2006-08-16 00:25:55 · 32 answers · asked by pop 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
very complex problem but it can be fixed, first off both of you have to be open to changing, yes change is as good as a holiday. then you have to remember what attracted you to him in the first place. try not to be judgemental... time has its effects you know. find something, preferably an outdoor activity, that both of you enjoy and do it together. write stupid poems to him, ask him to do the same, really its all up to you guys. i have to say that i dont think youll fall in love again but this will definitively make your love bon stronger... good luck, hope that helps.
2006-08-16 00:37:03 · answer #1 · answered by bruinveldmuis 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It all really depends on what your interpretation of "love" is, and under what circumstance have you fallen out of love. Romance, to current standards, can be quite different to how everyone interprets love. Just be careful that it is not your sex life, but your feelings to one another that you are concerned about. Being romantic always is so much more endearing, and that is what holds marriages together for decades.
Look into your marriage and its stage. There may be some unresolved problems or tensions that may need to be addressed: things undiscussed, or some dishonesty and avoidance. Everything needs to be open, and both you and your husband need to be able to trust each other. Things will then be much more comfortable to allow such things as romance. If he is open, you can talk to him about it yourself, or in the company of a marriage counsellor and have some couple therapy.
You could also examine both your personality, and your husband's personality for something that you share in common. And, with that one special something, enjoy it together and just the two of you. You might want to do something romantic for the two of you: go out for a movie and dinner, and re-establish the intrigue of when you were dating.
2006-08-16 00:59:51 · answer #2 · answered by the Nightwalker 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
There is a difference between falling in love and staying in love, in the same way that there is a difference between loving someone and being in love with them.
It's undeniable that people change with time. In some people the changes can be subtle, in others they can be radical.
Are you and your husband the same people that you were when you fell in love the first time? Depending on how long ago that was, I doubt it.
Honesty is the best policy; discuss things with your husband. Make some time for yourselves, and go do some stuff that you both like doing. And make love!
2006-08-16 00:38:12 · answer #3 · answered by shoby_shoby2003 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Think back to what it was that brought you two together in the first place. Have a few dates similar to how you spent time together when you first started dating. You need to do something to rekindle the romance whether a romantic weekend away, some impromptu passionate sex, doing those little things you know turn each other on. It takes effort by both of you though.
2006-08-16 00:35:06 · answer #4 · answered by viclyn 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Remember what attracted you to him the first time and tell him you want to re-enact some of your past romantic encounters. But just so you know it is quite common for people in relationships to fall in and out of love during their relationships. You need to be open to him and tell him how you feel and what you would like to do to rekindle the flame. Keep in mind men don't have ESP and once in a while need a hint at what you want ( sometimes a brick works figuratively speaking of course-be more direct for the slower ones)
2006-08-16 00:35:05 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
You still love your husband I am assuming but the spark isn't there. I would recommend first going to a counselor but if you don't want to go that route try new spontaneous things. Go out on dates again or take a trip somewhere. Get to know eachother all over. Find that something that you found in him so long ago.
2006-08-16 00:35:05 · answer #6 · answered by heatherlynnmorrow 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You do so by falling in love with each other again. It can't work if only one of you wants it to happen. It takes time, commitment and time together away from the day to day grind which usually is why people tend to drift apart. Be patient and iron out bad feelings. Good luck.
2006-08-16 00:35:27 · answer #7 · answered by D baby 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I guess it all depends on why you fell out of love to begin with or if the bad out weighs the good. If you don't give love you won't receive love, start there. Love him, overlook his faults and try to see the man you fell in love with when you first met. Start to date and flirt with him, leave him love letters and plan a seductive night of hot sex filled romance! Treat him like a king even when he acts like a jerk. He won't know what to do and will be excited by the rekindling! It will take time to repair so don't get impatient or give up to soon, it took a while to break!
2006-08-16 00:53:39 · answer #8 · answered by want2flybye 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well that's a hard question...
Love isn't like that, it doesn't work that way. You just... fall in love.
Seriously, if you want to fall in love with your husband, then you should hang around with him more often, talk to him about his life, your life, how much you need him and want him back.
2006-08-16 00:28:47 · answer #9 · answered by annyhc821 2 · 3⤊ 0⤋
Make a list of all the good things about him and keep adding to it as you remember more. Look at that list every day to refresh it in your mind and then think about it during the day. Find things to compliment him on. Hearing yourself verbalize good things about him and his response will help too. Tell him you think it would do both of you good to do some things together that you both enjoy that would get you out of the same old routine. You probably just need some freshness in your marriage.
2006-08-16 00:31:38 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋