Over the weekend me and some friends went clubbing, my husband disappered and later when i checked the website i found pictures of him with loads of pretty girls, we are not talking at the moment as he says he can't remember, if that was me there would be uproar, am i bein silly?
2006-08-15 22:16:39 · 38 answers · asked by honey 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
How do you people come up with this stuff?
2006-08-15 22:20:06 · answer #1 · answered by Angela 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Hmmm, a lot of 'ifs' here if you want my opinion.
Firstly, if he was just standing here with there girls smiling, or if he was doing a Prince Harry with his hand down her top... its worlds apart. If he was literally smiling in a photo with some pretty girls and that what the extent of it, well I would suggest you are overreacting.
Secondly, if he says he cant remember (I am assuming because he was blind drunk) whilst it isnt really an excuse, the person doing those things probably wasnt thinking rationally, if at all. A lot of people do silly things when drunk, and depending on how far it went (Im assuming that at the very very worst he wouldnt have been unfaithful in any more then a 'kissing' sense of the term, as nightclubs dont really allow for much more) you will have to find out, and then ask yourself what constitutes an unforgivable sin, especially under the circumstances.
I can only suggest that not talking about it or to eachother is not helpful. If he knows what he did wrong (and if he can remember) and if he is sorry, it is a good starting point.
2006-08-15 22:26:55 · answer #2 · answered by Caffeine Fiend 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well im sorry to tell u this honey but ur not being silly now bcoz u have been silly all this while,what else do u want to be proved when ur husband dosent remember getting pictures taken of him with girls as soon as ur out of the house,but b4 u take any drastic decisions think about it for a while,im sure ur marriage cant be that fragile to throw away just like that,sit him down and have a chat,should things not work out,then its time for u to make a decision.....
All the Best Honey
2006-08-15 22:26:20 · answer #3 · answered by nice guy 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I don't think you're being silly but what I don't understand is why doesn't he remember them? Was he drunk when the pics were taken or is he just having fun posing w/ some girls? What were they doing in the pics? Were they naked? Sorry to be asking all these questions but it's hard to judge without knowing the contents of those pictures. Since this is obviously bothering you a lot, I suggest you speak with him about it if only for your own peace of mind.
2006-08-15 22:31:03 · answer #4 · answered by cheetah7 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
This could have been innocent fun?
You gotta ask yourself, why didi you feel the need to check on him? Sounds like a lot of insecurity. Has he cheated on you in the past or upset you in any way?
To be honest, if you are truely worried about his fidelity I'd sit down and talk properly to him.
I don't think youre silly, just insecure and there has to be a reason you feel like this.
2006-08-15 22:23:03 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
"Can't remember" is just a lame excuse. Ask yourself, why did he do it? What does he need from you that he hasn't been getting? A "fulfilled" and contented man isn't likely to behave this way. Ask him what it is that he needs in your marriage, and then if you can, provide it. If he "strays", that is a first step to a second step. What is the second step? Cheating? Take it as a sign that all is not well in your marriage, find out what it is, then give it to him if you can (because something's missing). Good luck!
2006-08-15 22:33:09 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
No, you are not being silly, but..... If you had all been drinking these things happen. I'm sure it was innocent and he got grabbed by those girls when someone pulled out a camera. Talk to him about it and try get him to open up/try to remember what happened.
2006-08-15 23:43:31 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
No you are not, but how on earth did you find your husband's photos on the internet? Is this normal? How is he depicted in the photos? Is he doing something wrong or is he just hangin our with the girls?
And I'm really sorry but I would not buy the excuse of "not remembering"...
It's very naive!
2006-08-15 22:29:22 · answer #8 · answered by ngiapapa 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You are not being silly. But talking about it is the best thing. Hopefully once tempers have calmed down a bit it will be eadier to talk.
Good luck.
2006-08-15 22:27:48 · answer #9 · answered by snowfoxx71 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
what was he doing wth the girls? if he's just posing for a photo what's the problem..if he's getting it on with them then you have some serious talking to do. perhaps clubbing now you are married is not the best idea!
2006-08-15 23:06:56 · answer #10 · answered by minerva 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Men are visual creatures. Are these girls before you were married? He is with you right? Is he showing you that he wants to end the marriage? You might be reading into it more than necessary.
2006-08-15 23:20:43 · answer #11 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋