my boy friend insists to enter thru back door. is it ok?

Question

he is very found of my butt cheeks and do fingering a lot, but is it ok for me to allow him so or my health will be affected? any advise

Answer 1

Ok, how much do you care or love your boy friend? I do not believe in sex before marriage, but since you are already there. You might need to talk with him and understand why he wants anal sex. If he can explain it to you in more ways than "just to see how it feels" then think about it. Research it, find out the lubs you need, all that good stuff, then tell him yes or no. However, if you love him and your going to get married some day. This question will come up later. I say give it a try, but you tell him to hold steady and you a push agaist him and allow as much in as you can. Once he gits in he might not be able to hold out long any way.

Answer 2

The real question is whether YOU feel comfortable with it. If you trust him and want to try it, go ahead, and be sure to be prepared and say 'No' once you are uncomfortable. Also, ask yourself if it feels good. Does it? If it does, great, but if not, then you're not into it, or aren't ready. Make sure he understands what 'no' means, and that he respects it and is willing to follow your rules...after all, you're the one who's agreeing or disagreeing on having your other cherry popped (sorry to sound blunt).
There's no risk in trying this health-wise, given you use a condem and plenty of lubricant. If you're ready, make sure you have a lot of foreplay beforehand too...lots and lots, as much as you need. And your muscles down there are the ones doing the talking...that means if you're not comfortable, it's not going to happen! So, don't force yourself if you're not ready, and be sure to set your own boundaries. You need those more than you need to please a boyfriend.

Answer 3

First insist that he wears a condom to protect you and him. If you do that, use loads of lubricant and dont do it evry day you will be fine! The only thin is that if you do it loads you may eventually increase the diamiter if your sphincter and thus be less able to controle the release of your stools. However I must stress that this is usually more prevelent in gay men and porn stars as the frequency of backdoor action id higher. Just be responsible and enjoy.

Answer 4

Your health won't be affected, unless, he has something that you don't know about!!!! Is he being very considerate of you when doing this??? Are you enjoying this??? You should both be enjoying it, not just 1 person. Remember, there are 2 people involved in doing this!!!!

Answer 5

Yucks. I'm sorry but if he keeps on knocking on your 'back door', you should never answer it. It hurts A LOT and yes there is actually a guy who had anal cancer cos of it. The news came out last year at yahoo! itself.

Answer 6

It's only OK if you want to - don't let him pressure you. If you decide to try - make sure you use plenty of lubrication and he takes it slowly.

despite the taboo issue - it can produce really strong amazing orgasms, so long as he takes it easy and it doesn't become an obsession

Answer 7

every things worth a try. Past experiences for says make sure you shove your pillow in your face to hide the screams, and be prepared to walk funny for a couple of days and be tender.

I wont do it again

Answer 8

No its not okay because he could hurt you very bad, have you heard of the anal sphiner, he could damage that and you can not hold you BM's. And if you don't like it's not okay.

Answer 9

Yes , you have to be ready not him-- its your body sooo use it wisely-- and will he be always around after he uses you like that -- first time use a rubber-- messy

Answer 10

not if you dont like it! some guys just find it so appealing cause its more of an unexplored region..you know? and they cant get you preg. but i think its bad if hes obsessed with it.....and you know when their obsessed!