I am a little younger than many of the mom's I come into contact with. I live in an upper middle class neighborhood and most of the other moms are older, and I feel like a clueless kid sometimes. I am 25, not 15 or anything. Maybe I am just sensitive- Are my hormones still kicking? If so, when does it end?
2006-08-16 03:39:26 · 13 answers · asked by G&L 3 in Pregnancy & Parenting ➔ Newborn & Baby
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2006-08-16 03:45:14 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 1⤋
I know the feeling! I was 26 when my son was born. All my friends already had kids and the "advice" was starting to give me a complex. I've decided that my son is happy, healthy, and so far a pretty good kid. So I can't be doing too bad as a mom. Let them stare or talk or whatever just remeber that YOU are the mom and no one will ever be more importent or better at your job then you are to your child. Being younger then the other moms means nothing other then you wanted to have babies when you were old enough to take care of them and still yourg enough to be a playmate too.
2006-08-16 04:42:47 · answer #2 · answered by Ethans Mom 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You and I are in the same boat. I'm 25 and feel the same way as you do. My daughter is now 7 months old and I still feel like a bad mom sometimes. I also know that my hormones are still kind of out of wack. Don't fret though. Many have told me that it will eventually goa away and as a nurse I know this to be true. I think as young mothers we just expect too much from ourselves. The fact that we are even worried about being bad mothers just b/c of our age, proves that we love our children very much and are in fact great mothers. Good Luck.
2006-08-16 03:47:31 · answer #3 · answered by DNY 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Yes it is partly hormones and partly that God-given humility that we all get when we become a mother and realize that this is a huge, life-long responsibility...we realize it's not about us anymore. But you know what? You have no reason to feel inferior. As long as you are doing the best that you know how to do, and you're doing right by your baby, don't worry about what others may think. I know that sounds easier said than done, but YOU ARE THE MOM. You know your baby better than anyone else, and so you are by definition, the expert. You can listen to what others say and the advice they try to give...but you can choose what to do with it. Most of my friends who are moms are older than me as well, and it's easy to feel like the "clueless" one in the bunch, especially when it's your first baby. I just had my daughter on June 1st and I can't tell you how many people, not just other mothers, but old people in the grocery store, people on the sidewalk, etc. have tried to tell me how to do my job. You're not alone. (I'm almost 28.) But also consider that although you may feel clueless and out of the loop, that maybe the other mothers aren't really judging you the way you think they are. I bet there's at least one mom in your area who is willing to meet you where you are and be a friend to you. Just keep pressing on; don't give up. Keep a weather eye out for moms who seem to be kind and friendly. And above all, remember YOU ARE NOT A BAD MOM. We all feel that way at times, and as one of my mom friends says, that feeling never goes away, so settle in LOL. Like I said, it's God's way of keeping us humble. You're never going to be perfect and neither am I but as long as we're doing our best, our kids are going to be just fine. We all make mistakes. Hey, I dropped my baby when she was about 3 weeks old...she was sleeping on my chest and I was sleeping too and forgot she was there...I went to roll over on my side and she slid right off onto the floor! It was a harrowing experience for me but she was absolutely fine and my doctor laughed when I told her and said I'd been "initiated" into motherhood. It happens to all of us. You're doing fine. And if you ever need a listening ear, drop me a line at dianne90578@yahoo.com. I'm going thru similar stuff so maybe we can encourage each other! :-) God bless.
2006-08-16 04:28:46 · answer #4 · answered by peachy78 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I felt the same way. I always thought we weren't doing enough for our kids compared to the other kids. We didn't give them expensive toys, or let them go to some fancy places like others. But now they are 14, 17 and 19 and are just fine. I was a first-time mom at 27. I always thought I was the oldest mom in the room. Of course I wasn't. Our kids turned out fine and yours will too. Good luck.
2006-08-16 03:59:15 · answer #5 · answered by kitten lover3 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I feel the same way! I got to a playgroup and all the parents there are much older. I'm 20. I get really paranoid that they're looking down on me. My daughter is 8 months old and I'm just getting to the point that I don't care, because I know I'm a good mom.
2006-08-16 03:46:53 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Maybe you are comparing yourself a little too much to the other mothers. Every mother is different and if you are loving and caring for you child then your not a bad mom! Everybody has a different parenting technique and just because yours may be different than the "elders" doesnt mean that it's not the right way for you. Hold your head up high and be proud of the way you are raising your child, and if the other moms criticize you just politely tell them " I am raising my child the way I want him/her to be raised but thank you for your suggestion."
2006-08-16 07:52:22 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
You are not a bad mom, and stop feeling like a bad mom. Your age have nothing to do with your feelings. Hormones will always be kicking around, especially around your menstrual cycles. You are going to be a great mom. You are not like some women out there, my godson's mother included, who beat, starve or neglect their children. Just be the best that you can be.
2006-08-16 03:52:04 · answer #8 · answered by karma 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I think you are just sensitive. 25 is a perfect age to have a child! If you already had the baby and more than two weeks have passes since delivery, you might be suffering from post-partum depression and should call your dr. right away and get treatment. Good luck and I'm sure you're a good mother, just try to take it easy.
2006-08-16 03:50:35 · answer #9 · answered by Baby_latina 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You might be suffering from a little post partum depression. If you dont feel like a competent mom, that's natural as it's all new to you. Can you join a group with other moms like baby gymboree where you can talk about your concerns with other moms?
2006-08-16 03:46:36 · answer #10 · answered by Donna Lu 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
wELL i'm not a doctor or any thing,but I can tell you hormones can do alot to a new mom.I was married at 16 and had my first child at 17.Believe me I went through ups and downs,It doesn't mean your a bad mom,its your body trying to get used to the new change.IT WILL PASS!Give it a while if you still feel unsure of yourself see your doctor.
2006-08-16 03:54:42 · answer #11 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋