This girl and I who I have been seeing for a while have called it quits. We expressed our love for one another when we were together, but now she says she's not ready for anything serious. We're both newly divorced and we started seeing each other while we were married. I know, that was bad, but we were drawn to one another. I really feel that this girl is my soul mate in life. Should I just let it die or should I try to fight for it again. I don't want to come off as being needy or pathetic, but I just feel deep in my heart that she's it for me. I'm lost with out her.
2006-08-16 03:54:32 · 12 answers · asked by woodersondylan 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
Well I was in your shoes but I left my husband and he decided to go back to his wife, and leave me alone and pregnant. So I have learned when someone isnt ready for the the same level of committment or they run from you, let them run! It hurts like hell but you have to swallow your pride and realize that if they love you they will come back to you. Let her miss you, and see what life is like w/o you. If you chase after her she will not ever get to miss you. I promise that if her love is true and genuine, you will know soon
2006-08-16 04:38:22 · answer #1 · answered by foxxyy44u 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You are needy right now. I say this and I haven't heard what happened for you to have divorced your wife. It is not a good thing to get into a relationship right after separating from somebody that you had at one time pledged your life and love to. Your girl is probably feeling the same way. When you have been shell shocked by divorced, and somebody puts it in your face again, you tend to shy away from it, because you remember how you were burned the first time. Keep in touch with her you would like, do not rush into anything or rush her into anything, but take time for yourself right now. You need to rebuild yourself, and rediscover you and who you are. If you too are meant to be, then eventually, it will be evident.
2006-08-16 04:48:49 · answer #2 · answered by savvyd 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well, since you both just came out of relationships, don't push it for now. She is right that she is not ready for a serious relationship. If you do push it, you may become the rebound guy and she probably likes you too much to allow you to become the rebound guy and vice versa. Just let her have her time off right now . Besides you can't push a woman, once her mind is made up, it is done. Good luck.
2006-08-16 04:04:26 · answer #3 · answered by Diana 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I think you really need to take some time for yourself... you're kind of coming off like a needy person. You just got out of a marriage (that you cheated in....it doesn't matter if you were drawn to someone else...) and so did she... Let up a little bit and both of you figure out what you really want.
2006-08-16 04:00:44 · answer #4 · answered by ksgirl 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You were drawn to each other when you were married to other people and 'each other' may have been all you had.
Now that she's divorced, the playing field is open and she may want to explore other options before committing to another relationship when she's fresh out of the last one. You may (for your own good) want to do the same.
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2016-11-04 22:41:10 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
If she's not ready, then she's not ready.
Something is causing her to feel this way though, after this length of time. Sit down with her & talk, openly & honestly. She may just be skittish, which you can't blame her. Then again, this may have been the 'rebound'.
2006-08-16 04:03:11 · answer #7 · answered by weddrev 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
how can a relationship started with lies and distrust evolve into a good relationship? I don't think so buddy. Get over her and if you are meant to be you will run into her again. But for now she needs to heal and enjoy being single again so stay away completely.
2006-08-16 04:34:35 · answer #8 · answered by jercha 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I'm sure you have heard the saying " If you love someone set them free and if they return it was means to be" You can not force someone to love you or want to be with you. In this case you need to give her the space she needs to explore her new freedom. I am sure it is painful, but you too need to time to recover and spend some time just for you.
2006-08-16 04:07:44 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
dating her while married-mmm adultery, have you ever heard the phrase rebound-- move on and find your next true love
2006-08-16 04:01:39 · answer #10 · answered by Ladder Captain-29 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋