I am wondering why it seemed that I was able to make and maintain friendships all throughout high school. But as high school wore on (specifically junior year) I started to lose more and more friends to the point where I am now 22 and have only one main friend. I don't know why I lost all those friends and am wondering what I could do to form new ones that are positive and meaningful and supportive??
2006-08-15 21:59:38 · 9 answers · asked by girliejess 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Friends
I think this happens to a lot of people. Even some of the people I know who are very outgoing and involved in many activities don't have many meaningful friendships. People are awefully busy these days, and the people who make great friends already have many friends, lol.
I think the best thing to do is get involved in things that interest you. And remember that to have good friends you have to be a good friend. People like to be around others who are interesting, funny, positive, and assertive. Try to develop in yourself, the personality traits you like in others, and you'll find people want to be around you.
Also, don't be overwhelmed by the prospect of meeting a lot of people. Sometimes you'll meet one person and end up with several friends from just that one contact.
So, get involved in things, be positive, make an effort to meet up with people to do things, and give people enough time and space.
Oh ya, and if you can get over a fear of rejection, talking to people wherever you are is one way to make friends. But it takes a certain mindset that is difficult for shy people.
2006-08-15 22:12:43 · answer #1 · answered by moment_in_passing 3 · 1⤊ 1⤋
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2016-11-04 22:19:36 · answer #2 · answered by ? 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I think we all do, I had a masssive group of "friends" in high school and that list slipped when I left over the years. It's just when you leave school you get to know who your real friends are, all I can say is hold on to the ones who've stuck with you through leaving hogh school as they are firends for life... true friends.
2006-08-15 22:06:10 · answer #3 · answered by Katie 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Times change people move on, and other interests develop.
One good friend is fortunate. But if you want to make new friends get out there in life and do things that interest you. Be warm, open, and approachable. That should help expand your base.
2006-08-15 22:05:10 · answer #4 · answered by Angela 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
that is very normal, for friends to drift away. It has a lot to do with how busy we are in our world today. Don't worry too much about it.
I believe that the Bible says that "the only way to have a friend is to be one". .
in other words, don't wait for people to befriend you. Go out of your way to be nice to others, be a friend to them, and make friends with people you meet (at work, at school, whatever). Ask people about themselves, ask about their life. . (don't be a pest, but be inquisitive: Most people would love to have someone to listen to them talk about what they care about and who they are). .
good luck and God bless.
2006-08-15 22:05:12 · answer #5 · answered by Wayne A 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
you grew up and pursued a different path...and have become more discerning in your choice of friends. that's natural. meet new friends through things you're interested in, like art, or volunteer work, you'll be fine!
2006-08-15 22:05:06 · answer #6 · answered by Susie K 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
people move on and move away, others get married and dont associate with the same people..
2006-08-15 22:04:27 · answer #7 · answered by j@mE$ 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋
time to grow up buddy and move on, people do
2006-08-15 22:05:25 · answer #8 · answered by lyndles 3 · 0⤊ 1⤋
:) that's life...People have more going on now, priority's change...I'm sure you know how that is
2006-08-15 22:05:10 · answer #9 · answered by unitylife3105 1 · 1⤊ 0⤋