my 7 week old daughter?

Question

i have a 7 week old daugher and everytime i hold her she is fine she loves her cuddles of her mummy but when her daddy gets hold of her she screams i dont know if she does not see her daddy all the time because daddy does loads of long shifts now i am worried incase this is gonna happen all the time when she older when she gets held by her daddy when she screams her daddy gives me the baby now should he hold her even when shes screams so that she is getting used to him hope someone can understand this typing

first time mummy

Answer 1

She see's more of you so she feels more secure when she's with you. As she gets older that'll change. The same thing happened to me.

Answer 2

Your daughter simply knows you. She's comfortable with you, and she knows that you're going to take good care of her. She's not so sure about the daddy. That doesn't mean that it will always be that way. Right now everything is new to her, and all she knows is that she's comfortable with mommy. If he tries to spend more time with her, she'll realize that Daddy can comfortable too.. and that daddy can take care of her.

The worst thing that he can do is just hand her back to you when she starts crying. I know that it breaks your heart to hear her cry.. but this just reaffirms her belief that Daddy can't take care of her. If he keeps her and tries.. it's going to let her know that he's trying. They'll get used to each other.. and soon, you're going to have a little Daddy's Girl who cries when he leaves.

I wouldn't worry about it too much right now . Congratulations.

Answer 3

make sure the daddy keeps holding the baby, it's the smell thing the baby as been with you since it was born the baby knows your smell where's the daddy works long hours the baby doesn't yet know the daddy yet. Give it time when the baby is older more aware of his/her surroundings things will be fine. Good luck

Answer 4

Don't worry too much she will get used to him, maybe he has a loud voice or deep voice that she doesn't hear too much.
Have you got a baby seat try putting her in that so he can chat to her without holding her.
Are you hovering in the background ready to pounce when she cries.
Babies do get used to the mothers smell and voice if she hears you more she will be wanting you. Try to go into another room so she can't see you.
In a few weeks she should settle down.
Book an appointment with the hairdressers and treat yourself in a couple of weeks and leave him to look after her when you feel a bit more confident leaving her with him.
I imagine you hold her more relaxed than hubby as you have more contact.
Get dad to feed her, if you are breastfeeding express some milk. They will soon bond.

Sorry if that doesn't flow too well, I have not slept all night.
Hope this helps. :-)

Answer 5

Don't worry my five month old son did this and it did upset my husband. What you have got to remember is that you are your babies world at the moment, she sees you all the time and doesn't yet recognise other people. My son now gets really excited when daddy comes through the front door at night. Sometimes now he prefers daddy to put him to sleep and not me so it will change soon. Don't get anxious over it or she will pick up the vibes and it will take longer for her to get used to daddy.

Answer 6

Babies are very sensitive to peoples emotions, if daddy is feeling stressed when he holds her she will sense this and feel unsafe. Tell dad not to take it personally and just spend more time getting to know her, be confident and if she screams, well it wont do her any harm. I doubt its because she doesnt know him, shes a little to young for this yet. Babies are comfortable with people who know what they are doing, there instincts kick in, its a safety thing. Encourage daddy and baby time to gain confidence, it will be fine i promise xx

Answer 7

If her Dad is lacking in confidence, she may feel this and feel insecure, so he should persevere, to build his own confidence up. Some babies are just more attached to one parent over another, one of my twins was a total Daddies boy and the other was always with me. As they got older it got better, so don't worry too much, just enjoy being a family together when you can

Good luck

Answer 8

In about 2 weeks she will do the same to you. I had this with my daughter as I was breast feeding her and at home all day with her. Just ride it out and make sure Daddy holds her even if she is yelling, don't worry it is just a phase.

Answer 9

it is very normal!! at the moment being new to the world, you are her life line at the moment she knows your smell and if she cant smell you for while she will feel insecure, as far she is concerned she is part of you, she not know herself as an separate identity. also she may pick up that daddy is a little nervous holding her. my partner was and she knew, and felt unsafe. she will grow out of it it wasnt till about 3 months until daddy could hold her without her crying.

Answer 10

well my son is 7 months old and he does that with his daddy. He didn't do it when he was that young. His dad also works long hours and when my son cries with him he will hand him to me and I keep telling him you have to stop doing that or he will always want me. If my baby cries to long for him then i will take him. I think it is just a phase with them and they will get over it. My son more does it when he is tired. He just wants his mommy. I am sure it will all pass in time. Congratulations and good luck to you and your new baby.

Answer 11

She is more used to you.

Make sure that he holds her when he is home. And try holding her with him so that she knows you are there.

They do grow out of it as they get older but you should attempt to get the bond started now rather than later.

My husband was gone all the time when the kids were babies. So, I made sure that he held them while he watching television and I would sit right next to him.