I have lived with my ex-husband for six years and we adopted a child together. Our adopted son died lst winter. So in our grief we became like one again. Ex has a lung disease. He has been bedridden even before our son died. I've cared for him for diligently since he became bedridden. If we marry people will think I'm marrying him for his pension as a widow. Is this immoral?
2006-08-16 04:33:33 · 14 answers · asked by ADMIRAL 0125 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
The death of a child can draw some people together while it rips others apart.
I personally, understand your loss and you have my sympathy.
As far as marrying your ex, who cares what anyone else thinks; If this is what the two of you decide? And so what if he would want to marry you so you could have his pension? That's also his decision, and not one that is uncommon.
I think you have proved that you do love this man. Caring for a sick person is burdensome in itself, without having to do it under the blanket of grief.
If you donot have a minister, type in your city, state & wedding officiant. You should be able to find someone to come to you & marry you. Give me a shout if you need help.
2006-08-16 04:54:20 · answer #1 · answered by weddrev 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋
No, it is not immoral for you to marry your ex-husband. If you two love each other then by all means get married. This is between the two of you, nobody else. The only important people who you need to take into consideration is you and him. I am so sorry for the death of you son. I too lost a son when he was two years and five days old. There is nothing worse than the death of a son. I too lost a husband. The father of my biological children. I too have adopted children. Eight children in all. Nine counting my deceased son.
Listen, grasp hold of what happiness you can right now as you are going to be grieving again soon enough. It will take you a while to get past the grief and find another partner in life. I fully encourage you to marry this man and be happy while you can. Don't worry about what "others" will think. You know the truth and so does this man. That is all that matters. Anyone who loves you will not judge you harshly, but tell you the same things I am. People who love you will want your happiness and not put you down in how you found that happiness. Life is not predictable, nor is it all neat and tidy. Life is full of twists and turns that bring both joy and sorrow.
Marry this man and be happy. Don't worry what anyone else has to say or what they may think. Be happy. Blessed Be.
2006-08-16 04:46:43 · answer #2 · answered by Serenity 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
In any case, who cares what people think. As long as you do love your ex-husband, and do want to marry him for himself, that negates whatever anyone can say.
No, it is not immoral, for again, it is but merely concerned with how you think and feel about him. Stay true to your own heart, and not the influence of others.
2006-08-16 04:45:12 · answer #3 · answered by the Nightwalker 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I think you owe it to yourself to remarry him.
Who cares what other people think. You love him and he loves you.
That said... are you being paid for your caretaker services now? Technically you should be paid since you're not married. Take a day or so and take a look at everything around you.
2006-08-16 05:22:48 · answer #4 · answered by myshira 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
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2016-11-04 22:44:19 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
It sounds as tho you've both had enough heartache in your lives.
If you both wish to marry, then do so. What others may think or say, is none of their business. No one walks in YOUR shoes.
It's your life.....Do as you both so choose.
Pay NO heed to others. Best Wishes! :)
2006-08-16 05:03:57 · answer #6 · answered by iyamacog 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You have every right to marry him. Even if it is for his pension - you deserve it.. It sounds like you are really in love.
2006-08-16 04:44:06 · answer #7 · answered by Kabu 5 · 0⤊ 1⤋
Why are you marrying him? If you're marrying him because you love him, then who cares what other people say?
2006-08-16 04:40:35 · answer #8 · answered by I'm just me 7 · 0⤊ 1⤋
Who give's a rat's *** what other people think. If you and him want to get remarried, do it. Tell others to bite your ***, it's none of their business what you do.
2006-08-16 04:41:54 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 1⤋
If you love him marry him, it doesn't matter what other people think.
2006-08-16 04:40:17 · answer #10 · answered by justme 1 · 1⤊ 0⤋