2 weeks ago my bro in law was in town here for business and he invited a bunch of us to meet him for dinner at this Indian restaurant. He lives in Atlanta and married to my sister Nicky from 4 years. They have a 4 month old baby girl together. Now i can't help but to notice something bad that happened and I have been warned about this before from a family friend as well who knows both our family and the other woman and her hub who I am about to talk about. My bro in law invited 4 other married couples who he knows from living in this town from 7 years now. All the guys work together for the same company.
Bye chance the hub and his wife were at dinner also when my bro in law and others met up. my bro kept glancing at her every chance he got. He kept looking at her. she looked over at him when he was busy talking to others...my point is they were observing each other at times and it was obvious to me,probably others, even though they probably didn't even think about it.
Then I
2006-08-16 04:43:35 · 15 answers · asked by katezambelli 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
noticed that the woman and my hub were talking throughout at times and at one point she told him to take some mango pudding hom for his wife or something, and my bro in law just stared in her eyes and he smiled at her in her eyes, then she smiled in his eyes. they stared and kept that smile and talked as well. Then every now and then they glanced. Finally it was time for the woman and her hub to leave. She hugged my bro in law and he hugged her, he said congrats to her on graduating and on other thing. then she smiled and said thanks to him, she had no words it was like she just told him to say hi to his wife and daughter. Then as she was headed out and she talked to other friends there, she was in front of my bro in law and me to his side. He kept his eyes on the woman. He looked directly at her in her eye and down her shirt and again up her eyes and she was comfortabel with it. she looked at him and asked where her hub was, he was standing out talking to another guy waitin
2006-08-16 04:46:53 · update #1
for her to come. And then he and her looked in each others eyes. she said see you to another couple. then she noticed my bro in law looking at her and she looked at him and they both softly said see you.
Why am I just fool, or is my bro inlaw attracted to this woman who he can't stop looking at and smiling at and putting his attention on? The woman as well seemed to like the attention from him and she noticed him too... why? I need to tell my sister about this or not?
2006-08-16 04:48:41 · update #2
Let it go, it's not for you to pry. It is business between your brother-in-law and your sister.
2006-08-16 04:52:02 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 1⤋
Listen hon, unless you have concrete proof he is cheating don't bring this up to your sister. It is often quite innocent for people to find others physically attrative. It is a chemical reaction between two peoples pheromones. As long as he does not act upon it he is not doing anything wrong, nor is he cheating on your sister. Looking into somebodies eyes throughout dinner, showing an attraction is not cheating. It is only if he acts on these feelings. She brought up his wife and daugher, so it sounds like both of them were saying "hey I am attracted to you but I am married and love my spouse". The other said"I know you are married, I am attracted to you but respect your marriage". Verbal communication is only about 7% of communication with body and facial expressions the other 93%. I think you caught on to the attraction and even partially correctly read what they were saying without words. That is pretty cool you are so aware! It is also really loving of you to care so deeply for your sister and to want to watch out for her. In doing so, don't make the mistake of taking action on something so brief as this exchange. It would hurt your sister way more for you to say somthing about this exchange when you have no proof anything more has ever occurred. Your bro in law could very well be totally faithfull to your sister.
You are a loving sister to care so deeply. Just be really carefull to not create a mountain out of a mole hill. So far all that occurred is you witnessing an attraction. Attractions are a normal part of life and they can't be controlled. What can be controled is how we act or don't act on them. As long as he does not act on this attraction then all is fine. More sisters should be so lucky to have such a loving and concerned sister. Blessed Be.
2006-08-16 05:07:15 · answer #2 · answered by Serenity 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
So far it sounds innocent. I flirt with women alot but would never take it to the next level because I love my wife. unless you have any evidence of something physical, don't mention it to her. It also depends on the type of woman your sister is. Is she one of those jealous girls who are insecure about themselves? If so you could cause a bigger problem by telling her. Imagine if it was an innocent attraction and your info caused the to divorce? We are all found in similar positions occasionally and what matters is how it is handled from that point. Just monitor what happens later if you can. Does the other woman live in Atlanta or local to you? If she is local, then any infidelity should be fairly obvious from this point (now you know to watch.) Bear in mind that there are repercussions for all our actions and The repercussions should not be greater than the action.
2006-08-16 04:59:32 · answer #3 · answered by Jeep Freak 1 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Do NOT tell your sister-in-law; the only thing it will accomplish is to put a wedge in their marriage and hurt her, b/c women are naturally very possessive creatures. But technically he didn't do anything wrong. He didn't touch her. And believe it or not, it is normal for married people to look and flirt. It's healthy and just means he's a healthy guy. Lord, I wish I'd catch my husband looking sometimes. lol But what set him apart is that he didn't DO anything and it ended there. And no, just b/c they flirted and he obviously looked doesn't mean anything more than a cheap thrill. Women do it, too...we're just not as obvious at it. Men have that rubber neck syndrome. They need to learn how to look without being so obvious about it. lol
2006-08-16 04:58:14 · answer #4 · answered by I'm just me 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
You really have nothing but suspicions to tell your sister . I would suggest that you not interfere with there marriage unless you have concrete proof that he was doing something with this woman besides flirting.
Looking is not against the law and I will bet your sister looks at other good looking men, it is natural.
2006-08-16 04:59:51 · answer #5 · answered by Joy 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Dont rock the boat. A little harmless flirtation is all that sounds like, maybe not even that. These 2 dont even live in the same town as your sister and her husband, so to spark alarm now would be premature. Keep an eye on him and his behavior...keep in close contact with you sister as they tend to share things going on in their love lives.
2006-08-16 04:54:32 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
TELL YOUR SISTER!!!!! This is not just a harmless flirtation! I'm sure they are already sleeping together, the whole mango pudding thing: They probably had some fun with mango pudding on one of their trysts. Trust me on this one. You sister and her little girl deserve better.
2006-08-16 17:18:21 · answer #7 · answered by Belladonna 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I think they are definitely attracted to each other. Nothing may have happened, but it could. Inform your sister, tell her to start keeping an eye on them. Ask her to not let him know you said anything, and not to let her husband know of his suspicious behavior. Do not give the guy a chance to hide anything, check his cell, his email etc. If he is in regular contact with this woman, it will surface somewhere. Then take it from there.
2006-08-16 05:02:13 · answer #8 · answered by paulsexpress 2 · 0⤊ 2⤋
just ask her if anything seems wierd about him. women always know in the back of their mind if something is not right. just bring it to her attention and tell her just as you told us here with your story. its your job as a brother to look out for her. what if a year down the road he leaves her for the other woman, im sure you would wish that you would have told her.
2006-08-16 05:56:10 · answer #9 · answered by hdw 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
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2016-11-04 22:45:01 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋