i have a nightboor in my age she thinks that i'm her friend she is always in my home with me i have a programme for my day i can't follow it because she is always with me well i can tell "go away i'm not ur friend" but i'm not rude so i want to tell her that but nicely
2006-08-16 02:47:11 · 35 answers · asked by sherna 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Friends
simple just avoid
2006-08-24 00:12:54 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Lock the door. When she knocks, pretend your not at home or in the shower. Don't answer the phone. Or you can be upfront with her, which is probably best. If you don't tell her, she may not get the hint. You can try avoiding her and if that doesn't work then try talking to her. You can talk to her without being rude. You can say something like I have alot of things I need to do right now, do you mind? Or you can say I have a routine that I follow everyday and I can't do it when your here. Or you can tell her that your not looking for a friend right now.
2006-08-16 02:57:32 · answer #2 · answered by Xena 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You can always let her know, in a nice manner, that you have things to do and would she perhaps come back some other time or if you really do not like her, than I think you should tell her so. If you do not enjoy her company, how will she know, if you do not tell her? So pluck up your courage and tell her politely that you cannot spend all your time with her.
2006-08-24 02:06:22 · answer #3 · answered by aew2004 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Tell her you enjoy her company, but you're not getting anything accomplished and you need more time to devote to your work. Ask her if she would consider getting together several times a week - maybe in the evenings to go see a movie or go out to eat. That way the both of you could enjoy your time together more....you would be free to visit, and she wouldn't have to sit there and watch you doing housework. (Or whatever)
Unless of course you really don't like this girl at all. In which case honesty would still apply. Simply tell her you don't believe the two of you have anything in common and you would rather be the kind of neighbor who waves and smiles at a distance.
You can be truthful, but say what you have to say with kindness.
2006-08-16 02:56:07 · answer #4 · answered by CassandraM 6 · 0⤊ 1⤋
You tell her you need space and your life back,you want to follow your own programme alone,if she want to join,say no,don't give in
Remind her that you are just neighbour,nothing more,make a clear remark,that you guys are neighbour but not friend,better make a clear cut about it because you don't explode at the sudden,you have limits,
2006-08-23 12:55:02 · answer #5 · answered by Janet Y 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well, you could tell her, Now you are a really nice person and, but i have stuff to do and i cant do it when you are allways over here. Umm and dont take this the wrong way, but i dont see you as really the best friend to hang out with so much, and i would appreciate it if maybe we could limit our visits a bit. well, try that anyways.
2006-08-21 12:35:59 · answer #6 · answered by 2kewl4skewl 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Tell her that you appreciate her coming and spending time with you but you need some alone time to take care of some of your daily routines. Apparently she likes to be with you. That says allot about you. I always say, "You never have too many friends". Give her a chance. You never know. She just might be there when you need someone to talk to. Take Care.
2006-08-16 02:59:11 · answer #7 · answered by crm2662 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
How about...."Why don't we meet up every Saturday and go out? I am kind of busy during the weekdays and have other plans with my friends. What do you think?"
And if she ask you to bring her along to meet your friends...well... you can be brutally honest and tell her that she's not your friend or you can say, "I need my space and i know you are capable of making better friend than me."
Well, something like that i guess.
All the best!
2006-08-24 02:51:58 · answer #8 · answered by shopaholic 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Easy. Rather than receive her grudgingly. Be honest. Just explain that you have things to do, and that you rather that she comes around when it is convenient for you. Perhaps suggest a day and a time that she can come around.
If she is worth your friendship, she would respect your honesty.
There is nothing wrong being upfront. She may not even know that she has been annoying and unwelcome. Perhaps you showed her that you welcome her visit! If you pretended that you welcome her each time she called into your home, then it is your fault for sending the wrong message.
2006-08-24 02:35:14 · answer #9 · answered by joeblog 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
don't be rude, that's bad but don't make it hard for do go on w/ your daily life w/ a major hassle. there's a lot of ways in saying things that you truly wants, do it in a polite manner, in a very nice way that she won't even notice that you wanna be left alone. it's your presentation that will count in executing this. OR in a situation like tis one, i'd rather make her useful-- ask you to help you out in whatever it is you are doing.
2006-08-23 19:34:32 · answer #10 · answered by dong 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
explain to her that she is messing up your program/schedule that u have and is trying to stick to. She can't just come over when she wants. She could at least call before coming. U don't have to be rude about it just honest.
2006-08-24 00:19:53 · answer #11 · answered by Baby T 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋