ok i am in a long-distance relationship with a guy. we've been steadily dating for 2 years now and it seems like we're erfect for eachother. Now he's starting the sex thing and asking for pictures and stuff like that and i've been giving them to him... just mainly of me in my bra, but nothing really serious... and he's been sending cool pictures to me too, and i'm not getting offended or anything, and i love him to death, really.
but my question is: is this normal in a relationship for lust building up like this?
2006-08-15 19:35:53 · 23 answers · asked by Getoutalive 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Other - Family & Relationships
oh and yes, this is a very meaningful relationship, we're really in love and we know it. there's trust and everything in there, but you're right, it is hard...
2006-08-15 19:49:27 · update #1
You have got to be one of the nicest people!! Look darlin', in today's world lust covers everything from thinking about a female in underwear to x rated sado-masochism parties. As far as I know this whole spectrum is considered acceptable in most of the 'modern' world. And this spectrum is generally considered normal. Sure the fringe is getting toward extreme, but society still accepts it. The only other issue to give value to is your moral position and personal comfort. Be comfortable, or dont do it. As to lust being good bad or otherwise. I reckon that when you love someone, you are comfortable, you do want to let go in their prescence, for you and for them. The urge to do so grows with seperation cos humans mostly have these urges naturally. Where you take it is down to you and he, if you are comfortable with it. Be comfortable, take care and keep on being a nice person.
2006-08-15 19:50:13 · answer #1 · answered by twerf 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
It's perfectly normal since you've been sharing something special for two years now. Besides, if it's just plain pictures there's nothing much to worry. However, make sure he's not a psycho behind the keyboards/cam so as not to end up in a very uncomfortable situation. Pray that he is indeed the right guy.
2006-08-16 02:42:32 · answer #2 · answered by pink_heart18 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Well it's certainly not a bad thing to be attracted to the one you love. Is it? Just keep your cool girl. If he's the right guy for you, and if he's a good guy with good intentions...such as marriage...he wont need anymore pics like that. Get your heads together and plan a wedding quick!
2006-08-16 02:42:44 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Yep, but it has been my experience that it only makes you want to be together more and more and when you can't get together it makes you angry. Long distance relationships are very hard. It is hard to give that computer a hug & feel the warmth of another person. Best of luck to you.
2006-08-16 02:41:09 · answer #4 · answered by Mav 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋
dear gal i guess if you look at my questions you will see i asked if its ok to send nude pics of myself to my man, i was troubled and even though i had done almost everything in the book with him i felt my conscience being troubled by having nude pics of myself across continents and i trust he would not have flaunted them on the net but i felt it was wrong so eventually i did not send them, guess what? he cut communication with me it dwidled to hii and tired, hi am not well and the most annoying was , night night! what piece of **** was this? i was so mad and coz i love myself so much i took my time not to act on anger when i was cool after few days i released him and asked him to release me, believe you me i love this guy but love they say is not self seeking so i had to let him go coz i sensed that is what he wanted in order to be happy, i sit here see you go through the same thing may be different
but i ask you to follow your instincts, dont send those pictures if you feel an iota of hesitation inside you, yes i agree with you a relatioship should not be based on lust but a much more deeper connection in terms of long term goals if two people share the same goal its ok, communication should be free and fair, the person should respect and wanna protect your dignity, yes having hot love making is ok but one should not feel degraded by the other,
so yes dont send those pictures you deserve more dignity than that unless he is your husband then even Religion will not be against you
Am a christian i believe i owe my morals to the society as wild as i am i know my limit and thats when i put my foot down and say no! but believe you me am fun-wild but very intelligent
galfriend listen to the inner voice then follow it its always right
best of luck
my
2006-08-16 02:58:46 · answer #5 · answered by Ruby 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Lust in a relationship is essential. It is the fire, the uncontrollable passion. Long distance relationships are hard to manage. Good luck!
2006-08-16 02:43:08 · answer #6 · answered by Monsieur Rick 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Yes, it is part of the normal progression of relationships. However, I would be careful of how explicit a picture you send to him. These things have a way of coming back to haunt you.
2006-08-16 02:42:14 · answer #7 · answered by Bethany 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Just remember: Most guys could care or less if their pictures end up online or in someones inbox.
What are your thoughts on yours doing the same?
Quit while you're not too far behind.
And if you don't believe me, check out some ex girlfriend sites.
2006-08-16 02:40:14 · answer #8 · answered by mahajafanies 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
yes! my husband works away 9 months of the year and we find it essential in keeping us together! i think its a great thing to feel so comfortable and confiedent in a relationship, keep an open mind and go for it! make sure you trust him with the photos, it could end up bad for you.
2006-08-16 02:42:23 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
Sounds totally normal... especially since it's long distance. My boyfriend is always asking me for nude pictures and he basically sees me naked everyday...lol
Just be careful because you don't want incriminating pictures getting into the wrong hands...
2006-08-16 02:45:13 · answer #10 · answered by Aquachick1545 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋