do you have a cheating husband/wife/gf/bf????????

Question

how did you fine out?
are you still with this person?

Answer 1

Text messages on his phone that he was too stupid to erase is how I found out. Divorced.

Answer 2

I did have a cheating boyfriend, I was with him for like 15 yrs.
I was like 17 yrs-old and he was 24 or 23 yrs0old when I first met him, he was the very first man that I was with (Not Boy) and at first I figured as long as it was not in my face or anything it wouldn't hurt me but, see that is how they make you think it's suppose to be but, it's not.
I have just gotten married in April 2006 and now I know that is not the way it is suppose to be, my husband does not do any of those things that I put up with back 7 or 8 yrs ago.

I found how the first time because the female had enough gall to show up at my front door all the way across town looking for him,

or then there was the time when she came over to his sister's house while I was there pregnant,

or what about the phone calls in the middle of the night being called a b i t c h and then hung up on,

I can go on like this forever but, I guess I will end with the one time when one of the females showed up following us in a car and pulled up on us (him & I) and pulled a knife out on me and I ended up trying to break her neck before the night was over....

Yeah those was the days yeah right....

Answer 3

Used to.

I found in a most unpleasant way - I was at his house, he was going away for half a year... he had misplaced his documents, so I helped him search. So I found a used condom, which was definitely not used with me... Yuck.
He did intend to tell me, before I had any such encounter, but those documents did not let him tell me in time, and let me locate the d*mn thing...

I decided to give him a second chance (he claimed it was a one-timer, and he might have been honest), but we still split up since. If I had found about another cheating, I would have ended it on the spot, though - give people a second chance, but never a third...

Answer 4

I found out reading his email (I was spying on his email actually) and yes, I'm with him. We're trying to fix our relationship and, although we know it will take time and effort, we are fighting every day to go back to normal.
I wonder if I will ever forget what he did to me, I wonder if I will be able to stop thinking about the other woman when we're making love. I think about it every night when I'm sleeping by his side. I'm trying to get over the fact he brought someone to our home, he had someone lying in my side of the bed, using my pillow.
I'm having a hard time differentiating between having sex and making love, mainly because my boyfriend was my first one, I've never slept with anybody else and when I slept with him the first time, I was in love with him. I don't know how a one night stand is, I don't know if there are kisses and sweet touches.
I'm with him and, although I know I'm taking a big risk, I'll go for it. But I've been clear that this is going to be the first and last time I do this, if he cheats again, I'm out of here, and he knows I mean it.

Answer 5

Years ago I was with a person who cheated. That really hurt as he was my husband and father to my 3 children. Eventually I left because the cheating did not stop and it affected my self esteem too much. I needed to get away from that in order to take care of me. I found out because he was taking extra time in grooming himself, wearing cologne, getting weird phone calls from woman and he stayed away for days at at time. If this question is for yourself and it affects you to the point where you are unable to trust him and question his every move you need to ask yourself is it worth all the pain? There are good decent people out there who will not cheat. Just be brave and carry on

Answer 6

I had. When I got brave enough & past the denial stage, I searched in his desk he used to pay bills, etc., and found his working rough drafts of love letters to her & lists of all my faults (so he could 'prove' I deserved to be cheated on?) that he had gone over with his cheater & had her correct his spelling! How sweet they worked on that project together - ugh. So, I confronted him with them & told him get out or schedule marriage counseling. Which he scheduled & we went to for 1&1/2 years, all the while he was still continuing cheating. But, this made it appear he was trying - to save face with his family! So, when the light finally dawned, I got out. And she decided to stay with her husband after all - there is (a maybe somewhat twisted) justice in this world!

Answer 7

My first spouse cheated on me. Her excuse? "What became I meant to do ~ stay in a 'sucky' marriage?" those have been her suitable words. Mine have been, "Nope, and you will in no way could difficulty approximately that back. This marriage is over." I made an appointment with a divorce legal professional day after today, and the papers have been filed with the court docket a pair of week later.

Answer 8

I was very suspicious because of his attitude and I started to snoop around and I made up an email address and started emailing him as If I was secret admirer from work and he felt for it finally when he was in to deep I comfronted him made him believe that I cought those emails and phone calls( that I had a friend make for me) he confessed he said that he had not done anything with this email buddy he thought and was sure that it was one of his x girlfriends that he had contacted a few weeks prior..... So he confessed his intentions, with his x but swears that nothing happened so I went ahead and did more snoopng around and found out a few emails from him to her were he stated he missed her, her body and smile and remenaced about all the good times they had and that he missed talking to her. When I found out Ikicked him out of the house he threw away 8 years of marriage. Why? I dont know... He begged me for a second chance.... I gave it to him but things will never be the same ..... he will never have my trust again..... he didnt just let me down he let both of kids down.... and thats something he will have to live with the rest of his life. But he never found out that i tricked him....... and he will never know...

Answer 9

Had... cheating husband
Found... something during the annual exam
Tossed... that lying filthy piece of garbage to the curb

Whoops... believed his "I'm sorry" BS and let him back into my life

Oops... Is this a letter from his married lover/aka best friends sister in Texas calling you her "Cali Poppi" (ghetto skank) And asking to feel you inside her again... soon?

Poof... Be gone Idiot, don't let the door hit you on the way out

Cry into my pillow? Hell No... moved on and focused all that energy on myself. Hooray for actual reality

Answer 10

My ex husband cheated on me with several single women from the ball park where my son plays football.
I found out from one of the other moms who knew something was going on.
No we are divorced, since Aug 04

Answer 11

I found my husband trying to cheat. I found an email he had written to an old flame asking her to meet him at his place of employment that he had been think about her quite a bit. I visit his grave almost daily now. I"m just kidding, I have forgiven him and we have worked through it.