and i am 36 weeks pregnant with our second daughter... my daughter has been sleeping through the night for a while now but it seems this last month she's been waking up like every night wanting to be held and cuddled and she takes horrible tempertantrums and screams at the top of her lungs if i don't pick her up i thought at first it was her teething she's gotten like 6 teeth all in a 4 month period but now im wondering if all this telling her about sissy in mommy's belly and sissy coming soon has had some affect i believe children understand alot more than what we give them credit for what do ya'll think? has anyone else been through this (im sure everyone has) and if so what did you do?
2006-08-16 05:04:10 · 10 answers · asked by tiffany b 3 in Pregnancy & Parenting ➔ Newborn & Baby
Congrats on the pregnancy ! And a good luck to you ! I thought mine were close in age @ 19mth apart. I found out I was pregnant 1 day after my daughters 1st B-DAY ! From than on I told her all about the baby( I did wait until I was starting to show). Like you are now 30's week time frame my daughter started waking @ night , wanting to be coddled. I think its just a phase. And I also think children understand more than most people give them credit for. Hope everything works out for you.
2006-08-16 05:25:13 · answer #1 · answered by 1smartmama 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
There was a time when my daughter would wake up and refuse to lay back down. We spent a few nights together in my bed, and she would wake up sometimes even if I put her back in her crib in the morning so I could go shower and get ready for work. It didn't keep going on, it stopped and hasn't happened since. It might just be a phase, I'm sure it won't last. Just try to deal with it for now the best you can and do what makes her comfortable, within reason of course. If it is because of the new little one, and her tantrums do last, then you may have to find a better solution.
2006-08-16 12:24:28 · answer #2 · answered by angelbaby 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
She is at the right age for night terrors... it is common in children... first you need to make sure she is really awake... or is she doing this in her sleep. The best thing I can say is do not let her get into the habbit of waking and your holding... it will easily become a pattern... try turning on the light and telling her that she is ok, cover her up and leave the room.
2006-08-16 12:09:44 · answer #3 · answered by Tricia P 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Yep! She's acting out her own anxiety about the new sister. She knows, even at 14 months she will be "second fiddle" soon. Make sure she gets Big sister presents when the new baby arrives. I also made a t-shirt for my older daughter that says "I'm the BIG SISTER" that she wore to the hospital when she came to visit.
2006-08-16 12:12:37 · answer #4 · answered by Paris Flea 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I had my second child just before my first one turned three,
She went back to pottying in her pants when she had been potty trained for almost a year,
I found ways to include her,
Let her help fold the clothes for baby, even if they aren't done right, she is helping.
When the baby gets here, let her help change diapers, like get the diaper, wipies, and if it isn't dirty, let her help with the actual changing, just keep sanitizer handy.
If you bottle feed, let her help shake the bottle, mine loved this.
Let her help pick out outfits for the baby to wear
I laid out different ones that matched, and let her pick out her fav out of them.
I know yours is younger, but you are right, she does understand that soon she won't be your pimary focus anymore and you need to help her in the transition by including her in some of the simple things, they can make all the difference in the world.
Good luck and before you know it they will be playing together and going to school. Enjoy them while they are young
2006-08-16 12:13:50 · answer #5 · answered by sandrarosette 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It probably does have something to do with her new sister (please don't say "sissy" it sounds whiney). Anyway, if she wakes up and throws a tantrum---ignore it. Her new sister is coming and she needs to get used to the idea. Spoiling her now will only make it worse when the baby gets here. Ignore it and don't pay any attention to them. She'll get over it.
2006-08-16 12:09:45 · answer #6 · answered by BeeFree 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
My daughter is the same age and she is going through the same thing. What has worked for her is to sit in her room until she goes to sleep and then leave.
Or stand at the door until she goes to sleep and then leave.
2006-08-16 12:15:59 · answer #7 · answered by momoftwo 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
reassure her that even though the baby is on its way that she still your baby too and when the baby comes let her help with things like getting diapers and small things it will make her feel like a help and your spending time with her aswell as the baby
2006-08-16 12:10:59 · answer #8 · answered by the ole ball and chain 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
my son tried that a couple times... I let him cry himself to sleep just once, and it solved the problem forever
2006-08-16 12:44:04 · answer #9 · answered by braslinbabe85 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
try white noise in the room (static from a radio station) will calm her.
2006-08-16 12:09:50 · answer #10 · answered by DesignR 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋