OK ME AND HUBBY HAD BEEN GOING THROUGH ALOT ALEAYS FIGHTING HE GOT CAUGHT CHEATING I FORGAVE HIM AND DROPPED IT I QUIT FIGHTING AND I ACT LIKE NOTHING HAPPENED HES DOING REAL GOOD HE COMES HOME I CAN CHECK HIS PHONE ITS LIKE ME ABOUT TO LEAVE HIM SCARED HIM STRAIGHT I DONT FIGHT I DONT EVEN BRING IT UP THE PROBLEM IS HE THINKS IM CHEATING HE WAS ABOUT TO CRY LAST NIGHT OVER THIS ALSO HE DOESNT WANT TO GO ON HIS BUSSINESS TRIP BC HE SCARED OF WHAT IM GOING TO DO ANY ADVICE PLS HELP I LOVE HIM AND IM TRYING TO MOVE ON
2006-08-16 03:30:42 · 30 answers · asked by greyeyebeauty81 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
I think that the problem is that you are trying to pretend that nothing happened. If you are really willing to forgive him, you must really forget about what happened. It is hard to forget when your loved one has cheated on you, but in order for things to get better between you and your partner, it is better for you to leave behind what he did to you.
If you really love him, give him another chance but do it from the bottom of your heart. If you find out you really can't, let him know. Maybe he will understand and give you sometime. Maybe the best would be for both to go on your separate ways, maybe that would be the best solution instead of making both of you suffer.
Good luck!
2006-08-16 03:46:50 · answer #1 · answered by metztli99 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I know exactly whats going on in your mans head. When he cheated and you found out he didn't think it would be that easy for you to forgive him and when you did he thinks there is a hidden agenda behind your quick forgivness.
He feels the guilt of cheating on you and with your quick forgivness he feels you will do the same as a pay back. He knows he probably deserves that from you ,but he still loves you and doesnt want to lose you to another or the thought of you with another man. Tell him you love him,that you have forgivin him and that it is not you to ever cheat....that it is just not you and if you were to get even with him that wouldn't be the way to do it! Tell him that you are trying to forgive and forget and that he should do the same if he wants the two of you to ever be happy again ! good luck
2006-08-16 03:48:19 · answer #2 · answered by moon_girl 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
if u have truly forgiven him then u need to show him that u trust him again. ease up on checking his phone ect. trust is a major thing in a relationship and if u dont trust him then u should end it now before its gets worse. its going to be hard to regain his trust again its the once bitten twice shy syndrome but if u truly want this to work then u have to let go of the past and work on the future.explain to him that u arent cheating , but u are scared he may start again and u simply wont go through that again .why not suggest u go along on this trip with him if u can it may do the two of u good to get away from things .
2006-08-16 03:40:29 · answer #3 · answered by kikiaboo29 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Stop policing one another and give space to each other freedoms. Being married doesnt mean close eyes for everything good around except the spouse. If someone wants to cheat they will always find a way. I wouldnt waste my time in present worrying about a possibility in future.
2006-08-16 03:37:54 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
he's just guilty...he's going to have to get over it himself...sit down n be serious....tell him he should be lucky that ur not acting like this....u r being brave and putiing it behind u ( I could never do that) thats a lot of respect...u need to be open so he feels comfortable...the feeling of someone trying to get back at u is scary...he's just scared....and its a good thing bc wht he realized wht he did was wrong and this shows he honestly didnt mean it....just talk to him ...give him a hug and a kiss and tell him ur not going anywhere....if it makes him happy go on the trip....i would
2006-08-16 03:36:15 · answer #5 · answered by chaand5 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
He is feeling guilty and may even be feeling like you are going to try and get back at him for his cheating. Sit your husband down and explain that you have forgiven him and that you have no desire to cheat. Explain that you would not want him to have to go through the pain he put you through and that you want to work on the marriage.
2006-08-16 03:43:24 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
of course he is scared you will cheat. he has done it to you and he has a very guilty conscience. it's like when you do something behind your mates back and then you think they are doing the same thing. except it is okay for you to do ,but not your mate. he will get over it. it just takes time. you are more than a woman that i am. i don't think i could forgive my hubby for that. it is the ultimate disgrace.
2006-08-16 03:37:54 · answer #7 · answered by ? 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
thats hard. He thinks your going to cheat because of what he did. i had an ex that was the same way. All you can do is try to convince him that you love him, and two wrongs dont make a right.
2006-08-16 03:36:40 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
This sounds harsh, but this will NOT get any better. You need to move on. Your man should not ever make you cry or not trust you. Leave while you can and find a man who will love you for who you are and believe you when you tell him something.
2006-08-16 03:35:17 · answer #9 · answered by TropicalSun 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Try counseling, cheating and thinking of cheating is a tough thing to get over. Best of luck.
2006-08-16 03:35:12 · answer #10 · answered by theoldguy 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋