Boyfriend's mothers.?

Question

Ok, i'm 2 1/2 months pregnant. When my boyfriend found out he was happy about it and accepted it. We had started to make plans and everything was going good. Just over a week ago we told his mom that i'm pregnant. She seemed ok with it and kept saying "I hope it's a girl!" A couple days later my boyfriend went over there to help fix her lawn mower and when he got back he was really distant to me but I didnt really think anything of it, I just went to bed. He came in and layed down and told me he can't handle having a baby and wants me to get an abortion. I flipped. I can't do that. Then him and I worked it out and I wasnt going to get one. On Sunday we went to his mom's place and she asked him if we were keeping it, he said we are. Then she started on me saying im ruining his life and everything he had planned for himself. Im being selfish keeping this baby, and all I want to do is play house. Also she is saying that I planned this to trap him. Now he wants to abortion again......

Answer 1

its not about him and his mom. its about your son or daughter.im pregnant in the military/fthood and im 19 years old. my boyfriend is a higher rank than me. he would have gotten in trouble if they knew, and once we told our chain of command we did. but i refused to get an abortion like he asked. i knew i could never intentionally harm my baby.and beleive it or not i was 2 1/2 months pegnant whe this was going on.i finally came out and said. stay with me or not......ill never kill my daughter or son. later that week i had a threatened mistcarriage. i cant even begin to describe t you how lost i felt. how amazingly alone and upset i was. i almost lost my baby because i didnt want to tell my chain of cammand i was preg so he wouldnt get in trouble and i ran 5 miles and i was 3 months preg at the time. weither he wants to help you with the baby or not.......thats your child...a part of you. you know whats right and wrong , and you know deep down right at this moment what losing your baby would do to you. i was married a while back ( just got a divorce)and my mother in law as the same way. **** her. its not her life to decide to keep a child or not.how does she have the right to say for you to kill your baby because she doesnt want her son to be a dad...last time i checked...it takes 2 to get preg. it was his doing as well as yours, if he doesnt want to accept it ....his loss. but after i told him that i almost had a miscarriage.............he cried. ive never seen that man cry before. not in one year that we have been together has he ever cried...and he weeped like a child, and this man is an NCO, old guard.....Drill SGT in training. he just cried.....and now i cry at night sometimes for even risking my babys life because i didnt want him to get in trouble. dont you ever feel like anything should come between you and your baby. people will accept you.....or not...but either way i can tell you from expeirience......if it came down to it....i would have gave up my boyfriend and anyone else who wouldnt accept me for her. and its not even my right to say weither you should keep it or not. but all i can say with every emotion i could possibly have.......you know what to do...dont let them influence you....and dont be afraid to lose your boyfriend......because i can tell you losing your child is much more scaring and painful...because it almost happened to me........now im 8 months pregnant with a beautiful baby girl. im due in late oct. and i dont regret anything about her. ive never even seen her and ive never loved anyone more in my life. you know what to do...your just a little to scared to do it right now thats all....but trust me.....TRUST YOUR INSTINCTS AND FORGET HIS MOM! when he hold him/ her he'll regret ever thinking about killing him/her. trust me......if you would like to talk i would be more than happy to help my yahoo i.m is vbeach_bunnie and my myspace display name is amanda and im from killeen texas

Answer 2

I lost my mother at an early age, 9. I can relate to the little brother's pain. Just tell both of them that if there is anything you could do to comfort them that you are available. Your boyfriend may be going through some personal trials he had with his mother--his emotions will be all over the place. Time does heal, though. I know that may seem untrue today, but just be there for them both. You don't have to really say anything except to comfort them with a smile or a hug. You deserve a star for this question. You all deserve hugs..

Answer 3

OMG its deja vu. I was 18 and engaged to my now ex husband when I got pregnant. It was not easy telling our parents but mine took it pretty well, but his mother went wacko. She started yelling and screaming at me, telling me I was a whore, I was going to ruin his life, I should go have an abortion, I got pregnant intentionally to trap him, I heard it all. I left the house sobbing and started to walk the 3 and a half miles home. He followed in his car and picked me up that's when I realized that HE came after me and that was what mattered. I'm assuming you're both young. If you want to keep your baby then there is no other option, all you can do is hope that he will stick by your side. My ex did and we have 2 happy boys together even though our marriage didn't work out we still are both excellent parents and are raising our children together. As for his mother, once she saw her beautiful grandson she was hooked, and still is after 11 years of spoiling him rotten, taking phone calls at 3 am when he was crying. Let everyone get over the initial shock and things will calm down. Congrats on the new little one you're bringing into the world.

Answer 4

Being 2 1/2 months pregnant is a very difficult time to even think about getting an abortion, it's already getting to a point that most doctor's won't do it, so you MUST decide soon!

If you really don't want an abortion (which I would advise that you do consider, especially if you are young), think about how it would be to become a single mom with an angry "grandmother", and distant "father" as your support system. What do you really want out of your own life? If you have this child, it will be not just a baby! It will be a toddler, pre-schooler, child, and teenager. Think hard about this, but make a decision based only on what YOU can handle, not what he thinks, or his mom. Good luck in whatever you do. God bless you.

Answer 5

First of all how old are you? Also do you understand and realize that when you are not married to the father you will not always be together. It is very rare that a couple who is not married will stay together. I had my son with a boyfriend and the same **** happend and then his dad cheated on me and is now gone and my poor son has to put up with the fact that his dad is not around!

I dont think you should get an abortion but if you are young look into adoption there are tons of people out there that can;t have children. And would love to raise your baby! Otherwise Have the baby and realize that it will be hard and if people are not ecepting the child now they might not ever. So I would just plan then to do it alone!

Answer 6

If you don't want to get an abortion, you don't have to get one! I'm pretty sure it's against the law to force someone to get an abortion. You have to make the best of a bad situation! You need to try to work things out with him first and then try to make peace with his mother. Right now his mom is being a *****. Give her some time to calm down and then talk to her nicely and tell her you don't want to end an innocent baby's life just because you can't seem to get along. That isn't fair to the baby! At the moment your biggest priority is the future child. If necessary you may need to break up with your boyfriend but don't do that until you're SURE you can't work it out.

Answer 7

Theres nothing more precious than a child you concieve. For me Ive been trying to have but I haven't had. Pregnancy happens because God puts a miricle inside of you and the gift comes out. A child is a beutiful gift. Dont let no one tell you no different his mom is just jeoulus. Her son is probably the only one. If he dont start getting out of her house and being a man how can you get your life together. Best thing he can do is support you. If he doesn't want this baby thats fine. Lots of women do it on there own and dont have a need for a man. He either takes it your way of keeping the baby or he can leave. Hes obvious not mature enough to take on this responsibility. He made the baby with you and now when he gets older you can have him pay child support.

Answer 8

How old are you? That would be a big deciding factor. Kids aren't just cute things like pets. When you have a kid you are working for it and taking care of it the rest of your life. They can be great but if you're too young or are not ready for one they can drain you for the rest of your life. Especially when they become teenagers and don't appreciate a thing you've done for them and say hateful things. It makes you think "this is what I spent most of my life struggling to raise? Letting go of my dreams so I could raise this child?" I'm just saying think long and hard about your decision. Especially if the guy doesn't want it and your stuck raising it alone. Its tough! If the guy does stay around, his family will be a problem, if not you're on your own. If you do decide to abort, dump the guy after. Sounds like he isn't mature enough to make decisions on his own or be responsible.

Answer 9

let me tell you a short story in reply to your question.
At 16 I met my high school sweet heart. He was 15. We are now 26. We broke up one time before because he put his very large family before me. If they felt something should be done a certain way, regardless of what it was (small or little) he would always choose his family. And you know, that's no problem we were young.
But now we have a 2 year old daughter. His family decided we should get married, that our baby should be Catholic, that we should live with his parents while we save money to buy a home, and they also wanted to feed my daughter the food they thought was appropriate for her age. They even cut my daughter's hair when I was trying to grow it out. So the moral to the story, if your man doesn't support you when you need him most, when will he?

Answer 10

My best advice: if it were me I'd leave him NOW TODAY. I'd MOVE out and let him know with or without him your baby is COMING into the world he dose not have to play daddy "he will pay child support." I'd tell his mom you left him & you don't wanna trap him or play house and you will do it without him! Tell her she can kiss your butt! i'ld stand up 4 my kid I WOULD LEAVE a guy who still lets mommy tell him how to live. My boyfriend is 34 i'm pregnant with his 1st he was not happy i got pregnant i told him he was free to WALK out and in fact don't stay if that's how he wanted it to be but no matter what he chose his baby will be born he can BE there or anywhere else he choices to be. He stayed and is getting so hapy about our son now he gose to all appoitments saw the ultersound and is being great. Even if he walked i would have not done anything diffrent "we are both a lot older then you i'm sure". You don't have to be older to know whats RIGHT.

Answer 11

No No No No! Do not get an abortion just because he is selfish. It is your decision and your body! If he doesnt want it, then he doesnt have to be there. But he slept with you and needs to face the consequences. He can pay child support. And this is nothing like playing house. This is real life. His mom needs to grow up. Obviously she is the one who cannot handle a child.