My boyfriend and I have been together a little over a year and have talked about getting married. I was living with him for a while bu tmoved out due to some difficulties between us. We have since tried to work through those difficulties as we know we really do have a good relationship and really, they are minor things, in all honesty. He has been asking me to move back in with him again, but I am not certain that is the best thing to do, under the circumstances. I just don't want the relationship to go sour and I feel it is best to err on the side of caution, for now.
Last night, we got together and well, it was that time of the month for me and he actually (how to say nicely?) finished the event without a condom. As soon as he did, I asked him - What just happened? No way could he have done what I thought he did., but yes...he DID!
He said he wanted to do it to show me how CLOSE he feels to me.
He wanted to show me how much I mean to him, he said.
That was so wrong.
2006-08-15 22:24:07 · 13 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Other - Family & Relationships
I was really mad. We are both adults and monagamous, so please spare me the whole condom lecture. Usually he will use one midway. I cannot believe he did that to me!!!
To top it off, he couldn't figure out why I was mad about it!!??
He said the chances of me getting pregnant at that time were so slim, but who the hell is HE to decide that?!
Was that rude or what??
2006-08-15 22:27:22 · update #1
Ummm...to boot he is a moron. You sure as h**l can get pregnant during your period. The odds are not greatly reduced as ovulation and the end stage of menstruation can overlap. This guy seems like a creep and you had better hope his little act didn't lock him into your life for 18 years.
Also, precum carries sperm; albeit not as much and less viable sperm...you can get pregnant this way as well.
2006-08-15 22:32:01 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Hmm Ive gone through the same with my fiance, but the BIG difference is that we both decided to do it, anyhow explain him that is not the fact he "finished" inside and that he thought its be something "nice" cause itd show you how much he cares about you, but is the fact that a BABY can come, even if you have a .01% of chances, but it CAN happen, and that you are just not ready for the resposibility of being a parent, that you wanna spend some more time with him before being a parent and, plan when the time comes (as is right) to have a baby, but this choices are made by BOTH
not only you or him
Oh if you really dont want to even risk it, take the morning after pill, I did it when i had my period and my fiance and i did that cause i figured we werent ready for a baby, and it worked, you can take it up to 3 days after
Good luck!
2006-08-15 22:46:02 · answer #2 · answered by jimena 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
No pity girl. It's your body. It takes two U know. There was no rape........right? You can't put the whole birth control thing on him. Women have been trying to put this on the guys since Eve. U share the responsability. If you don't want a kid take the proper measures no matter what he thinks. The mother of my god daughter didn't use birth control because it made her gain weight. Now she's a single mother with no husband and no child support and gained more weight by pregnancy than she would have by using birth control. She's not a stupid girl but will pay for a stupid decision for all her life. Meanwhile her parents are raising her child financially. Wize up Girl! You girls have the final say in procreation. All you have to say is NO. It's that simple if U are with a gentleman. Don't go around blaming your poor choices on Us men. Nobody buys that lame excuse any more.
2006-08-15 23:02:01 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
I know that I am going against every thing every body else is saying' But it's just as much your fault as it is his. You don't care that much about this guy. If you did you would not be making this much fuss about it. If you felt this way why did you even let him start doing you without a condom. If you are going to fuc* him at least have enough sense to put on a condom or He doesn't get any. And 1 other thing. You said in your question ( What was he thinking) Same go's for you. Why did you spread your legs with a guy you say you have had problems with with out a condom. What were you thinking?
2006-08-15 22:50:05 · answer #4 · answered by Sarcastic Sid 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I can see your point.
Screw those 2 negative comments above.
I see the difference you are talking about.
Your boyfriend (whom you trust) completely shut you out of what should have been a much thought out, mutual decision and he did it to 'prove' he cared about you?!
That is completely ridiculous.
I'm guessing he had absolute control over the situation, if you two have always done the right thing in the past.
He obviously was aware of what he was doing before he did it and the fact that he didn't even let you know ahead of time is horrible.
Dump his ***.
PS - It almost sounds as though he's trying to 'trap' you.
Like a girl trapping a guy into staying by stopping her birth control or whatever. Can't say I've ever heard a guy trying anything like that, but it makes sense.
2006-08-16 00:56:32 · answer #5 · answered by Sixth_Sense 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
go get the morning after pill it seems pregnancy is the biggest fear here, as for using the condom u knew what you were doing to its very hard for a fella just to stop, i think if this relationship is a good one you should talk more and tell each other your fears if you think he done it on purpose then there is no trust there anyway so get out. it will only end in tears
2006-08-15 22:32:16 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Im sorry to say but it was rude. Who is he to make that decision for you but you knew he was not wearing a condom and there is pre-ejaculation that is happining during sex so you are taking a risk also. Give it a week and go to one of those dollar stores and get an EPT. Yes, they do sell em there sometimes.
2006-08-15 22:34:37 · answer #7 · answered by teddybar67 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Sounds like a bit of a dummy! I would dump him simply for such a breach of trust, If you still want him I would lay off the sex for a long time and see if your still together.
Put some distance and time between you and ask yourself if he's the right guy for you and if you can do better.
gl
2006-08-15 23:14:51 · answer #8 · answered by Mickenoss 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well, I'm sure you have your reasons to be angry, but I've had two girlfriends--I think also a third one; I can't remember if she did that or not--anyway, at least two girlfriends who liked having sex with me without a condom while they "had the moon with them." According to them, it's because they can't get pregnant while they're in their period.
2006-08-15 22:34:20 · answer #9 · answered by ♣Tascalcoán♣ 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
No, grownup content textile is in breach of the regulations and regulations. you will get mentioned and you would be sent a contravention word. whilst you're a repeat criminal you will be suspended.
2016-12-17 11:42:43 · answer #10 · answered by ? 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋