Does the realization that you are carrying something of someone else (the father) make you feel even more attached to the father?
2006-08-16 02:13:09 · 12 answers · asked by Lisa 1 in Pregnancy & Parenting ➔ Pregnancy
How does the father feel about having something extra special being carried by the mother?
2006-08-16 02:13:37 · update #1
foxxy44uu, I'm not pregnant! I was just asking this as I started thinking on it and I think, even though I'm not pregnant nor have ever been, that it would feel really special and you would probably have a real special connection with the father of the baby... I don't know for sure though, but that's just my op!
2006-08-16 02:20:40 · update #2
Absolutely! I love my husband dearly and it's so wonderful to know that I'm carrying a baby that we made together. It's fun to wonder who she'll look like...will she have his green eyes and my hair color? Will she be tall like him or short like me?
It's just an amazing thing. My husband is thrilled we're having this baby. He couldn't be happier. He sings to the baby all the time and even makes me put the phone to my belly when we're talking on the phone so he can say hello to her. It's really sweet.
2006-08-16 03:55:32 · answer #1 · answered by braks_gurl 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I think you develop a connection with the baby but the relationship you have with the father will determine how you feel about him.
I think it takes a real man, a maturity to realize the importance of the woman carrying a new life you helped create. I don't think most men feel this until much later on in the pregnancy though when the woman is really showing and the reality of everything hits home.
I think a woman is "built" to carry a pregnancy independently and is predispositioned to be the sole nurturer however I think sometimes the tendency to attach yourself to the father is out of fear, wanting protection and needing love and approval.
2006-08-16 02:28:04 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
I think it can make you feel closer to the father. He could react in many different ways. Once the baby is born, he may even get jealous of the time you're spending with the baby and want more attention from you(common). I found the realization of what I was carrying came almost more once I had the baby. (Or at least that's when the love you have for them hits you like a tidal wave, is when you meet them...finally)
2006-08-16 02:22:51 · answer #3 · answered by feathereafter 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
i do not extremely understand... are you asking if a lady who's at present pregnant, 3-5 months alongside, can get pregnant with a 2d toddler for the time of the same being pregnant? if so, no this isn't a possibility because of the particular undeniable actuality that the cervix/uterus is closed off (mucus plug and whatnot) If inspite of the undeniable fact that you recommend a lady who's had a toddler 3-5 months before, definite it is a possibility to get pregnant back so quickly after having the newborn.
2016-11-25 20:41:42 · answer #4 · answered by ? 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I'm feeling like I want to be closer to the father of my unborn child though I can't fathom why. He's a nice guy but in 8 months we've been seeing each other it never occurred to me to get serious with him. Even in the beginning of the pregnancy I never wanted to get serious. But now for some reason, I want to spend more time with him. Still don't think I can see us being anything more than parents and lovers, but I'd like to spend more time with him.
He on the other hand actually has made more time for me but not as much as I'd like. He even says he'd like to have more time together, but running his own business just doesn't make that possible. Though, I have my worries as to how this will affect our child. It seems to me that he's going to have to start finding a lot more time somehow, if he wants the kind of relationship he says he wants with his child. I hope he can find his way, because what is most important is the child.
2006-08-16 02:29:42 · answer #5 · answered by gypsy g 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
everyone is different and thinks about things differently. Pregnancy generally doesn't seem to make people feel "more attached to the father" and getting pregnant isn't a way of fixing a relationship if that's what you're asking....
2006-08-16 02:19:10 · answer #6 · answered by Naomi 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It would if the father of mine wasnt a jerk. So it makes me sad that it couldnt bring me closer to him, since he is back with his wife while I am carrying his kid. But you are feeling what most women should and do feel, so congrats to you! This is probably the strongest bond between a man and a woman.
2006-08-16 02:18:46 · answer #7 · answered by foxxyy44u 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It didn't make me feel more attached to the dad, but it did make me feel this incredible feeling of unworthiness. I didn't feel like I had done anything to deserve being the carrier of another life. What if I screwed it up?
I was very proud, and my husband was very attached to me. Wouldn't let me out of his sight or do anything. He was worried that it might hurt the baby somehow. So I guess we just reversed it.
2006-08-16 02:22:16 · answer #8 · answered by Amanda S 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
i was so close to my baby's father, we aren't together anymore, but we both know that together we did that and there is nothing more special than that.
there is always a closeness, even if the father doesn't show it.
they know that you are carrying something that is a big part of both of you.
2006-08-16 02:18:45 · answer #9 · answered by puppy love 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Its an amazing feeling to have that baby growing inside of you...and yes...I felt more attached to the daddy
2006-08-16 04:40:49 · answer #10 · answered by mommy_2_liam 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋