 · answered by hopeluv 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
get out while the bum is at work, and file for divorce. The second you do that his a.s.s is out of the house. A cop will keep him from coming into the house. You get to keep the home and everything in it. Sell his boat, beer,guns, motorcycle everything. You also can clean out the bank account if your nameis on it. Get a restraining order while you are at it. Maybe youll get lucky and he will die in a car accident.
2006-08-16 06:45:02 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋