how to make man of split character realise his mistake and save marriage and stop him from torturing wife?

Question

how to make a person having split kind of nature( at times very good and at time just inhuman without reason) realise that by his behavior he is ruining his as well as his wife's and childrens life and wasting precious years of his life to satisfy his ego by just humiliting and using hands on wife for no reason by making mountain out of a mole, not looking after thier essential needs, giving away whole earning to his parents plans,elder brother for his family,always wanting his own family to look low than his elder brothers which is just affecting stability in life,finishing faith of his wife and children in him. which is badly going to affect his oldage as he is making his own children his enemies and he would have noone to share his sorrows in his oldage except for lonliness in his life

Answer 1

This man is clearly suffering from a problem to do with the inexplicable inner working of the mind. Most of the time, he himself may not be knowing why he is doing such a thing, but he is simply driven to do it again and again. Only one person can accurately identify and PERMANENTLY CURE the root cause of this unusual behaviour: a HYPNOTHERAPIST.

A hypnotherapist will make the patient come out with the underlying reasons for this unusual behaviour by looking into his subconscious mind, in a state of hypnosis, and remove them by offering positive suggestions which will be imprinted in the subconscious mind. When the patient comes out of hypnosis, he will not only be rid of his unnatural way of behaving, but he will act on the new positive suggestions given to him by the hypnotherapist. And his personality will see an instant and permanent change for the better. This procedure is painless, risk-free and even under deep hypnosis the patient can hear the sounds around him and is completely aware of what is going on around him. He may require 3-4 sittings(visits) of one hour each, and the cost of this treatment is Rs.300/- per sitting or more, but is really effective and completely harmless.

This is the only real solution for the problem that this man has.

Answer 2

That is awful... In the questions I answer I always try to look for a ledge on which to stand in order to try and give hope to those asking. From your question, I had a hard time locating the ledge. I will say, that it sounds like you are very descent, if you've done anything wrong, it sounds like spending outside of your means was a posible downfall... this makes me question why you had to do that in the first place... was it her expectations of you, or was it just something you wanted to do? Never underestimate the power of finances and money in a relationship. Having realistic expectations of one and other makes all the difference... giving someone false expectations can make for strife when the truth and reality emerge. If she is willing, take her and go seek counseling. If the love you once shared and originally based your marraige on is real, then there is hope that your marraige can be saved. Good luck.

Answer 3

HONEY I AM SO SORRY BUT YOU SHOULD HAVE BEEN LEFT THIS BASTARD. HE IS TRULY DANGEROUS YOU NEED TO GET OUT BEFORE HE HURTS YOU OR ONE OF THOSE CHILDREN. I AM BEGGING YOU TO SAVE YOUR LIFE AND GET THE HELL OUT . TO ME IT SOUNDS AS IF YOUR HUSBAND HAS A DRUG PROBLEM HE FITS THE PROFILE FROM WHAT YOU ARE SAYING . IT IS NOT GOING TO GET BETTER SERIOUSLY HE IS GOING TO KEEP ON BECAUSE YOU ARE CONDONING IT BY STAYING. DONT LET YOUR GIRLS GROW UP THINKING THIS IS HOW MEN ARE ALLOWED TO TREAT WOMEN AND TEACHING YOUR BOYS THEY CAN BEAT ON WOMEN WHEN THINGS DONT GO THEIR WAY. AM I CRYING FOR YOU AND YOUR CHILDREN RIGHT NOW . YOU GOT TO THINK ABOUT THOSE KIDS RIGHT NOW AND THE FEAR THAT IS IN THEM BECAUSE OF THIS MAN . DONT MESS THEIR LIFE UP WITH THIS ABUSE. I KNOW YOU MUST LOVE THIS MAN BUT LET ME TELL YOU I KNOW YOU LOVE YOUR CHILDREN MORE ,IT CANT BE ABOUT YOUR LOVE FOR HIM ITS GOT TO BE ABOUT THEIR SAFETY AND YOURS. WHAT IF HE DOES SOMETHING TO YOU OR EVEN ACCIDENTLY KILL YOU . WHERE DOES THAT LEAVE YOUR KID? PLEASE THINK ABOUT.

Answer 4

Honey.,dont let him continue.He can give 101 reasons for his behaviour but in the end he will always keep doing this until u take action. Been there done that.Learnt after 31/2 years that need to take charge and take action.Did that and now its rosy everywhere. they will never stop doing what they are doing until wife' gives them a utter dose of reality.
Honey walk out for sometime not a vacation but taking a break .take the kids. next he will be calling you to come back.
Forget the parents and siblings .they just want to control everyone around them.one more thing dont ever let anyone walk over you .they will not realize your value even if u let them do that thinking one day they will realise. no they wont.take action and all the choices will be from you .

Answer 5

you can't change someone that is in denial. As for the way you and your children are being treated, that is uncalled for. this man says he loves you in one breath, this th next hits you. You need to get out while you still can. Don't you think that you deserve a better life for you and your kids? know one human being has to put up with this type of treatment. There are some very wonderful men out in this big world. You are worthy of respect, love that is meaningful. and so much more. I feel You know what you have to do. Your concern for you childs state of mind.

I wish you and your children all the best life has to offer,

Answer 6

There is nothing you can do to make him realize what he is doing. He sounds like a mental case to me. He may only come to realise what he has once its gone. If he is putting his hands on his wife....he SHOULD be gone. That is not a healthy relationship and definetly NOT the household you should raise kids in. He doesnt sound like a keeper and quite frankly I hope his wife leaves him.

Answer 7

He is suffering from a mental condition known a schizophrenia. Take Psychiatrist help as early as possible.

Answer 8

We find educated brutes and illiterate fools in this world.
You can give margin to illiterate fools but not the educated brutes.
I call them sadists and idiots.
1. You can take him to a psychologist for treatment.
2. If he is not ready to change, you have to change for the better.
3. Give a divorce or take a divorce.
4. You cannot change senseless people.
5. sorry to say this, he is a mental patient.
6. Before you lose your life and happiness, take a hard decision to leave him and to lead an independent life without depending on him.

Good luck and take care.

Answer 9

Men like you describe take everyone around them for granted, ant believe that no matter what he does, his wife and kids will always be there for him. Many times people have to hit rock bottom before they can change. Maybe if you and the kids were to leave and you tell him you won't come back until he has gone to counseling and maybe even anger management classes. Maybe he will realize what he has to loose then, and maybe he won't. If you stay, things will only get worse. You need a third party, like a counselor to help him realize what he is doing to all of you. Maybe he will listen then, but maybe he won't, so be ready for whatever happens.

Answer 10

what he needs is a psychiatrist to help him sort out his split personality (of sorts). and his wife needs one too. the sooner the better for both parties. they might not be able to save their marriage, but at least they can save themselves from self-destruction which is inevitable if this continues. and the children should be spared from all these, too. they should also see a psychologist to help them repair whatever was shattered in themselves from their ordeal. they, too, need help to become whole again.