If your husband of 5 years had been having an emotional and sexual affair with a woman at work for the past ten months, is there any chance you would take him back? Heres a few more details- The wife is 10 weeks pregnant and the other woman is 8 weeks pregnant, both with his baby. He had another cell phone for the other woman, and met with her about 2-3 times a week, talked to her on the phone everyday and text her everyday. Spent every vacation day from work with her. So as the wife, when you find all of this out, would you stay or go? what are the chances its doomed regardless? Keep in mind the wife is pregnant with her first child by him and the girlfriend is also pregnant with her first child by him. Do you see any way in the future that this marriage could work?
2006-08-16 03:53:27 · 25 answers · asked by foxxyy44u 3 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
Well sweet girl, I read your other posts....I really feel for you! In answer to your question...no as the wife for me, it would be over. If it were me in YOUR shoes, I wouldnt have anything to do with him either! He needs to support his child so I would have that done throught the courts. You CAN do this on your own with his child support. I know it's a scary time for you to go it alone it being your first pregnancy,but there are good hearted people out there who will be supportive of you hon. I'm raising my son on my own and I'm really glad i'm not with my ex husband (cheated on me) Remeber hon, if he was cheating on his wife, he'd cheat on you too, he's no prize for sure! You deserve better so does your child! Be strong and best wishes to you for a healthy happy pregnancy and birth!
2006-08-16 04:10:34 · answer #1 · answered by Joeygirl 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
There is a slim chance that the marriage can work but he has decieved the wife for 10 months and now has a child on the way with the other woman. My thought is that if he can do this for 10 months and not have any remorse then he will do it again and just find better ways to keep it hidden. Leave him and get a divorce. Make him pay child support when the baby is born.
PS If you were to try to make the marriage work you have to be willing to accept the other woman in your life for the rest of your marriage because of the baby.
2006-08-16 11:43:32 · answer #2 · answered by lynda0322 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
This marriage is doomed. I wouldn't tolerate cheating, period! I figure it this way, if he can cheat once, whats to stop him from doing it again. Every cheater knows that their is a consequence for cheating. For a person to go through with cheating knowing the consequences, tells me they never had enough respect or love for me to begin with. Knowing he went through with his action not caring about the consequence is what would bother me. Expecting to get away with cheating, by the wife not finding out or figuring she will just forgive him and try to work it out. Cheating is where the line is drawn, at least for me. And staying together for the child is not healthy. I know plenty of adults who talk about a horrible childhood. How they witnessed their parents verbally and physically thrashing eachother, not too healthy.
My heart is aching for the wife. To have the blessing of her first child ruined by a cheating husband. I hope for her sake that she don't take him back for her and the babies well being. He chose this path, he chose to allow another woman between him and his wife. Now those consequences are starting to kick in. What is sad about this whole situation is the innocent children that will have to deal with this. Maybe not now but eventually.
As far as your question about if the marriage could work. It can only work if the wife truely forgives him and is willing to work hard on the marriage. But consider the resentment that she would harbor. She will always question him and always lack trust. Not the best for a marriage.
2006-08-16 11:44:57 · answer #3 · answered by zero 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
There's no hope. The wife should leave him!!!!!. I have a girlfriend whose boyfriend went from her to another woman for many years. He now have 14 children between the two women. As far as I know, it's still going on that way. Also, I just found out there's a third woman pregnant with her first by this guy.
2006-08-16 13:44:11 · answer #4 · answered by annays 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If I were the wife I would be really hurt, I think that both woman should keep their child and leave you or maybe the Mistress maybe she'd take you after all you both conceded in a very disrespectful manner maybe the both of you could work on that. What a despicable act! If I was your ex I would take your a$$ up for spousal support and child support and see how that husy makes off with your broke behind then................!!!!!!!!
2006-08-16 11:02:47 · answer #5 · answered by souljagirpart2 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I would leave him. Having a sexual affair is one thing but, this guy had a whole separate live with the other woman. The marriage is OVER. Both women should leave him. Even the children would be better off with no father than this father.
2006-08-16 10:59:28 · answer #6 · answered by M K 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I dont see how it could possibly work. I think at this point I as the wife would have to leave my husband and file for divorce. He is having a whole relationship with another woman. He may as well be a bigamist.
2006-08-16 11:04:39 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
the relationship would be over for me. He has been leading 2 lives and treating the wife with disrespect. I would divorce him and rather be a single happy mother than with a man like that! The marriage was over 10 months ago.
2006-08-16 11:10:35 · answer #8 · answered by nicole 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It could work only if you are prepared to accept the other woman cuz there's no way he's going to leave her now that she has gotten pregnant for him.
If you don't want to share your husband with this other woman, get out now. Spare yourself the heartache of having to listen to him explaining himself. There's nothing he can say that will make you trust him again. He's not going to erase this woman from his life, she has become a part of your family.
Leave him honey, he's not worth your time.
2006-08-16 11:22:50 · answer #9 · answered by b1ackeyze 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
from being in the same position.. I would say.. leave with your child (or throw him out).. do not stay with him... he's obviously a good liar and a cheater... you are better off without him... concentrate on you and you new baby.. he doesn't deserve you or his child...
If it had been a 1 time thing because he as drunk or whatever.. it could be forgivable.. but not this...
best of luck to you
2006-08-16 11:01:58 · answer #10 · answered by Lyne B 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋