2006-08-16 05:40:42 · 21 answers · asked by amiracan_sweethart 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
I think there is always a place in your heart for your first 'love'. Eventhough it's been years since I've been with my ex and I am now VERY, VERY happily married, I will always carry a love for my ex. We broke up for a reason, though, and that is why we aren't together anymore. I most certainly don't dwell on the past or wish things had happened differently. Everything happens for a reason, and I am now married to the man of my dreams. As long as you continue looking in the past, you will never move into the future with your husband like you should. Let go and move on.
2006-08-16 05:53:24 · answer #1 · answered by Brea1243 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Are you happy with this situation? This alone will tell you if it's ok or not.
Why did you marry your spouse in the first place? Do you have a good relationship? Do you talk? Does he know how you feel? Do you know how he feels? How did you happen to fall in love with someone else? Does he love you too?
Think about the future: do you think your life will be better ten years from now if you stay married? Are you willing to invest the best years of your life on this marriage? Or do you think it's time to cut your losses and try a fresh start with someone else?
2006-08-16 06:00:11 · answer #2 · answered by Brazilian Gal 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Things like this don't just happen....you do not fall in love 'by accident." IF you are married, you do not have the right to go about falling in love with someone else, regardless of how bored you are. Trust me, no matter the relationship, there will be times when you are bored with it. IT is those times that you invest back into the relationship the energy you are investing in the "other love." Get your head on straight, get your marriage back on track, and stop wasting time with these feelings...they are just that...feelings, and you are under control of your feelings. IT is very easy to love someone you do not live with, you do not know through and through...after all, you loved/love your husband...so what, really, is the problem. Find the love again and go for it. Good luck
2006-08-16 05:48:14 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Wow what a question. Hmm, I was married to a man and completly in love with another. My first husband was a total jerk and I should have known that before we had kids and got married and then divorced. We were together for 10 years and had nothing in common. Everything we did was what he wanted to do and if I wanted to be with him, I had to go along. My new husband is my best friend and we do everything together and we love everything we do together. We talk all the time, my kids really love him. You can be attracted to another man of course but you have to ask yourself do you truly love your current husband and can you live without him or anyone for that matter? If so then he may not be right for you. Is there something about him that is making you look for another man? If so try couseling by yourself and if you want to stay married you should be open and honest with your husband.
2006-08-16 05:51:59 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
I think you should know the answer to that. You got married to the person for a reason. If you don't love them and don't want to be with the person then leave. But you shouldn't have given yourself the chance to fall in love with another person if you are married. Its kinda like cheating.....just not physical cheating...more like emotional cheating.
2006-08-16 05:49:52 · answer #5 · answered by jennifer_spanky2002 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
marriage is a compromise
love does not always end in marriage. As Oscar Wilde said, marriage is the end of Love.
it would be wonderful to marry someone we love, but often it doesnt happen so. mostly its because we fall in love with the wrong person. wrong in the sense, the person could be married.
if the person is not wrong, sometimes its the circumstances that could be wrong.
its nothing wrong in marrying someone whom we havent loved. only we need to be loyal to them. and even make an attempt to love the man or woman we marry.
2006-08-16 06:06:04 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
its okay to love another one but IF you are married maybe you can convert the feeling to admiration, I am married and have a depended I almost shatter my marriage bec. of this girl but every time I think the of the sacrifices of my wife to keep the family going I rather stay with her, sometimes true love id to place the happiness to others not only to us.
Good luck hope you can make your partner smile not cry.
2006-08-16 05:51:23 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
yes. Not every person u love will love as much as u love them. Sometimes someone else love u very much. if u want someone who loves then u would go to the person that cares for u the most.
2006-08-16 05:50:52 · answer #8 · answered by nick 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well we can't control who we fall in love with. However, in your case, you need to assess the situation accurately and make a decision accordingly. What do you have in your current situation that you may not in the next and so on. If the scale tips the other way, don't waste your time in a marriage that is not going to blossom.
2006-08-16 05:48:42 · answer #9 · answered by M D 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Yes its always good to love another person but you don't want to get deeply involved cause it will cause that person marital problems and you also can cause drama for yourself. Try to show them love by doing nice things for them but don't get totally involved knowing that if that person is happy and later on getting hurt being you can't be with that person.
2006-08-16 05:50:21 · answer #10 · answered by SHELIA E 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋