relationship question - whats next?

Question

i posted a question yesterday asking what i should do next, (as my long distance relationship is going/gone bad) anyhow... i said to my girl, about talking things over, and said to write things down so when im home we talk, but it didnt feel like she did, she said couple things.. and i did all the talkin, at times i would stop and ask her what shes thinkin, cuz i didnt wanna be the one holding the whole conversation, and then i asked her about the ... what she looks like issue i have, and she got upset quick (the reason is weve never seen in person) i understand me sayin i dont belive what she looks like would upset her, but i also explained i dont care it would hurt more that she lied then shes not pretty or simular... i care/love her for who she is, not what she looks like, but she doesnt try to find a way to prove it, she has vid phone but wont do a vid.. and its like i dont know what to do.. she got real upset and i js dont understand why the lie would be there.. im not that mean.

Answer 1

Its more than her looks now....it becomes an issue of dis-honesty and that is the foundation to all relationships....for her to admit and reveal her dis-honesty is dooming her fantasy of how she has presented herself to you...and how you have reacted by her descriptive conversation...she probably knows at best you will be friends but she wants more than that...but what she needs to come to reality with is...she isn't more than that and needs to accept herself as she is.

Answer 2

It sounds to me like you've done all you can do. You have a right to know who it is you're involved with and the fact that she won't give you any more info should make you suspicious. You don't really know who or what you're dealing with. Maybe you should give yourself some time and let her decide if she wants to come clean with you. If she can't, you can't trust her and that's no way to be in a relationship. Good luck.