My children are 22 and 9 and I want a baby?

Question

Do you see it as a positive or negative having at least 10 yrs apart? I will be 41.

Answer 1

Mine are feb 81 feb 91 apr 01 -- 25 15 and 5 The 10 years between the oldest and the middle ones where great they are both boys. The 20 years between the oldest and youngest Boy and girl, is really good too. But the 15 year old boy and the 5 year old girl....constant bickering...its horrible! But I wouldn't have done it any other way. And I'm 43 now. Good luck either way.

Answer 2

No, except for spoiling, by the oldest. That's what my sisters did. I didn't have to begin talking until age 3, because all I had to do was point, and I got whatever it was from them. It was only after my parents divorce that mom really started making me talk properly, and yes, haven't shut up since. I lost my oldest sister last Fall. The other one is in poor health, but I will not forget the early years, nearly 50 years ago.

You might have some limited problems with the 9 year old. He/She will not enter the next stage of development where the brain begins processing data and understanding the meaning behind things for another 3 years, plus or minus a couple. He/She is a child, and assuming that the oldest is not living at home, had nearly exclusive rights to you for a few years, but now that has changed. It might help to give her a life size baby doll, that she can do the same things with that you are doing with the baby, such as bathing. I hope everything goes well.

Answer 3

My first reaction was to ask you if you were nuts, or if you wanted to borrow one of mine to test that theory out. Then I had to stop myself because I have a twenty year old daughter and a five year old son with three others in between. And I realized having them spaced so much (all mine are about 3-4 yrs apart), you'll always have help, a baby sitter, and the baby will be grown before it's time to retire. I don't see anything wrong with it, however, just make sure you are doing this because you want to bring another child into this world, and aren't doing it because everyone else at our age is having babies and it's the "in" thing to do. Or, even worse, some underlying selfish reason like saving a marriage. You had two babies already you know how much work they are, if this is what you want, you are in good health and have a game plan, then go for it.

Answer 4

I don't see how that would be a negative.. I was recently pregnant (sadly I lost the baby during 2nd trimester on Aug 4 and had to deliver our beautiful son). If our angel was born there would of been a 9 year difference between my other child. As long as you have love to give to all the children there is no negatives at all. I wish you luck.

Hugs Mel

Answer 5

It depends on how old u r ! Its not really fair though if you think about it its not fair to the children. You may not llive that much longer and your 22 year old son gets to see you half his life and if you had a baby they wouldnt really know you like your 22 year old child gets to. Do you understand what I am saying? I am not to make a choice for you I am just saying think about it first - maybe buy a new pet or something and baby it but I wouldnt go as far as having another child until youve throuly thought it through. Also talk with your children about it see what they think

Answer 6

I was ten when my brother was born. I seem to have more in common with him than I do with my brother who's 4 years younger. You always have to wait and see of course but if you're afraid the gap might be too big from the kids point of view I would not worry.

If you have doubts about your own age, it is on the old site for having children, and there are risks (you know them better than I do). Be careful and ask people around you and also go for medical advice before going on with it. Good luck and much happiness!!

Answer 7

I would say the biggest issue would come with the relationship you have with your partner. That much age difference your children will not have a close "peer" relationship, so that should limited tension there. The issue to me would be whether or not you still want kids in the house at 60. Hope that helps.

Answer 8

My oldest sibling was 24 when I was born... the youngest was 16. My mother was 42.

My only word of advice to you would be to think of the child and what he/she will experience. During my childhood, everyone always thought that my mom was my grandmother. My parents were always too tired to do a lot of things that my friends were doing with their parents. They did not want to spend a lot of money on things because they were trying to save for retirement. It was hard not having someone to grow up with... my siblings are so much older than me... and they always wanted to treat me like a child and boss me around.

Just my opinion. Your experience maybe entirely different.

Answer 9

If you really want that baby go 4 it, but at ur age it might b risky to have a baby. My mom had lots of complications when she gave birth ot my sis and she was 38 so........
But about age difference between siblings, that's totally fine.

Answer 10

13 years between them? And I thought it was weird that my girlfriend Iris is 9 yrs. older than her lil sis Daphne. Darius is only 4 yrs. younger than I am.