My best friend is friends with my ex-boyfriend & we were all supposed to be going on holiday together. After I split with my boyfriend I didn't go on the holiday & because of the sleeping arrangements my friend ended up sharing a bed with him! She said she couldn't promise me that nothing would happen between them if they had a few drinks! He has been nasty to me & is very manipulating & they've probably talked about me. They came back from the holiday last week & I haven't heard a word from her (even after I text her to say hello?!). I feel really angry that she hasn't contacted me, even to reassure me about things... & if something did happen between them I'm not sure if I could forgive her! Is it worth losing my friend over this guy or is she not worth it anyway?
2006-08-15 22:24:46 · 20 answers · asked by AJay 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Friends
oh my god you poor thing....she is certainly not a friend because if she was she would have never made that remark she couldn't promise that nothing would happen between them if they had a few drinks! you dont need friends like her and to be quite honest i would not be suprised if they are a couple now...if she didnt do anything with him on the holiday she would obviously been in contact with you by now... hun,go out and get yourself a new friend coz she is no friend!!!! Good Luck hun :-)
2006-08-15 22:31:41 · answer #1 · answered by IrishLassie 4 · 3⤊ 1⤋
Stuff the pair of them. You are far better off without such a boyfriend, and what was your friend thinking of going on holiday with him anyway? Not about your feelings that's for sure.What a cow! They really are a match aren't they?
Go out, take up new interests, make new friends, and don't give her a second thought. Move on. You are worth far more than have someone like her reassure you.
2006-08-15 22:57:04 · answer #2 · answered by Thia 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I think she is being insensitive and is nt ur frnd if she does like that. She shud at least consider ur feelings given that u hav just broken up.Its actually silly losing a frnd over a guy, but from whatever u said, she and also that is not worth it. Try catching her somehow and talk to her about the matter and then decide for sure is she worthy enough.U will find better frnds and bf.don't worry.
Best of luck pal.
2006-08-15 22:34:24 · answer #3 · answered by Roosh 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
She is definitely not worth it! Look the mere fact that she hooked up with your ex is.....wroooong..... but you still cling to her as a friend and after all that you have done for your friendship (putting up with everything, she could not promise to leave the hanky panky for when they are away from you (try to stay half sober). Come on you know that she does not deserve a friend with your kind of caliber..... I think she is gonna look back at it some day very soon and feel very low.
2006-08-15 22:42:24 · answer #4 · answered by chad g 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
id say if she was a real friend she wouldnt have slept in the bed to start with . im sure somethin could have been woked out . i would have slept on the floor rather than in bed with him . i would say her not contacting you is a sign of guilt after all the first thing people do when they get home is call there family n friends n tell them about there holiday .
2006-08-16 01:09:42 · answer #5 · answered by lancaster_hayley 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Look love, take it from someone who knows - there is no way she can be a friend of yours if she can do that. It doesn't matter that you split form your ex, a true friend would never, ever disregard your feelings so cruelly.
Think about it - she wants your left overs?!
Time to get a new friend - this whole episode did you a favour as you can now see her for what she truly is - self centred!
2006-08-15 22:37:15 · answer #6 · answered by Pommie girl 2 · 2⤊ 0⤋
We all expect loyalty from our friends. And you are right to expect it from your friend. However, if she was in love with him, then you'd have to make allowances. It depends on how deep her feelings are. Do you want him back? Do you feel betrayed? If you don't want him back, then I'd just grin and bear it. You know if he manipulated her, he'll do the same to her. Of course, she might react differently and it might work out for her.
Either way, if it was just a passing fancy, I'd be more angry. We all do crazy things when we're in love.
2006-08-15 22:45:56 · answer #7 · answered by True Blue Brit 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
if she really true friend and really care of you she should not never will take any benefit from you or do anything that could harm or hurt you. If she did that especially she realize when doing that mistake...means she is not worthy to be your friend and its works for your boyfriend too.
Ask the truth for what was happening during the vacation with your boyfriend and her
Good Luck
2006-08-15 22:33:30 · answer #8 · answered by Fie 3 · 0⤊ 1⤋
you already know something happened dont you,,and the worse thing is she had the nerve to warn you,,nice of her to soften the blow,,,,if it were me i would go over there say my piece,stick my nose in the air and tell her not to bother coming to me moaning about him,,then just turn and walk calmly off.it may hurt a bit but can you honestly trust her with anything after this,,may as well get it off your chest.
2006-08-15 22:38:33 · answer #9 · answered by lex 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You had broken up. Surely your ex is fair game.
OK that may sound a little harsh but it's true. If you don't want to be with this guy don't worry who he is with and get on with your life.
As for your friend. If she slept with him and gossipped about you then you should question your relationship. Not that she shouldn't see you ex but because she should be throughtful enough to discuss it with you.
Just my opinions though
2006-08-15 22:31:55 · answer #10 · answered by e404pnf 3 · 1⤊ 1⤋