My husband was the most caring loving person I've ever known. That is, before marriage and 5 kids. When we are alone, we are wonderful together, but as a family we are constantly at odds. He has devloped an anger management problem. We have been to counseling together and he has seen a doctor who has put him on meds, but he only takes the pills once in a while. I feed off of his anger and the kids feed off the negativity.
2006-08-16 02:58:26 · 5 answers · asked by Koozie 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
My husband is not a violant man and has never raised a hand to me or our children.
2006-08-17 03:16:28 · update #1
I have been and I am in your situation. My ex used to beat the hell out of me because he didn't take his meds so I dumped him. I am now married to a mostly wonderful guy who is very hard working a a good provider but he doesn't take his meds either. He doesn't hit me or our children but we fight a lot. He has depression and ADHD and if he doesn't take his meds he's a jerk. He loses his patience and yells a lot at me and my kids and we fight a lot because of it. I have a daughter from my previous relationship and I think my husband resents her because he hates my ex. i am now considering marriage counseling to work through this and I recommend some kind of therapy for you and your husband. Best of luck!
2006-08-16 03:10:56 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
My family has been in this situation. My dad had/has anger problems and it was towards my mother; whenever my dad sees/hears something he doesn't agree with, he gets mad and/or violent. When he gets mad he'll usually call names, say put-downs, break things (even if it's mother's), and he'll raise his voice and it lowered my mother's self-esteem and scared her a lot; my dad wasn't like this before my younger brother (13) and sister (12) was around (aka. wasn't yet). Mother couldn't take it anymore; so she had the 4 of us; including me, to move to a DV shelter so that we'll be safe from him, also with a restraining order.
This will help if his anger gets out of control and/or if it gets too violent.
Here's some tips [just incase if violence occurs]:
(1) find a shelter to get away from violence
(2) train your kids using the 911 procedure
(3) issue a restraining order
(4) tell a neighbor (next door if possible) that you trust; if they hear any kind of violence if his anger is out of control, he can call 911.
(5) be prepared
(as of caution: make sure he doesn't see/read this)
Hope this finds helpful
2006-08-16 18:53:20 · answer #2 · answered by Garrett L 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well if he doesnt do anything about it soon, then his anger could turn into something physical. Tell him that he needs to take his meds before this happens.
2006-08-16 03:11:53 · answer #3 · answered by baby_luv 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I'd boot him out and not subject me and my kids to his anger. My kids would mean more to me than he ever would.
2006-08-16 03:04:26 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
that is really sad. i feel for you and your kids. if he is not going to take his meds regularly then he needs to leave. it is not healthy for the kids. they will grow up and be just like him. it will be a viscious circle.
2006-08-16 03:05:32 · answer #5 · answered by mml619 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋