Alright,it's like this,I'm 30 years old with a pretty level head but here's the deal;I've always been one to stay on top of my priorities and do my best to keep my life in order.2 years ago I met a man who basically screwed my head up,something that I just don't let happen.I've been unhappy and stressed and now hopeless and depressed.We made the decision to part ways but I know that he would be the type to always find a negative,childish way to always interfere with my life.I moved out of my home a year ago and since have been living with my mother and my 4 girls,13,11,10,9.I'm currently living in a small town with not much oppurtunity.I have a chance to move away to a larger town and start over but my mom are overprotective of my kids and prefers me to leave them while I get myself together.I know it's alot of responsibility for her,but she has alot of help and basically have been taking care of them anyway because I just can't focus.Should I take this and send for them later?
2006-08-15 23:32:28 · 5 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Other - Family & Relationships
First of all you need to get yourself together if you want to take care of your kids. You have to be ok in order to be able to care for them I think it's a very good idea to move to a bigger city and put things in order so you can later on send for your kids and be able to provide for them . plus I think a little time to yourself won't hurt. Take some time to relax, pamper yourself and you'll feel much better. there is nothing wrong if you let your children with your mother for a little time. good luck
2006-08-15 23:47:02 · answer #1 · answered by Scooby 6 · 1⤊ 1⤋
Wow a lot has been happening to you lately.
You need a rest.
There has been a stressful and damaging relationship and the potential control of a protective mother.
While respecting your mother's loving opinion you have the right to choose the loacation of your children. Their primary relationship is with you.
Your choices might me
* stay longer where you are an get your self back to a place of peace
* move to the other town, get established and bring the children later or
* take the children with you to the new town.
But, more important, how are you in yourself? Priority one has to
be restoring yourself in mind and spirit...
Take time, get some help, it really matters
2006-08-16 07:49:23 · answer #2 · answered by Peter H 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
i think it is a good idea to get yourself settled before bringing the girls into it. you don't want to have to drag them back and forth if things don't work out. your mom is giving you a great opportunity to try something while looking after the girls. they need stability and right now your mom can offer that. once you are on your feet again, send for them.
2006-08-16 07:53:46 · answer #3 · answered by SheShe13 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
i think your children are old enough to be asked what their opinion is, and to have the situation explained to them..and to give them the choice before you make a decision...so you can make a decision that will work best for everyone ..and your children will feel like they have played a part in it....
2006-08-16 06:42:03 · answer #4 · answered by she wolf. 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
SOUNDS LIKE AN OPPORTUNITY, DONT NEGLECT IT. GET A JOB, PLACE TO LIVE, AND KIDS. GOOD LUCK BABE. (AND DON'T LET YOUR FRIEND KNOW ABOUT THE MOVE)
2006-08-16 07:28:28 · answer #5 · answered by sinned 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋