Why am I so worried?

Question

I'm always obsessing about my appearance. Is this a bad thing? I mean I want to look good.

Im 13 I'm not worried about my weight though. Also I'm always thinking people think I'm ugky or something because I wear glasses.

on top of all that I'm starting sevetn grade witch makes it all worse. Also I have to worry about getting good grades and all that. I hate my life.

Answer 1

You are like me too... I am always thinking about what to wear, am I wearing too much or is it the rite way for me to dress in this way and what accessories I shld wear, what shoes I need to match and what hairstyle shld I tie.... what perfume shld I put on.. etc... It is bad because I realised I am a perfectionist, no matter what I do, or how hard I tried, I cannot be satisfied, eventhough my fren say I look ok but I feel otherwise. I am now trying to stop myself to think and to obess myself about my apperance because I feel that I m living in misery.. I cannot even feel a tinge of happinese when I am enjoying a dinner or a night out when all I can think of is my apperance.. so dear... lets curb it and just be happy with ourselves... yeah!!!

Answer 2

Maybe at this time in life, your appearance is an important aspect of your life. Possibly when you have children, (if you don't already), you may be obsessed about things in their lives. Or, when you get married (if you're not already), you'll be concentrating on the relationship. Everyone concentrates on different things as they progress in life. It is completely normal. I used to be obsessed with what I wore to school until I graduated high school. Now, I'm happy wearing a t-shirt and jeans. I used to be a clean freak in my 20s. Now, I'm more lax on how my house is kept, and more into getting A's in all of my college classes.

Answer 3

You are just the person my age and I am also going into 7th grade and stuff,but ok I don't wear glasses or worry about my beauty,but I still have to also worry about getting good grades,but the difference in you and me is that I never care about what people think about me,as long as they are not people who are too close to me like my parents or my brother,even my classmates' thoughts about me don't always worry me that much,I am not the beauty of my school and I am not worried about that.I like myself for who I am,even though I have freckles,funny teeth and people call me a geek,see I didn't even get scared of saying that!So think about what I said and good luck:)

Answer 4

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Answer 5

Its nothing wrong with wanting to look nice because face it everyone wants to look nice but you should always remember its whats on the inside that counts. Don't be so worried that you stop eating or waste all your money on clothes and shoes. Also remember there is much more to a person than looks and there is much more to life than worrying about your looks

Answer 6

There is nothing wrong with wanting to look good. It only becomes a problem if it starts to interfere with your life. For example, if you are tardy because you took too long to get ready, or if you don't go places because YOU think that you don't look good enough.

Answer 7

From what I have heard almost all girls care about their appearance and want to look good, its just human nature but of course realistically appearance is not soooo important.

Answer 8

insecurities are totally normal. as long as you don't let it run your life, then you're fine. make sure you don't anger anyone around you just because you can't stop lookin in the mirror every 20 seconds and asking "how do i look??" every 10 seconds and not believing them when they tell you the truth that YOU LOOK FINE!!

Answer 9

(sigh). You need counseling for your damaged self-esteem. Talk to your doctor or a counselor soon. Also, look into assertiveness training. Good luck.

Answer 10

you need to get right in your head... take care of yourself stay clean don't over do the make up and you will always be the best looking girl...... be true to you and don't worry so much....