Why are so many people homosexuals?

Question

This is not a homophobic question. I mean for every 10 heterosexuals, there is one homosexual, so that means there is something we parents are definitely doing wrong that forces our children to that path. Why?

Well all of you. I am not here to say that homosexuality is wrong. But, nobody chooses to be a homosexual. It's the environment he's born in. And parents play a major role in setting an environment. If the father scorns the child a lot, and if the mother is over protective, the child will definitely become homosexual.

Answer 1

Actually I heard this quote "No child is raised unscaved". Basically no parent is perfect and they may miss-parent in the process and it may cause the child a tiny bit of emotional damage. With that said I don't think that "WE" as parents can prevent our child's sexual orientation all we can do is lead by example. Stop thinking that you have failed as a parent if your child is gay, it’s not a failure! As long as you’ve risen what becomes a productive, positive contributing, law abiding adult you should not be concerned about their sexual orientation but rather their happiness and well being! Second, I think that a lot of homosexuality in the world is part to blame on the individuals like "Girl's Gone Wild". I blame them because they seem to make a mockery as a trend of some sort to be gay which influences teens to other wise experiment. However, most people who I have come across and my nephew being one of them sexual preference was prominent as a child and he was raised in a stable structured environment. Point in case homosexuality is no longer taboo, and is a very cognitive instinctual thing for homosexuals and to them is very natural. I believe it is unnatural to not learn about how and why this is occurring in society and is bothersome to individuals who never have to deal with societies back lash because of their sexual preference surely this should be proof enough, who would put themselves through all of that if they could help it!

Answer 2

To start, your statistics are wrong. Current estimates put the homosexual population between 3% and 6%, depending on the study. The 10% theory comes from the Kinsey reports published in the 40s and 50s, both of which contain serious methodolical errors.

There are several competing scientific theories on the genesis of homosexual behavior, but when all the data is in, my guess is the finding will be that it is a mix of genetic predispostion and environmental factors.

There is no gene that will definitely produce homosexual behavior in a child. Likewise, there are no set of environmental factors that will cause homosexual behavior in every child. Human behavior is determined by a bewildering mix of biology, conscious attitudes, and unconsious influences. Parents of homosexual children did not do anything "wrong" to cause the behavior, that's just how the chips fall sometimes.

Answer 3

You made a left turn back there at the corner Miss. Homosexuality has nothing to do with anything parents are doing wrong. Children are born with homosexuality. They may not express it at an early age, but either they are or they are not. There is sufficient scientific evidence at this point to convince the American Medical Association, the American Psychological Association and many other reputable groups.

If you choose to ignore this, that becomes your issue.

Answer 4

Homosexuality is usually begun in fetal stages, and may (but rarely) will be affected by parenting. Swedish scientists have confirmed that there is indeed a gene that is usually only present in woman, but is present in homosexual men that controls pheremone processing, causing the body to find the same gender attractive. It's not like a parent should feel guilty about it though, nothing wrong with homos.

Answer 5

It's nothing parents have done. People are born with a certain orientation and gender identity. There's nothing that can be done to change that. The main difference between now and in the past is that someone is much less likely to be beaten to death or socially ostracized for being GLBT, so now more people are more open and accepting of their orientation. I'm sure we've all heard about our own or a friend's "lonely old aunt that never married." Or the "uncle and his rommate of 15 years." We've always been here in large numbers. It's just that we're more visible now. It's nothing that parents have done. It's just a part of who we are.

Answer 6

It's not in your control as a parent, it's not in the child's control either. Homosexuality is a natural variety of sexuality that is found all over the animal kingdom and is, therefore, not a flaw, or something you can hope to avoid for your children.

The best thing you can do, as a parent, is explain to your children (at the same time as you have that birds'n'bees discussion) that while most boys fall in love with girls, some boys fall in love with other boys and while most girls fall in love with boys, some girls fall in love with other girls.

You have to first learn that it's not a problem, defect or illness and it's as natural as having green eyes or being left-handed. Then you can confer that attitude to your kids. This works well in two ways:

1) Your children will not be responsible for inflicting mental anguish on their gay peers at school.

2) If your child is gay, then they know they have your support, hence you will not be responsible for inflicting mental anguish on them.

Answer 7

*sigh*

Actually it is a homophobic question -- it suggests that people have something wrong with them if they are gay.

Regardless -- people are almost certainly homosexual because of genetics. There is a great deal of scientific evidence that it is inborn. Beyond scientific evidence there is anecdotal evidence.

The fruit fly study is actually fairly conclusive. But the pheremonal and eye blink studies are also compelling. I've included links below for those that are interested. Beyond that, research increasingly suggests that at least for males, Xq28 is the crucial gene. I am saddened by this, because I believe that once it is proven, gay people will be wiped out -- and I think that is sad, because given the number of species in which homosexuality exists (see Dr. Bruce Bagemihl's book "Biological Exuberance" from St. Martin's Press) I think it serves a purpose, and has been evolutionarily preferred. The recent Italian study by Andrea Camperio-Ciani and colleagues pretty clearly shows both how and why a gene or gene set causing homosexuality, particularly in males - would survive and be preferred evolutionarily.

In addition to scientific evidence is the anecdotal evidence. I never in my life had any sexual feeling for a female -- nor any romantic feelings. I have had romantic feelings for other males since 8. I figured out it was sexual at 11 and came out at 14. I never felt anything for girls, neither do other gay males I know. Some boys manage to suppress it for a time, but when it comes out they admit to having always had the feelings. Likewise for bisexuals, although bisexuals always have feelings for both, and therefore are capable of choice -- for real. Gays are no more capable of choice than straights are.

There is nothing either wrong or unnatural about being homosexual. Enjoy the links -- and think about the gay people you know. While some, particularly younger ones, may be risk takers or may be into drugs --- think about the young straight men you know -- how many of them are risk takers -- or into drugs? It's gender and age far more than sexuality. Others are, I would bet, settled, calm, caring and successful.

The only thing being gay does is change who you sleep with. No one chooses it however, no one is driven to "that path." It is simply natural and normal for some people. As I am sure you would hate to be told consistently, by everyone around you, that being heterosexual was evil, wrong, unnatural -- and "that path" when you know perfectly well it is natural to you, understand that gay people feel the exact same way. It is natural and normal to a gay person -- and having intercourse with, or romance with -- a member of the opposite gender is unnatural and abnormal. It would be wonderful if you extended the same courtesy to gays that you would prefer extended to you in reverse.

Kind regards,

Reynolds Jones
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PS After your last revision. My dear, the theory of homosexual formation that you naively quote is completely discredited and has been discarded for nearly four decades. If it were true homosexuality would be over 50% rather than 10% -- but laying that aside, like other mistakes made in medicine of all forms, its been discarded -- which leads me to say -- why are you quoting it? No one still even tries to use that argument except some discredited and in some cases defrocked members of groups like NARTH, and the most pathetic of the religious fanatics -- so -- are you one of those?

To Icrease -- that is false. Some of the studies that are coming up with "lower" numbers -- wouldn't count me as homosexual -- because once, as a teenager, under pressure from friends who were worried about me and thought they could turn me straight, I forced myself to have sex with a female. It make me vomit, but I did it. On the other hand, I've had sex thousands (literally) of times with my several lovers over the years, particularly Jonathan, with whom I now am and with whom I've been for almost 15 years. We are a happy committed couple, we love each other very much and the sex is wonderful -- yet, according to some protocols now in use, I'm straight.

On the other side, take a look at the latest British study, which goes back to the traditional protocols -- 10%. Have a nice day, but no more disinformation please. The Wikipedia, while fun, is a joke as a research tool -- anyone can edit it, and anyone can change it -- I guess you did not see the Cobert Report where Stephen Cobert went on line infront of millions of people and arbitrarily changed African Elephant birthrates. I think I'll go over now and restore the actual research, which still overwhelmingly indicates 10% among males and about 5% among females or at least request the study names and accessibility.

Answer 8

Ever think. That is the way God made them, and their is nothing wrong with that. I am not a homosexual, but I do believe that is a natural way they are. Homosexuals are Born that way. I was born a man that chases women, and once in a wile God sends me one. That way I keep going to church. Sounds nuts does it. It also sound nuts to say parent are doing something wrong.

Answer 9

Just by fearing some shortcoming in parenting you're passing judgement on homosexuality because you imply that this sexual orientation is a detour. Something we heterosexuals don't want to see is that every single homosexual comes from a heterosexual environment.
Why? It's sexual orientation. We heterosexual didn't go through some sessions in order for us to decide our sexual orientation. Likewise, a homosexual (I'm speaking of next door type of common mortals, no celebs) didn't sprang up from breakfast announcing a new sexual orientation from tomorrow and on.

Answer 10

There have always been Homosexuals. Nothing a parent does has ever been proven to "cause" a child to be homosexual.
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