My husband had several internet affairs a few years ago. I finally started trusting him again and told him I was falling in love with him again so he needed to be very careful what he did so he didn't hurt me again. Because I was scared to just let go and trust him, I started checking on him. I found out he lied to me about knowing some woman online and have suspisions he was planning on meeting her for a beer while he was out-of-town. Now what? We have been married for 11 years and have two children. He will not admit anything except he lied to me about knowing her. So, do I try to work on this marriage and take the chance he is going to hurt me yet again or do I call it quits?
2006-08-16 02:59:03 · 9 answers · asked by jo 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
stop fooling yourself. unfotunately you have kids in this situation, but you should never stay for the kids. You need to decide if you want to stay with a liar and cheat. if not, kick his a*& out! you kids will be better off in the long run. less stress and unhappiness.
2006-08-16 03:03:32 · answer #1 · answered by mml619 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
You have to get to the bottom of this. If you don't know the thuth then you will always be suspicious. If he doesn't 'fess up and ackowledges the pain that he has caused you, then you cannot get over this...This is an unresolved issue and it won't go away if you both keep ignoring it, if anything, is going to eat you alive.
You have to talk to him, no matter how long is has been since that happened tell him that you need to know the truth. You may even try marriage counselling so you can once and for all close that episode on your life and move on with your life and marriage.
Good luck
2006-08-16 10:05:03 · answer #2 · answered by Blunt 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
hey what a min? before you start taking advice from people who say just quit. Remember there is a reason why you married this man right? because you love him. Its been a fre years now since the internet affiars have been going on. Give him the benifit of the doubt. Wither he is or hes not, your might have scared him when you found out what he was doing so badly that he wont htink about doing it again. Also, what is your relationship with him like? I mean romance wize, sex wize, life wize, if you are truly falling in love with him again then you work this out too, just like last time, just dont give up .
2006-08-16 10:11:37 · answer #3 · answered by justwaitingtoleave 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I'm faced with the same type of situation. Personally, I am sick to death of the lies and crying all the time because I've been hurt once again. I've been out of work for over a year but I'm going to find another job, and soon, and get the hell out of here.
2006-08-16 10:10:11 · answer #4 · answered by blustang04 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Sweetie sometimes we have to stop lying to ourselves and let sleeping dog lye. Don't stay for the SAKE of the children because if mommy's not happy the kids know it. You are probably sad or angry all the time. You probably have had misplaced anger and took it out on them. How is that good for the kids.
You may have to rebuild your life on your own. Be strong, you can do it.
2006-08-16 10:09:03 · answer #5 · answered by Dancer3d 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Quits girl!!If he doesn't learn the 1st time get rid of him!The 1st time he should have noticed your hurt and pain and never wanted to do it again!!That's not love!!If you feel he is all you know because after all ya'll have been together for 11yrs,run down the law to him(so to speak).Tell him he's hurting you and you have a fragile heart that is in his palm and if he crushes it you will have to let him go!Be strong for you and yourr children,you are a woman and you dn't deserve to be mistreated,goodluck!!!!!!
2006-08-16 10:06:39 · answer #6 · answered by None 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
RUN away from this guy and fast. Get a private detective or something to get the good on him and make sure you get alimony and child support.
That is how my friend lost her husband and father of their 3 kids.
2006-08-20 07:10:25 · answer #7 · answered by logcabindreaming 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Once a cheat always a cheat!!!!you should be with sby you trust and not have to worry about all the time!!!how many times has he cheated??or more importantly how many times will he cheat on you again??call it quits!!!
2006-08-16 10:31:09 · answer #8 · answered by ....FED UP............ 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
What happen to "love, honer and chaise each other until death do us apart"Three strikes and YOUR out brother.Something missing here ??
2006-08-16 10:14:52 · answer #9 · answered by D Grass 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋