i hate everything .is that normal?

Question

although it seems that i'm living in a good conditions,but i rarely feel happy . is that normal for a girl who hasn been married for 4 months? i think something seriously wrong with me and i dont known what.i'm always dreaming negatively and i'v got a very low self confidential life. it seems that there's nothing in the world that could make me happy...

Answer 1

Make yourself a Deal - - - Challenge yourself - - - Wake Up and say to Self - - - I LIKE MYSELF I LOOK FABULOUS IT IS GOING TO BE A GREAT DAY - - - just one day at first but force yourself to think only positive, the very instant a negative thought rears its head, stomp it down. Like Whack a Mole - - - again start with One Day - - - just do it, even if people look at you funny when you smile & say it is a great day despite the tornado that tore up half the town.

Yes there is something wrong with you - - - but YOU can help yourself - - - why be dependent on a therapist - - - be your own therapist. Insist on ONE day of everything being positive, NO MATTER WHAT, and gradually you will find it possible to do it for two days, then more.

Does anything make you laugh - - - a book a comic a collection of silly stupid jokes -- - - keep it handy, snatch it out during moments of stress and reread that joke that makes you giggle. Smiles & Laughter can be infectious. Peace.

Answer 2

This is an entry on my blog, I hope it will help you. I felt the way you did.

(Oops that Beggar blog has infuriated my friend and she (who sent that "Best Comment On My Blog") sent this e-mail to me, with the PS from her husband, sharing it with you, please suggest -- her way or my way.)

Swapnil, I read your last blog, The Beggers Rag', it would have been a good piece of literature had you ended a story with those word. The problem with you is that the writer in you is so hungry for experiences that it has made you its guinea pig -- experimenting on you.

But, blaming him won't work fully, coz you have some fundamental attribution errors, and don't have much patience.

Look outside your window: can you see a big tree -- you must, there are trees everywhwere. Now tell me how much hurry that seed was in, who turned into the tree? The seed knew that with right nutrition it will grow into a tree. At that time it din't stop growing or taking roots fearing that if it grew well it would be cut down by some carpenter. It wasn't worrid while sprouting that some harbivour would eat it up. Once it sprouted, it never cared whether it would get water or not; if there was less, it deepened its roots.

Yes, it was careful before sprouting. The 'hard' seed din't 'softened' unless it found the suitable condition to grow. That is the way seeds are, they remain hard untill conditions are favourable. Then, they just don't care.

Look at that patient seed today -- such a big tree. Birds sit on it, people have opened shops beneath it. A seed smaller than your tooth is a huge tree now.

Look at nature, it is telling you everything, just you don't want to listen. You have taken an express way to life -- success or suicide, and do you know 'if you try to hatch an egg by breaking it, all you will get is yolk'. Don't do anything, don't think anything. Just close your eyes and live life of a seed, trust me you will become a tree.

Now its upto you, you want to become a banyan tree or yolk.

PS. On your 'dedicated love' thing: Be the banyan -- you will have birds ;)

Answer 3

Sounds like depression, and the only way to fix it is to go to a doctor. They make a number of medications now that help with that. Once you find one that works for you, you will be able to enjoy life again. Good luck. It can change.

Answer 4

unquestionably Danny, once you're a youthful guy it is totally regular to hate each and every of the failings you describe. lots of this has to do with puberty and the video games it performs with your strategies and physique. As you regulate into attentive to your seems and physique, it may additionally supply you low self-well worth and self belief. thankfully no longer purely is this a momentary subject, maximum of your hate is purely imaginary and specific to be some distance from certainty. would I advise that for a initiate you value your origins. Scotland is a brilliant us of a as is your very unique accessory. Be pleased with your history when you consider that is an area of who you're. so which you're easy. connect the prolonged kin as a results of fact maximum persons in the united kingdom are easy, somewhat this time of 12 months. a similar is going with muscle tissue, we don't get them with the aid of magic, we would desire to artwork at them over the years, alongside with a sturdy weight loss application. uninteresting hair would properly be regarded after actual with the aid of determining to purchase a shine shampoo and conditioner and ingesting slightly extra fruit and veg. all of us hate the rain and chilly yet howdy, it is the united kingdom and we comprehend that Scotland gets extra then it relatively is user-friendly share of the chilly and rain. As for Yahoo, use it for what it is. you do no longer would desire to sell your soul to it. yet being gay you mustn't hate. Being gay is going to be the utilising rigidity on your life that may assist you meet and take care of the aggravating circumstances that life throws at you. you're Scottish, so which you have sturdy blood and powerful ancestry to realize lots extra advantageous than you recognize. as properly, being gay will carry you happiness and fulfilment previous what you will possibly think of at this 2nd in time. no longer something stable on your life? Crikey, i'd say you have have been given each and every thing going for you, you purely have been given to snatch the probabilities that go your course and value the guy that asked the question.

Answer 5

i like this sentence "Hope..the source of your greatest strength and your greatest weakness"...
if we lose our hope,we lose everything.
Hope is everything..Read some success stories, look how people work,study and achieve; By consistency.
Select a few small aims to accomplish, than make them bigger.
First you should taste the pleasure of success. Just do it.
Take Care...
GoodLuck.

Answer 6

YOUR ALONE? YOUR NOT IN LOVE? YOU THINK NOBODY LOVES YOU? YOU HAVE NO FRIENDS? WELL, IM TELLIN YOU, CHEER UP DUDE! SMILE! HE CARETH FOR YOU! GOD LOVES YOU SO MUCH! DONT LOSE HOPE IN EVRYTHING YOU DO. A MERRY HEART DOETH GOOD LIKE A MEDECINE, LIKE A MEDECINE IS A MERRY HEART., A BROKEN SPIRIT DRIETH THE BONE.. BUT A MERRY HEART IS THE JOY OF THE LORD...

Answer 7

I WENT THROUGH SOMETHING SIMILAR TO THAT AFTER I GOT MARRIED AND RIGHT AFTER WE BOUGHT OUR HOUSE, IT'S JUST AN ADJUSTMENT THAT'S ALL IT WILL PASS. IT LASTED FOR ME ABOUT SIX MONTHS AND THEN IT JUST WENT AWAY--I FELT REALLY EMOTIONALLY HEAVY AND DRAINED, UNHAPPY, IT WAS DIFFICULT JUST TO TRY TO SOCIALIZE, EVEN MY EYES DIDN'T LOOK THE SAME TO ME, I DIDN'T BOTHER WITH DOING TO MUCH WITH MY APPEARANCE BECAUSE NO MATTER WHAT I WASN'T HAPPY WITH MYSELF--IT WAS JUST A HORRIBLE FEELING, I DON'T EVEN LIKE TO REMEMBER IT.

Answer 8

You might consider seeing a therapist.

Answer 9

thats abnormal u have to consult a male doctor

Answer 10

but how.....don't you feel in love?
your husband is the first that should makes you happy? maybe something i wrong here..