2006-08-16 04:59:12 · 18 answers · asked by lighthouse lover 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
Truthfully, i dont know.... i ahve been married for the past 3 years , and recently i have realised that i am getting really close with a friend of mine. i dont feel any lesser love for my husband.... though given the fact that i feel the need to keep this "friendship" secret from my husband i guess something is wrong with it. i dunno if i would ahve liked it if my husband had feelings for some one else than me.... i think i am being a hypocrit... anyways.. if u do find the answer let me know too
2006-08-16 05:10:43 · answer #1 · answered by Anu 2 · 0⤊ 1⤋
I don't think its wrong to have feelings for someone other than your spouse, you can't help who you love. However, you can help your actions. If you feel like you want to be with this other person, you should first talk to your spouse.
2006-08-16 12:22:13 · answer #2 · answered by Monie D 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You betcha its wrong - fix your marriage or get out then find someone. Having feelings or an afair will not help your marriage. Take a good look at yourself and see if there is anything you can do - maybe you quit doing things. I will say it again a good marriage is taking out the trash - helping with chores lessing the load for the woman - when you share responsibilities the sex has time to explode into the estacy you want. When respect and thoughtfulness goes so does the loving.
2006-08-16 13:08:23 · answer #3 · answered by Carol B 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Yes it is wrong. Having feelings for someone else can lead to you cheating on your spouse or worse, leaving them.
2006-08-16 12:04:28 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
What kind of feelings? Lust? Love? Friendship?
A nice looking person can catch your eye and make you think about doing something with them. As long as it is a brief feeling and you don't think about them again it should be OK.
If you think about the same person all the time, then YRS it is wrong. All that energy needs to go into your marriage to keep it together.
2006-08-16 12:06:02 · answer #5 · answered by physandchemteach 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It depends on the feeling and who it is for. I think it is wrong to have romantic feelings for anyone other than your spouse. I think it is normal to be physically sttracted to someone, but to not act on it.
2006-08-16 12:08:33 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Feelings have a way of occurring whether we want them to or not.
I overcome them by asking myself, "OK, what is going on here?'.
It help me discover things about myself and maybe make suggestions to my partner about trying what it was that attracted me to the other guy. For example, a hair style or a color of shirt.
Bottom line though, physical attraction is just normal Don't make more of it than what it is.
2006-08-16 12:12:57 · answer #7 · answered by Madeamove 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I think we are all subject to attractions now and then. In a marriage, however, an attraction to someone else ought to be treated as a signal to start fixing the marriage. In other words, they need to be corrected, but can be useful by reminding us what we need to do.
2006-08-16 13:33:39 · answer #8 · answered by Otis F 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Its inevitable that' you'll like someone else other than your spouse... But you should be mature enough to practice control, its your choice to love whom you want... listen to your brain also, not just your heart... don't do things that you'll regret later...
2006-08-16 12:51:49 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
No, I think its pretty normal. Its just like having a crush on someone, you think about that person & fantasize but never actually do anything with him. Its a part of life.
2006-08-16 12:29:53 · answer #10 · answered by Txfroggy 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋