my bf is still friends with his ex i been with him 7 yrs but he lies when he goes to see her he dont know i know im sure they not having a affair but it still hurts dont tell me to talk to him cos i tried but is having a ex still accepable when im going through this pain....
2006-08-15 20:06:25 · 21 answers · asked by midge 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Other - Family & Relationships
we been down this road before with her i caught him out i found texts on his phone 2 years ago he said they just friends and thats it i dont wanna loose him but im so Frustrated now god i dont know what to do we have so much together please help me
2006-08-15 20:19:31 · update #1
being friends with and ex is not wrong.. what makes it wrong in your case though is that he feels he has to lie about it.. I would say that because he lies about it there is something wrong there and I would call him on it.. But if he's honest with you about it and you trust him, I don't see anything wrong with remaining friends with an ex..
2006-08-15 20:10:35 · answer #1 · answered by LokoLobo 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Why put yourself thru the pain.If you are certain that he's seen his ex, for whtever reason, no need to even sit him down to explain. If he loves you, he would see the pain his causing regardless. It's your life, your decision, make it. At the end of the day, you dont want to be full of regrets of "you should have kicked his azz sooner". If he has any kind of association with his ex, then something is definitely cooking. Wake up and smell whts brewing. Dont show weakness. Goodluck.
2006-08-16 03:20:46 · answer #2 · answered by ariel 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well honestly if you've been with him for 7 years and you KNOW he's not having an affair, then whats the big deal? Obviously they are good friends, why do you want to come between his friendships? Is she prettier than you? Whats the prob if they aren't having sex? Is she married/involved with someone else? On the other hand though...lying to your partner is completely unacceptable...If he wants to continue to see her then he needs to be honest with you...up front. Otherwise he shouldn't blame you for being upset.
2006-08-16 03:11:46 · answer #3 · answered by samantha 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
if he cared about your feelings hed stop. My xboyfriend didi the same thing to me they would secretely meet until one day i found a note from her saying dont worry i know you have a girlfriend and some birthday card sating he still adn always will love her. He still was is love with her but knew it wouldnt work out for them so he had me adn her, He was a jerk and selfish. I feel your pain. I wouldnt beleive him he shouldnt be lieing their probobly flirting like crazy and if not more. Sorry for you you deserve better.
2006-08-16 03:16:38 · answer #4 · answered by europe 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
The boy wants the best of both worlds. You need to put him on the spot and say that it is okay to see her but the price would be that you two are "over". The only way this can keep going on is if you allow it. Don't let him hold you emotionally hostage like that.
2006-08-16 03:10:38 · answer #5 · answered by Awesome Bill 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Guys are mean. But what will discourage him will be your acceptance to meet her. Just tell him that youu are now ready to accept the fact that she is seeing his ex gf. And that you are also ready to talk about it calmly. You will definitely see the difference in attitude. The more you resent it the more he will do it. So try to accept it. You'll see.
2006-08-16 03:10:11 · answer #6 · answered by Casper 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
He is lying, and it is not acceptable. Obviously, he still has feelings for her after all of this time. Going through the pain is something YOU are putting up with.
2006-08-16 03:09:45 · answer #7 · answered by D L 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
if u cant talk then write to him. Its a choice, is his girlfriend worth the pain u go through? But dont try to emotionally balckmail him.
2006-08-16 03:13:07 · answer #8 · answered by WICCA 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You should tell him straight out you dont what him to talk to her if he say why than say how do i know that your not doing things with her? He says no that there you go somethings going on .....
2006-08-16 03:11:05 · answer #9 · answered by letty 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
since you two have been going out for 7 years, that seems unacceptable to me. he should be able to tell you where he's going, and while he is entitled to his privacy, he should at least be comfortable enough with you to tell you what his plans are.
2006-08-16 03:09:41 · answer #10 · answered by someone in the world 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋