2006-08-15 22:26:59 · 31 answers · asked by selamalash 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
Wow!! No sympathy here. I feel for this loser's wife who is at home washing his shitty underwear and cooking him food that he doesn't appreciate and takes for granted. Why don't you marry him so he can cheat on you?
2006-08-15 22:33:45 · answer #1 · answered by Tony 4 · 1⤊ 1⤋
Dating married men in the first place is wrong, and I think you know know it. The men have it both ways, having a little on the side, and the security of a wife at home and usually children are also invovled
Down through the ages, men have have been using the excuses, that they can't divorce their wives for a variety of reasons, The excuses are generally the same. I can't because of the children, or my wife will take everthing if I ask for a divorce, and I won't get to see my chilren, which they often don't pay that much attention to, when they're home, because they leave it all up to their wives anyway.
Oh!, and the all time favorite:"My wife doesn't understand me."
I but I'm in no position to leave her, because she's so fragile, that she might do something desperate if I do.
This is a no win situation for you. Deep down I think you prefer married man, because you don't want the true commitment that goes with with getting invovled with a man who isisn't married,
The statistics shows that few men ever break up their marriages, because they are so in love with their mistresses, that they are willing to throw everthing they've build up in their marriages for an affair.
That's all this probably is.an affair to him, but he'll tell you what you want to hear, that he loves you more then his wife, and would leave if he could. and usually sights most of the reasons I've just said. Get out while the getting is good. Think with your head for a change, not with the heart, or the other end.
2006-08-16 01:36:40 · answer #2 · answered by virgiinia r 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
They all have excuses why they 'can't' leave their wives. The fact is he never, for a second, planned or intended to leave his wife. He wanted some strange on the side, and thats where you come in. I doubt that you are deeply in love, how can you be 'deeply in love' with someone who comes over long enough to get off then goes home to his wife??? If thats what you call love I think you need to rethink your definition. You were foolish to start this and now you need to pay the consequences. Haven't you heard...men have been giving the other woman these excuses since marriage began and unfortunately women haven't become bright enough to see it for the fiction that it is. And in case you doubt me, he certainly CAN divorce his wife, no reason he couldn't although there are plenty of excuses that would prevent it. What he means is he WON'T leave his wife. You make too much noise about it then you become a problem and not the fun fling on the side, therefore you no longer play your part and you are replaced. Guess what even if he did leave her for you all you would end up with is a guy that you know for a fact cheats on his wife (and that would be you next time). If they'll do it with you, they'll do it to you. Yep, that sounds like lots of fun but personally I would rather avoid it.
2006-08-15 23:04:28 · answer #3 · answered by dappersmom 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
This man has turned you into a booty call. He has no intentions of divorcing his wife. His actions are showing you that. To many women give up the "prize" before know what the man is about. The best way to find out is not to have sex with a man. A man that wants to get to know you will wait for you when you are ready. A man that is just using you will go away quickly if you don't give it up and move on to the next victim. Break it off with him and the sooner the better. You probably have told him that you love him and he is playing off of that in knowing that you will keep coming back. Just break it off and move on. There are better men out there for you. It takes time but you will see in the future when it does happen. Take care and God Bless you.
2006-08-15 23:15:24 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Did you know he was married when you started dating him? If the answer is yes then you knew what you were getting into and I can't help you.
If you did not know he was married, meaning he lied to you, then you need to let him know that you want better for your life than to be spending the rest of it with a coward and a liar. You love him, but if he loved you then he would be getting a divorce. I'm sure he has his reasons but they are probably all lies as well. I don't care how great you think he is, I can tell you, it's all fantasy! You want to spend the rest of your life living a fantasy then go for it. You want to have a real relationship with a real man then you need to live in the real world. Trust me when I tell you this, there are many kinds of love and a love built on lies and deception is a love that can not sustain the test of time.
2006-08-16 01:27:12 · answer #5 · answered by Sister Cat 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You should have known better to get involved with a married man in the first place. That's your fault. Now that he's told you he wont divorce his wife, it's time for you to dump this guy. Why people let theirselves get involved with married people is just insane beyond belief. You're setting yourself up for heartache all the way.
2006-08-16 00:17:34 · answer #6 · answered by KITTY LOVER 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
He cant divorce his wife...... Translates to, I wont leave my wife for you. No matter what wonder full or weird excuse he has to back this up, it just means he wont leave his wife for you now or ever. Unfortunately this man is what I like to refer to as a 'Jerk Boy'. He doesn't love you honey..... A 'Jerk Boy' loves to manipulate women's feelings and emotions in order to get what they want out of them. He is telling you what you want to hear, because your hot and he wants to roll around in the sack with you. If I was you, I would do his wife a favour and bring her evidence of his relationship with you. If he is cheating on her with you, then I bet it isn't the first time he has done it. What men will do with you, they will do to you. Why would you want to settle for a guy that will go find a new piece of *** to play around with, when he gets bored with yours?
2006-08-15 22:50:47 · answer #7 · answered by Jenni 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Don't do anything. Let your emotions go, but don't force him to divorce or whatever. I am sure you cannot love him as much as his wife does, remember, she has been through the good as well as hard times with him throughout their lives.
Try to talk to him, but if you still feel like you cannot live without him, leave him alone as soon as possible. For your own good. :) I keep my fingers crossed for you. I know it must be very difficult for you, but he isn't the only one. Good luck :)
2006-08-16 01:06:14 · answer #8 · answered by Blisska 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Level 2 is so right. Getting involved with a guy who has a commtment to someone else cant work out. Peace.
2006-08-16 01:24:34 · answer #9 · answered by Jo 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
That guy is enjoying himself. Nothing else. He knows he is married, started dating with you. Now its normal for all of those to tell he cant divorce his wife. Open your eyes. Look for real meaning in your relationship.
To know his actual colors, threaten him, that if he doesnt divorce his wife, you will do something. See his response. It will be nothing.
Think again - about such relationships.
2006-08-15 22:31:57 · answer #10 · answered by Indian_Male 4 · 2⤊ 1⤋
Do you really want to waste your life on this guy - he is never going to totally commit to you consequently no prospect of children or a home - you need to dump him and get on with your life. If you dont you will end up 20 years down the line wondering what happened to your life
2006-08-15 22:30:56 · answer #11 · answered by boo 5 · 2⤊ 1⤋