My man is always telling me that i kiss,hug,love,feed and cater to my kids to much and it always seems to end up in an arguement. I never let a day go by that i don't tell my twins and my 16yr old that i love them and that their the best/great handsome/beatiful or smart we are a very loving family always has been and always will be. If i give them dinner at six o'clock and put them to bed at eight and their hunrgy at nine i will fix them something light to eat and that will cause an arguement. I just can't let them go to sleep hunrgy. I will never deniy my kids food! WHAT DO YOU THINK!!! I don't do all of the above with my 16yr old he said he is to old for all that stuff.LOL
2006-08-16 03:29:28 · 9 answers · asked by dj 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Other - Family & Relationships
YES! your right BB Ido have balance in my house they have choirs and i do have limites and they are still spoiled. I won't have it any other way.
2006-08-16 03:52:10 · update #1
No, absolutely nothing is wrong. It would be wrong not to do that. I think your man is all wrong. The only exception could be about feeding, but only if they have some problems with their weight.
About «spoiled» children... No love spoils children. It is natural that young children are not disciplined and responsible, you cannot expect them to act like grown-ups. Sounds logical, doesn't it? While growing up, they will learn how to be both responsible and disciplined. But you won't teach them anything by punishments – that won't make them understand anything, they can just do or not do certain things in order to avoid punishment (or get a reward). The only way to really teach them something is to be a good example for them and to love them as much as you can. So, you are doing just the right thing. Just keep on with that!!!
2006-08-17 07:00:44 · answer #1 · answered by Venus 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
There is NOTHING wrong with being loving and affectionate with your children. That's what parents are supposed to do. What a twit that man is. Why is he around?? Sounds like he is jealous. NOW...as to giving them food if they get up. A snack maybe, a couple of crackers and some milk, but not a meal. You'll end up with children that are fat. It does not hurt anyone to go to bed a little hungry...that is the body using the nutrients that are put into it. It's natural. Besides, they shouldn't be getting up anyway.
2006-08-16 10:39:06 · answer #2 · answered by blondee 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
with how passionate your "question" is i must say that i am afraid to answer for risk of me getting my a s s handed to be through the computer but i have a nephew and he is surrounded by the attention of 5 grown females 24/7 and we noticed that lately he has thought that he can get anything he wants if he just cries for it even though it sounds like the worlds fakest cry ever and they cater to it every time, what im saying is just watch out and dont let your children believe that they can always get what they want every time what you should do if you do want to always cater to them is give it balance like during the day they can have jobs to do around the house then it will be truly balanced and they know that they should and can be realy helpfull as well and have little rewards too
2006-08-16 10:40:56 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Keep loving your children as much as you can everyday. If your man thinks this he might be a little jealous of them or that his mom never was like this. Either way who cares. Do your children deserve any less just because he thinks you should love them differently. I'll answer that. NO. They will be gone before you know it and at least you don't have to worry about them wondering if you love them. It will also help them be more loving in there relationships.
2006-08-16 10:41:18 · answer #4 · answered by sonsweeney 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
HECK NO!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!! I am gonna kiss and hug on my kids for the rest of my life. (no not in a perverted way you sickos) only a parent knows what she is saying. I remember the first time that I ever held my kids and it is probably the most powerful feeling in the world. I LOVE THEM more than my own life and I try to show them. There is no pain or suffering including death that I would not suffer for them. So lady kiss 'em, hug 'em and love 'em. Did you ever hear any one say, "Man, I wish my parents did not love me so much..." So I give you kudos....
2006-08-16 10:39:45 · answer #5 · answered by 57chevy 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I think that you are being a mother. And if he cannot deal with that then he needs to pack his rags and ease on down the road. He is jealous over the attention that you give to your kids. I would tell him deal with it or get the heck out.
2006-08-16 10:36:21 · answer #6 · answered by 2fine4u 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
There is absolutely nothing wrong with that. Is this man the father of your children? If not, you need to lose him. Your children come first and foremost before any man.
2006-08-16 10:41:14 · answer #7 · answered by gemone523 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
There is never TOO MUCH loving, hugging, kissing or holding your children. Does he have any children of his own? I'd tell him how it is and if he doesn't like it....give him the boot.
2006-08-16 10:59:43 · answer #8 · answered by RJLightning 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
No, you can't do it enough you're children are taken care of and loved and that's in a mothers nature. Maybe he didn't get all of that love from his mother
2006-08-16 10:36:01 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋