What do I do about my husband talking to another girl on the phone?

Question

Okay I have been married for 7 1/2 years and we have a 4 year old and I am 4 months pregnant. My husband has been talking to a girl from work on his cell phone late at night (like 8:00 or 9:00). Now I am totally fine with him talking to girls from work. But he hid it from me and tried to lie about it. I used his phone to call his mom and that is how I found her number. He makes excuses to leave the house and he will call her and talk to her the whole time and erase it off his phone. But our phones are in my name so I called the phone company and they gave me his records and they talk for a long time when they talk. I have caught him trying to hide it twice. He says they are just friends but what kind of woman talks to a married man that late at night? I am just so scared he is only staying with me because I am pregnant. I feel like he wants to be with her but feels guilty about leaving me while I am pregnant. Please tell me if I am being crazy or if my instincts are correct.

Answer 1

I am very sorry for you. It is terrible that he is doing this to you - especially in your situation. JerK!!!
Listen to your heart. You know the truth. You know what he is doing. You told us yourself. There is your answer. It might not be what you want to deal with right now, but you know, he is cheating. I wish you luck. You don't deserve him. I should say he doesn't deserve you. I hope things work out for you.

Answer 2

You aren't crazy. But your instincts may not be correct either. Think about sitting down with him and a therapist or marriage counselor and make it clear, make it VERY clear, what your suspicions are and that talking late at night when you can't hear the conversation for long periods of time is not OK, it's a violation of what you understand your marriage contract to be, and violates the vows the two of you took when you were married. You need to recognize there are good things and bad things that can happen as a result of such a conversation. To me, knowing would be better than now knowing.

Answer 3

The rule is you first everybody else after.If he is not talking to his mom or sibling during those hours or discussing business he is using up your time. The phone calls could be innocent, he is probably a good listener and the girl has things to talk about that are very important to her.you could cry on someones shoulder only so long before that person thinks they can heal all wrongs.So I think you should follow the calls thru online statements (check calls &minutes) If it is some large amount, call her and see if you can be of help with her problems. in other words cock-block

Answer 4

I think you are right to question what he is doing. Sit down with him and have a heart to heart. Maybe you could even call the girl and you could all talk about what is going on together. If they seem overly nervous, you may want to assume the worst. Try not to worry, it is not good for the baby, but at the same time--you need to know what his intentions are. It is better to find out now than to end up in a loveless marriage with some kind of STD because of his cheating.

Answer 5

I think he's cheating on you. Get copies of the phone records to prove his long phone calls. I went through the same thing with my ex and kept phone records (he didn't know about it) . I didn't want to believe he was cheating but a year or so later after alot of lies, the light finally came on and we split up. When we went to divorce court, those phone records sure came in handy, along with other paperwork I had that he didn't know about and he practically threw up from nervousness when it was all presented to the judge. Now I have the upper edge and he's sorry he messed up!!

Answer 6

Go with your first instinct.80% of the time it's correct.Sounds like he's up to something.Any woman that talks to a married man late at night has motives.

Answer 7

I think your intincts are entirely correct. Even if there is nothing going on, he has no business being that "close" to another woman. The thoughts of how it would have made me feel make me cringe. I don't really know what to tell you to do about it. I'm just sorry you are having to worry about all this, especially now when you are pregnant.

Answer 8

I went through the same, I had to check all the phone bills and don't you know I found her number, I dialed it and it was her. I caught them before talking to each other, they denied knowing each other closely, and that they were just talking as some people do.... 2 weeks later, I confronted my husband, after I found the same number on the bill, and it was her... He admitted being with her for about a year!.... We tried to rebuilt our relationship, but its impossible, he is just guilty, and feels sorry for me. .... It did not worked out.... We split....

Answer 9

if he is hiding it they must be more than friends, if there was nothing going on between them he should have no trouble admitting to it and even talking to you about it, i would watch this very close, because my wife did the same thing, in which the whole time she was cheating on me, nothing worse than finding that out one day, i really hope im wrong but i wish you the best of luck and congrats on the lil one on the way

Answer 10

Thats woman's intuition. Im pretty sure his hiding something. Well if i were you confront him as early as possible but then men do lie a lot. Well as they say theres good karma and bad karma. Hope he'll realise what his doing to you sooner.