I write letters (love letters) to him and he never writes back, he tells me what he has to say when we talk...I asked him why he does this and she said he "Doesn't know how to write letters"! Right, okay. So he writes me a letter and it's short. No, they need to be long. Hem she dee dee bee boo kada bauba babaaaaa!
When we are on the phone I talk about what me and my friends go through sometimes and he never talks with me just sit there and say"yes,mhm,wow"! I know him in his friends go through the same problem. I confronted my man about this and he looked helpless like he didn't know what I was talking about. Ha.
He will not go shopping with me unless I ask him
2006-08-15 23:43:09 · 16 answers · asked by Anonymous in Social Science ➔ Sociology
women use 5000+ words a day, a man less than 1500. it's quite normal. stop trying to change him. you can't change people and it's frustrating you. when you accept it, you'll feel much better. if you don't, consider your alternatives. are you ready to move on? seems to me your choices are shut up and live with it or move on.
how would you like it if he tried to change you? maybe he dislikes how much you nag? how would you feel if somebody wanted to change you? it can't be done. sorry, but it's true.
2006-08-15 23:50:41 · answer #1 · answered by J Somethingorother 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It is a rare man now a days who would be willing to exchange love letters. Most men would think it's too sissy and would refuse on principle. Most of them probably doubt their own ability to write a love letter, even if they tried. So they take the easy route and refuse to do it.
There are men who are happy and quite able to talk about their feelings. They are the nice, sensitive men that you probably overlooked completely. If you want a man who can communicate with you, open your eyes to the better quality men out there.
2006-08-16 10:27:20 · answer #2 · answered by Alyson K 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Sounds like he has poor communication skills. Communication is a key role in ANY relationship and if someone doesn't know how to communicate well then it ruins a big part of the relationship.
You should talk to him about these things. If he cannot give you want you want (i.e. talking to him, having a decent conversation) then you should reconsider the relationship.
I'm not trying to play the negative person here, I'm always for the relationship, but in this case it sounds like a bad deal. At least talk to him about it, but don't let yourself suffer for no reason.
2006-08-16 06:51:08 · answer #3 · answered by ThatDude 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
News flash. If you are giving him sex, that is all he wants. It's the truth, sorry. You don't have a real relationship. He is not interested in you, your friends, making you happy by writing one little hand written note or accompanying you at the store. He wants you when he feels like it. And you, you seem like you would be pretty insecure without a "boyfriend". You can get a boyfriend anywhere if you want to give out. If you want a relationship, you have to look somewhere else than where you are at. Good luck.
2006-08-16 18:25:45 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Sounds like you need a different boyfriend. He isn't doing "this crap" to you. He's just being himself. Don't settle. Wait for the kind of guy you really want. After ten years of marriage, my husband still writes love letters and poems for me... I tell him about my day and he tells me about his... and he loves shopping with me. But be aware that some of the traits you desire may be rare. I've never encountered another man who will spend 45 minutes in a candle store, but my hubby will. Good luck!
2006-08-16 10:48:58 · answer #5 · answered by nimbleminx 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Its time to part away! baby!!!! seriously don't want to be mean but this is going to happen one day or the other when your anger reaches the red zone.
The only way is to sit and talk through what is wrong with him and why on earth he behaves in a way that you don't want him to.
Be open with your feelings and let him know how it hurts you when he behaves that way. May be when he knows or if he already knows how u feel then he will surely try to mend his behavior if he loves you. If he doesn't mend then think he doesn't love you.
Is he an Introvert by nature. 'cos if he is then he needs to go to a psychologist to correct and come out of his fear to socialize.
2006-08-16 07:42:05 · answer #6 · answered by iSurf 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Have you ever stopped to wonder what he finds infuriating about you?
He isn't fulfilling your idea of the 'perfect' boyfriend so you choose to assume he is 'doing this crap' to you?
Listen to yourself.
You are lucky he will go shopping with you at all if all you do is bend his ear!
2006-08-16 07:11:00 · answer #7 · answered by CC...x 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
JESUS CALLED AND HE SAID HE WANTS HIS CROSS BACK.
NOT EVERYONE THINKS JUST LIKE YOU DO.
SOME PEOPLE FEAR INTIMACY AND SHARING THEIR FEELINGS, ESPECIALLY IF THEY ARE UNSURE OF THEM.
GUYS ESPECIALLY, FEAR SHARING FEELINGS WITH GIRLS WHO EXPECT THEM TO BE RESPONSIBLE FOR THEIR FEELINGS (AND THEIR HAPPINESS). THAT'S YOUR JOB ANYWAY, NO ONE WANTS THAT KIND OF RESPONSIBILITY.
BACK OFF AND QUIT SMOTHERING HIM. BE HAPPY WITH HIM THE WAY HE IS, OR MOVE ON ALTOGETHER AND ....
.....GET WITH A GUY YOU'RE SO HAPPY WITH YOU WILL WANT TO CALL ALL YOUR FRIENDS AND BRAG ABOUT HIM....
OH, AND BY THE WAY, NEVER GO OUT AND BUY SHOES THAT ARE THREE SIZES TOO SMALL....NO MATTER HOW MUCH YOU LIKE THEM AND HOW HARD YOU WISH....THEY WILL NOT MAGICALLY FIT YOU SOME DAY.
2006-08-16 11:55:14 · answer #8 · answered by pandora the cat 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I agree with Jsomething and brinlarr (though I do not think it is a gender thing but a personality problem)
2006-08-16 07:04:30 · answer #9 · answered by mlm 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Maybe your a little too much lady for him. Back down and set him free.
2006-08-16 22:10:38 · answer #10 · answered by FroomeSTAR 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋