I don't mess with bi-sexual girls, or i don't like bi-sexual girls...what did we do to get such a bad a rap? I don't see gender, if I'm feeling a person I go for it reg. of if its a boy or girl...is this wrong, am i supposed to confine myself to one sex to please other ppl?
2006-08-16 00:32:05 · 21 answers · asked by Yahooligan85 2 in Society & Culture ➔ Cultures & Groups ➔ Lesbian, Gay, Bisexual, and Transgender
No, but are other people supposed to bend their ways to please you?
While many would not admit it, many gay and lesbian people are looking for a soul mate, someone to be with long term. There is a great fear on our part that by investing in a relationship with a bisexual person, that you'll be running off to an opposite gender relationship at any minute. This may be irrational, but maybe not. From the tone of your question, I'm guessing that you have sex with whoever interests you. When you're bisexual, you double the competition for us. Also, a lot of lesbians, I've heard, have been burned by a bisexual girl who ends up trying to get them to do threeways with a male partner...something you as a bisexual woman MIGHT be interested in, but a lesbian is probably not anywhere near interested in doing.
2006-08-16 01:21:21 · answer #1 · answered by michael941260 5 · 2⤊ 1⤋
I'm bi, and a few lesbian's have said to me they don't go for bi girls aswell? I think part of it is because sometimes girls arn't actually bi and do it more to say they've done it, or have their fella watching or something.
I love the fact I enjoy men and women, and to be fair it's only a few people that have a problem with bi girls. Most people I know (men and women) think it's ace. I completely agree that if u like someone go 4 it "reg" lol. Don't be disheartened by the few div's who think bein bi is a bad thing, and get put off by it.
2006-08-16 02:47:43 · answer #2 · answered by Laydee T 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I have the same problem. Its gotten to the point where I don't tell people I'm bi. If I feel something for them and they feel the same we'll figure it out. I was in a relationship with a guy and he happened to mention to a female co-worker of his that I was bi and after that any time we'd all go out together she wouldn't talk to me and she'd try to cover herself up? I wasn't checking her out! Don't worry about it. There's nothing wrong with you and you don't have to be into just one gender, because if you were a lesbian women would still have this reaction to you.
2006-08-17 19:39:24 · answer #3 · answered by Mama23Girls 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Yes, bisexuals and trans people get treated poorly by the rest of the community. There's the stereotype that we'll leave them for someone of the opposite sex. There's also a lot of young women that are "bi when they're drunk" that are giving us a bad rep. There's nothing wrong with being bi. Unfortunately even in the GLBT community there are stereotypes and discrimination.
2006-08-16 01:05:29 · answer #4 · answered by carora13 6 · 1⤊ 1⤋
Indi has said it best in my opinion. It would be hard to go into a realtionship knowing the possibilities of being dropped for the other gender. But I really don't have anything against bi's. Truely I don't. I'm sure it's not easy for you guys either.
2006-08-16 07:22:07 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Sounds like you are complaining because not everyone you meet is either impressed or shocked when you say that you are bisexual. I honestly doubt that bisexual girls have a "bad rap". Most people either don't swing that way or don't really care. Stop trying to show off so much. If you feel the need to talk about being bi so much, then maybe you are feeling insecure about it or you just feel the need for attention. The rest of us don't really need to know who you are having sex with.
2006-08-16 01:00:45 · answer #6 · answered by badkitty1969 7 · 2⤊ 2⤋
Many people have enough to "worry" about when they feel they are "competing" against others of their own gender. They simply cannot handle the fact that they may be "dropped" for someone that they can't compete with. Guy's barely handle it when being dropped for another guy, they simply can't handle it if they were dropped for a woman. Same thing with women/lesbians.
2006-08-16 00:41:12 · answer #7 · answered by IndyT- For Da Ben Dan 6 · 3⤊ 0⤋
Its because us bi girls get the best of both worlds. You do not need to confine to anything. You just have to find the right girl or boy. My *friend* has said that for so long, but that doesnt stop her from bein with me. She just says it because I think straight lesbians feel that we are walkin along the fence. I guess eventually you'll fall one way or the other, but that'll only happen if you get married.
2006-08-16 00:57:14 · answer #8 · answered by Steph 4 · 2⤊ 2⤋
I have noticed that often bisexuals are looked down on a bit by both straight people (who consider them gay) and by gay/lesbian people (who consider them unwillingly to commit, confused, etc) Maybe straight people are uncomfortable with bisexual girls because the guys are afraid you'll steal all the girls (since you understand women, being one) and the girls are afraid you'll come on to them (or they are curious and kind of want you to, and that scares them!) Just a guess!
2006-08-16 01:35:49 · answer #9 · answered by mellexical 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I think it's awesome, you get the best of both worlds :P
Seriously, though. People need to grow up and get over themselves. There's nothing wrong with being bisexual, in fact, all the members of one species of monkey are bisexual.
2006-08-16 00:45:11 · answer #10 · answered by ? 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋