I have been with my boyfriend for a yr and a half, and I have been away working abroad for two months. When I came back I found out that he had cheated not just once but three times. He had sex with two of them. It hurts so much because I love him and he is my best friend. He knows me inside and out and I thought that this was the one. But he just threw it all away in a month. My head is in a mess. He wants me back but I'm not sure. My head says run a mile and my heart says I love him. Also how can girls we know as a couple be happy to shag my boyfriend. I have just been stabbed in the back by people I know. It's crap. He says he still loves me but how can he.
2006-08-16 03:53:20 · 17 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Other - Family & Relationships
Hon, if he can't be faithful for 2 months while you are out making a living how do you think he is going to be as a husband?
Run....don't look back!
Good luck!
2006-08-16 03:59:09 · answer #1 · answered by Raspberry 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
once a cheater always a cheater i'm afraid, i was with a guy for three years n he was the love of my life. He cheated 3 times, he would say he loved me and wanted to spend the rest of his life with me but when offered on a plate he just couldn't say no. walking away from him was one of the hardest things i have ever done but i know if i hadn't i would have ended up a mess and not be the strong person i am now. as many times as you tell youself you can live with it, when it comes to the crunch you can't, it eats you up inside and go mad with jealously everytime they receive a text or are 10 minutes late. i wish you the best of luck in which ever decision you make xx
2006-08-16 04:05:28 · answer #2 · answered by simply_cjay 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
He just a typical bloke. They are mostly all like this. My ex-husband cheated on me after 22 years and I suspect I am still in shock, 13 years after our divorce. Get rid. Follow your head. Your heart will recover. I'd reconsider your friends as well. They don't sound worthy of the word 'friend' which is an honour that has to be earned I feel.
2006-08-16 04:20:27 · answer #3 · answered by Ladyfromdrum 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
from a guys POV - i'd say run, ok maybe a once drunken thing could only just be forgiven (i do not condone cheating in any way shape or form) but 3 times?? thats over the limit even if there is a limit, maybe you want him back but this is coming from me, i love my girlfriend soooooooooooooooo much i would never cheat on her,you deserve better, the amount of times he cheated was way out of order
2006-08-16 04:17:36 · answer #4 · answered by me-jus-me 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
i married my best friend and the only man i really loved,we were soul mates.I was warned about his past but he was always open and honest with me and we supported each other.we've had 2 lovely little girls and he has always assured me that he would never cheat or risk losing the loving wife and family he adores.
after ten years of marriage,i found out it was all a lie.he'd been cheating for years.The horrible things he's said and done pushed me to suicide,which thankfully failed.
I had doubts but ignored them because i loved him so much and beleived him.I would hate anyone to suffer like me and my family have.Listen to your head,you'll be glad in the future.
good luck x
2006-08-16 04:08:35 · answer #5 · answered by daren 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Sorry, hon. He's a cheater and you deserve so much better. 3 times just makes him a male whore. RUN. Everyday without him you will be rebuilding your self esteem and self worth. You'll have some painful days but just remember to look forward and never look back. He's a weakling. You don't need him. Here's to your healing.
2006-08-16 04:06:43 · answer #6 · answered by Sleek 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You should take him back, he's sorry and he will prove to you if he loves you. Clear your head for a while, then be friends and give him a chance. After all havent you ever cheated on anyone and then the relationship got so amazing you never wanted to leave?????. He was bored, drunk and horny, it was a mistake.
2006-08-16 14:00:06 · answer #7 · answered by rabid rabbit 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
This is sad but true - if hes cheated on you once then he will do it again. He will see it as you have let him off this time so you will let him off next time.
I know its painful but you gotta be strong and get out now.
Once a cheater always a cheater
2006-08-16 04:02:41 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
dont take him back, he will do it again, i know its hard but you are better than that. you will get over it after a while, it will hurt but sometimes these things are meant to be in life, you will pribably meet someone else! he probably missed you and was lonely but thats no excuse, Anyway you will always be thinking about him with those girls every time, go out and enjoy yourself with friends for awhile, then see how you feel! take care.
2006-08-16 04:02:25 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Run. Go damnit. You were only gone two months and he didn't do it just the once. Please don't take him back, you'll always live with a question over whether he is or isn't. especially when you go away again. I dont think you ddeserved it... well no one does. You can do so much better than that.
2006-08-16 04:01:14 · answer #10 · answered by rach 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋