Tell Me Something.....?

Question

Sexual orientation is defined as sexual AND emotional attraction towards one or both gender(s).

So... I have sexual attraction towards guys, but no emotional attraction toward either really, so what exactly would that make me?

By the way I am 18 years old. ;-)

Answer 1

According to classical psychoanalysis that would make you normal.

Most males don't develop close emotional attachment until their mid 20s. G/F's or B/F's are much more incidental at earlier ages and primarily represent opportunity to have sexual intercourse, regardless of a male's preference.

There are obviously many exceptions. My partner seduced me when he was 17 -- now nearly 15 years later we are very happily together.

But as a general rule you are completely normal.

The psychologists I know do NOT use emotional attraction as a primary axis in determining orientation however. If you are sexually attracted toward guys and not girls -- then no worry -- you are gay -- whether you feel any deep emotional bonds or not, that will come.

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Answer 2

sexual attraction for a guy makes you gay. You don't need emotional attraction. There are guys and girls who never have emotional attraction towards anyone

Answer 3

It would probably make you inexperienced at love.

Often the emotional side comes with sex. Sex with the same person over a period of time. If you can do this without emotional attachment, you need to see a shrink! Just kidding. You'll feel it.
In time you'll get to a point where if you don't have an emotional attachment you'll long for it, but the lack of experience with such at this point in your life accounts for you not feeling it for either sex.

Answer 4

It points towards bisexuality to me, buddy. Male bi's as a rule have less of an emotional attachment to partners than gays do -- most of the time they have no emotional attachment to partners. Bisexual males are highly erotic-minded, sometimes with both sexes, sometimes with only one (and then erotic/affectionate with the other sex). It could also mean that you just haven't matured fully in the emotions department -- just youth -- you'll grow out of it.

Answer 5

i get where you're coming from.


i've had sexual AND emotional feelings towards men

but ONLY sexual towards women,
therefroe although i have had female sexula contact, i am not considered a bisexual.
although technically i am, according to straight friends.

I suspect you have not fallen in love with anyone, which is why the emotion is lacking but the sexual feeling is in tact.

Answer 6

I think the emotional attraction will come with the person - most likely a guy - who 'gets to you' in this way.

Answer 7

It probably makes you a single, gay man.

Single because you haven't found a lover yet.
Gay because you're sexually attracted to men.

Give it time. When Mr. Right shows up, you'll fall head over heels and there's your emotional attachment.

Answer 8

Maybe your emotions aren't all that strong. It varies from one person to the next, and at different times in your life.

That's actually an advantage, because you can learn without the burn. But remember that other people can get hurt - you don't want that rep Johnny.

Answer 9

It means you're gay, but haven't fully matured as of yet. Sounds like you're not interested in a relationship. Just having sex. To love and care for someone requires emotions.

Answer 10

It means you are probably homosexual but the emotional attachment only comes when you meet the right person for you. It's what's called a spark or fancying someone.

Don't worry about it, I'm sure you'll meet a homosexual guy you really get along with.