I gave my husband a choice either Me and my son Collin or his girlfriends. Of course he picked me and Collin. But I dont know how I will know if he will still talk to them or not. He erases everything out of his phone and changed his password on Sprint. So I dont know how I can keep an eye on him to make sure he is doing what I want him to do. Any advice????
2006-08-16 02:32:01 · 19 answers · asked by KANDACE 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
IF YOU FEEL YOU NEED TO KEEP AN EYE ON HIM, THEN YOU NEED TO SEND HIM PACKING. IF THERES NO TRUST THERES NO RELATIONSHIP.
2006-08-16 02:37:52 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
If he erases his phone and changed his password so you can't get into it, you can bet he's still talking to them and just telling you what you want to hear. Been there, done that. Did you ask him why he changed the password and what the new one is? You'll probably get some stupid reason that makes no sense and if something doesn't make sense it usually isn't so. He's calling your bluff cuz he didn't take what you said seriously.
2006-08-16 10:27:08 · answer #2 · answered by blustang04 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
How come there are so many women asking this same question online everyday. You know he is still cheating. He has his cute little family at home, then he goes out with his cute little girlfriend. I have to put it this way. Stay if you like the abuse, then teach your son it is okay for daddy to disrespect mommy, so he can learn it is okay to cheat on his significant others some day.
OR Get a spine, get some proof of his indiscretions, hire an attorney, get him out of the house, file for custody and divorce. Maybe even alimony. Move on. Get counselling for you and son. Find you a Real Man who loves, respects, and cares for your son and you.
Good Luck!
2006-08-16 09:41:25 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
There is no way to keep an eye on him unless your by his side 24/7. If he said he would give up his girlsfriends then it is up to him to keep his word. All you can do is hope he will. From experience, once a cheater always a cheater, but there is the rare cases that once caught twice shy. Your confronting him as you have may be enough for him to see what he stands to lose and keep him faithful from now on. Good luck to you
2006-08-16 10:06:43 · answer #4 · answered by sassywv 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You shouldn't be monitoring him. I understand why you are, you'd rather know ahead of time if there's trouble but it's not a good idea. He'll just be upset with you whether he's up to something or not. If he is cheating still there will be other signs. I'm sure you know what they are from before. If he screws up again leave him, if you can't trust him you can't have a relationship with him. It's not that simple but it is that simple at the same time.
2006-08-16 10:02:09 · answer #5 · answered by ladyg 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It sounds like you don't trust him anymore. That is a good idea! You used "girlfriends" as in many of them. This is not something that is going to stop. It wasn't just one time - it was many times with many women.
You make the decision. Do you trust him enough to not check up on him? If you do, then don't worry about the cell records.
But why would a man who is doing nothing wrong need to erase his records? Think about it.
I would never have stayed with him as long as you have. I would not want my children growing up knowing that their dad was cheating on their mom.
2006-08-16 09:47:21 · answer #6 · answered by physandchemteach 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
He sounds like a bit of a rat bag. Are you sure you want to live like that? If he has had multiple girlfriends then it is unlikely that he is going to change just because you asked him.
If you trust him completely, you shouldn't have to keep an eye on him.
Try setting up on your own, you may be happier without the worry and trauma of his affairs
2006-08-16 09:39:20 · answer #7 · answered by Elmo 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
He is hiding and keeping secrets from you. You dont have to keep an eye on him, just leave him. In a relationship/marriage (even more) there should not be any secrets between husband and wife. There should be an open communication between spouses. If he is hiding things from you, there is no point in spying, its obvious that he is cheating on you. I am sorry. Good luck.
2006-08-16 09:43:43 · answer #8 · answered by Farah_Z 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
He's not going to change. He is who he is and you need to accept that. You can either go along with it and continue share your husband with his girlfriends... or you can leave him. I am a firm believer in trying to make things work out... but cheating is grounds for divorce in my book. You deserve to be respected! He's not respecting you by sneaking around with other women.
2006-08-16 09:43:33 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Sorry but he's not going to give the other women up and you don't need to keep an eye on him to know that. He's more afraid of you divorcing him and hitting him with child support.
2006-08-16 09:49:14 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
If he's erasing everything out of his phone and changed his password, he's not doing what you want him to do. People with nothing to hide... don't hide.
2006-08-16 09:38:11 · answer #11 · answered by Avid 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋