The books always say you should express fears and such with your spouse, but it's always the same thing just in new clothes, isn't it? Do you ever get tired of listening to it?
2006-08-16 05:17:37 · 8 answers · asked by thebuffettour 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
MY WIFE HAD TAUGHT ME ALOT SHE KEPT SAYING WHY ARE YOU ALWAYS HAVE PERSONAL ISSURE AND REALLY REPEATS THAT BACK?? I TOLD HER I HAVE NO IDEA. SHE TOLD ME THAT THEN LET IT GO AND MOVE ON... I THOUGH ABOUT IT FEW TIME AND SHE IS RIGHT WHAT THE POINT FOR ME TO BRING IT THAT REPREATS OR USED AGAINST HER? SO I LEARNED THAT IT NOT WORTH IT. CHANGE IT TO MAKE IT BETTER MARRIAGE AND I DID.
IT SURE WAS WORTH IT. OH BY THE WAY WE WILL BE MARRIED FOR 9 YEARS IN OCT 31ST 2006..
2006-08-16 05:54:36 · answer #1 · answered by greenbaypackers1920 6 · 0⤊ 1⤋
If its always the same issues that means they are not getting resolved. If your tired of it then resolve it. I'm sure she got tired a long time ago too. That is the problem with men, they complain that they hear the same things over and over again but that is their fault. Make some changes and the issues should change as well.
2006-08-16 05:24:41 · answer #2 · answered by JustMe 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If the same issues keep coming up after 10 years, obviously your spouse isn't getting something they need.
With an attitude of being "tired of listening to it", you probably are NOT listening and she probably feels like she's banging her head against a wall. Be careful or someday she might wake up and realize it hurts and decide to stop.
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2006-08-16 05:29:23 · answer #3 · answered by mama_bears_den 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
The only way issues are dealt with & resolved are by talking about them. Sometimes over & over & over. Think about the life of a counselor!
Yes, sometimes you just aren't in the mood, but if love is involved, you will do what you can to help your partner deal with the issues they have. That was part of the deal.
If it becomes too much for you, maybe your partner should see a counselor, also.
2006-08-16 05:27:14 · answer #4 · answered by weddrev 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
No, it's not always the same. People grow even though you have been together a long time. I never get tired of listening, been doing it for 19 years.
2006-08-16 05:29:31 · answer #5 · answered by eeyore6838 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Yes and no. Sometimes I think...oh ok, here we go fight number 441 section b coming to pass yet AGAIN. Then I have to laugh a little bit because he and I have managed to survive just about everything and still love and desire one another. If it is the same thing dressed up or with lipstick on, so be it. It's all worth it for love.
2006-08-16 05:22:58 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well, yes and no. Yes, I get a bit tired of hearing it, especially considering it's hard to get him to return the favor (I don't think it's entirely selfish on his part, just that he wants to solve the problem and doesn't know how; he's getting better at just listening). But I'm very happen to listen, as we all have things we need to talk about, get off our chest, and I ever expect him to listen to me, I have to be willing to listen. Especially considering I can see the relief immediately in him when he gets things off his chest.
2006-08-16 05:27:43 · answer #7 · answered by I'm just me 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Sometimes it is. But people do grow and change. They let go of old fears and sometimes get new ones.
2006-08-16 05:25:24 · answer #8 · answered by Otis F 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋