i am worried about my first time. i am 20 and have had sex with a number of girls but now i have finally found the right man. i have done other things with him but im worried about him shagging me. i want to do it but i dont know what its going to be like.
2006-08-15 23:30:47 · 18 answers · asked by david p 2 in Society & Culture ➔ Cultures & Groups ➔ Lesbian, Gay, Bisexual, and Transgender
Start stretching your ***. Wash your hands. Use your fingers, work up to dildo's.
Get an enema before hand. Use female douche products or a water bottle.
Have plenty of lube and condoms on hand. Eros Pur or Wet are pretty good.
Have him enter you slowly. Once he is in you have him stay there a minute or 2 and let your passage adjust to its size. While you wait tell him how much you want his d!ck and how sexy he is.
Then he can start thrusting - slow at first. Soon enough he will be pounding the hell out of you. Just be patient. First few times might be hard. Then you adjust. Trust me on this - it is worth it!
Absolutely no anal with out a condom unless you are monogamous, have been together for months and have aids test results.
2006-08-16 01:27:49 · answer #1 · answered by Think.for.your.self 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
First and foremost, I hope your sexual experiences with girls have been safe, with the use of a condom. Your first experience with a man, as all of your experiences at least until you are in a long-term monogamous relationship should be with the use of a condom and plenty of water-based lubricant. Then don't worry about what it will be like, just experience it. I assume this is a person you care very much about, and he cares about you.
One of the keys to making it pleasurable rather than painful is relaxation, and if you're all keyed up with expectations, you won't relax. Take it slow, don't do it unless you trust him...trust him to slow down or stop if you are uncomfortable, or need more lubrication. It will be fine. Good luck.
2006-08-16 09:00:58 · answer #2 · answered by michael941260 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
depending on how big he is also, what you got to remember is that you set the pace if you find it hurts stop take a breather and start again, don't let anyone else force you into something you not comfortable doing, and remember to use a water based lubricant and a condom.
You can always try it on your own by gently inserting finger into your anus again using lube, another tip is to use a douche to clear all the residue.
2006-08-16 07:35:16 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Take it easy, relax, use a condom and enjoy.
Use a silicone-based lubricant, way better than water based and is latex friendly.
Make sure, as others have said that he enters you 'very' slowly, your speed not his. Have him use his fingers to start with just to let you adjust to being entered.
2006-08-16 08:29:20 · answer #4 · answered by Stuart C 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
just make sure to do it safe , and you shouldn't feel afraid , on the contrary, you should feel excited ! ... just try to imagine how good it is going to be and concentrate on the nice images or dreams you have about this thing ! ... of-cores ... showing allot of passion before having sex will comfort you allot , and you'll feel that its the right moment !
2006-08-16 06:43:31 · answer #5 · answered by confused 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I've been gay all my life and have NEVER taken it up there.
It's just something I'm not in to at all....never have been and never will be. I don't judge others for their sexual conduct and I'm not "against" it. It's just not something I enjoy....whether giving or receiving.
If you want to do it, just be sure you're SAFE.
2006-08-16 10:20:25 · answer #6 · answered by Jake 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Talk to him and let him know it's your first time and he needs to be patient and go easy on you. You may have troublethe first time, but once you are used to it, you will love it!
2006-08-16 10:57:55 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Are You Sure That are you a gay. any way if you like him try to do that if only you sure he is not an freek
2006-08-16 06:45:51 · answer #8 · answered by goodguy_a2000 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
ok i am an very very young expert uh it feels like a tube going up your but but it ant smothe is is rouch the faster you go the more it hurt ok bye
2006-08-16 06:44:06 · answer #9 · answered by Leo 1 · 0⤊ 1⤋
If you've already done it with girls, it's not that different. Just enjoy yourself.
2006-08-16 10:53:36 · answer #10 · answered by Nick 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋