is it wrong to fancy your best mates sister?

Question

i met her the other day and n was instantlyy attracted to er...

the mate iz a girl as well...

Answer 1

right or wrong, you need to decide which you want. If you cause strife with the sisters, you lose both.

Answer 2

Here's what you need to consider...
as your best mate is a girl, will she be resentful that you didn't fall for her?
How deeply do you feel for her sister? Is it love or lust?
If you want to have a relationship with her sister, she should be thrilled! Tell her first, though, make sure she's comfortable with it, and at the same time, she will probably already know if her sister's interested. If you want her to remain your best mate, you're going to have to have a very honest and open discussion with her. You need to know that your friendship will not be lost if things don't work out with her sister. She should be happy for you. I hope it all works out!!!

Answer 3

It is definitely not wrong to fancy your best mates sister. People can't control who they're attracted to and who they aren't attracted to. It's something that just happens when two people meet. It's definitely nothing to be ashamed of. As a matter of fact, I once fell for my best friend's brother. She thought it was gross at first, but then she started teasing me about it light-heartedly. She knew that in the end there was really nothing she could do about it.

Answer 4

"Hi damaged*. The very fact of wondering, whether its wrong or not, tells me that you sense an ambiguity with the "possible" relationships with the sisters. I've heard of other relationships that have begun in this manner. There are always problems with whose heart gets hurt. You have described your present relationship as "best mate and sister." There is no wrong in being attracted to your "best mate's" sister. The action you take, trying to get "next" to the sister, will be your biggest problem. You clearly don't want to come between sisters and turn both of them against you so you must tread lightly. You can verify if your "best mate's" sister is truly interested in you, as much as you are in her, in many ways. Here, you will need to listen with your feelings. If she recognizes your interest in her and reciprocates with further interest you can probably be assured that a relationship with her is possible. Then, you must be ready to reconcile the ambiguity with your "best mate."
Of course, I read the doubt in your words and I understand your delimma. You already know, from the tone of your question, that you must transform your relationships with both of the sisters to acquire the goals of your ambition (you have not stated, but implied your ambition so I must infer your directions).
Here again, I must stress the point of treading lightly. Trust both your head and your heart in this endeavor. You just don't want to hurt either one of the sisters. By taking one small step at a time, the relationships can possibly develop in your favorite direction, but, not before careful consideration from your words and actions towards each of them.
Good luck and best wishes!"

Answer 5

As long as she's not your sister,I don't see were the problem would be unless you're from the same sex?
I'm not sure what the term best mate means in your eyes it it your best friend? are someone who your supposed to be in a relationship with
if it's someone you are supposed to be in a relationship leave it alone it's lust,and you 'll cause a lot of unnecessary heartache,
Have a Blessed Life and read your Bible everyday

Answer 6

Hi,
I fell for my sisters husband...but she never knew...Know they are divorced and I am engaged with a wonderful man. Yes,,,it is possible, and if he is a close friend ,tell him ,that you have taken a fancy to his sister,and would it be ok to ask her out on a date.I wouldn't say you found her a dish, or that she is attractive.This is his sister,he doesn't need to hear those words coming from you,especialy if they are close and if he is protective,like my big brother.....
Be honest with him and speak from the heart.Just remember onr thing, if you'll date, and it doesn't work out,it will be uncomfortable being around your best mate. So...you have to decide,your friendship with your best mate, or a
possible romantic relationship with his sister.I wish you the best..you have ti decide who is more important.....................I don't envy you, but if you need more advice save my avatar for future use..i will be happy to help.

Answer 7

you have a great deal of answers to consider here. I prefer the answer that says to talk it over with your mate (friend) before proceeding, as I feel that it is the best way to preserve the friendship.

Answer 8

That's the way our mind works man. What if you have a sister who brought her friend along for a visit, and she's a real knockout. I think the your same ferocious heart would pump really hrd too, won't? If I were you, keep it cool first for a while.

Answer 9

Why would this be wrong... If your best mate means our best friend, then his sister has been brought up just like him with the same morals and values. If you have things incommon with her brother then you would have things in common with her. I just do not understand why you would think this is wrong????

Answer 10

There is nothing wrong with fancying the sister of one of your friends. But if you respect your friend, you have to talk to them first and get their permission. Otherwise, you risk losing your friend and the opportunity to get to know their sister better.

Answer 11

Don't worry about your mate, just ask yourself weather this is a conquest or not. By the sound of it, it is not. But hey, I can't read minds...