anal sex.?

Question

well i would like to try anal with my partner and i have some Q's bout it:
How do I prepare myself 4 it?
should i have him stick his fingers up my ass so i know wat it feels like?
should i try it with a dildo?
does it hurt?
should i use lube?
what brand?
and does it hurt like mad?
will i bleed?
does it stretch my ass hole?
what are the after effects?
what is the recommended length of time 4 doing it?
should I be scared?
should I feel full up there?
Will I enjoy it?
should he play with my boobs, vagina?
should I go to the toilet 1st?
is it ok to do it with my period?
should i need to wear a condom?
sorry bout all the Q's please answer all of them if you can OK?

Answer 1

If you want to do this,anal sex, then you should. But first some of your questions. Buy, from a sex toys store some varying size butt plugs. Start with the smallest and work up to the largest. Use lots and lots of lubricant, the first time be on the top so you can control (your guy could get excited and just ram in, beware, you could do damage that way) and just let yourself down slowly. Stop when it hurts and wait. The sphincter will gradually relax. Then let your self down again and slowly. When he is entirely in you then rest and enjoy. You can begin movement when you are ready, slowly at first.It will get easier. He is likely to ejaculate rather quickly when up your butt. And hey, you cannot get pregnant this way. We do this regularly and love it. Relax and enjoy. PS Your ***hole will go back to nornal quickly, it is built that way. A bm is a good idea but an enema is better, maybe two.

Answer 2

If you use enough lube, then it should not hurt, bleed or cause hemorrhoids. The people saying that obviously have some issues to deal with. If it hurts STOP. I suggest trying with a small dildo by yourself first to see if its even anything you really want to be doing. If it totally grosses you out, don't do it no matter what your man says. If you're still interested, try masturbating that way and see what works for you.
You will be stretched for the time he is inside, the sphincter will close back up pretty quickly so its not like you'll have a flapping a-hole or anything.
It should not matter if you have your period or not.
He should definitely wear a condom, just for hygiene's sake, also the condom will slide with the lube easier.

For lots of good info on safer sex practices, go to Sue Johansen's website http://www.talksexwithsue.com/ She does a show on tv answering sex related questions and she gets ones like yours alot.

Be safe.

Answer 3

Don't be scared. The Romans did it all the time... all of them. Guys throughout Asia do it a lot, and millions of Adult entertainers are capable of larger, and more frequent anal than you will ever need or want to try.

Practice by yourself first. Use a condom, and your fingers... No sense getting things dirty. Most condoms have lube, which might be enough, or might need more. Some prefer vaseline. Others find that vaseline is hard to remove, and prefer KY. Lube with menthol will give you a cool tingly, and slightly numb feeling, which may be worthwhile. If you're all right with the vaseline, squeeze tubes of medicated lip balm (Like for cold sores) can be a cheap menthol lube. Other options get expensive, and are hard to find.

Anal will stretch you, but nobody will really notice... probably not even you... provided you take your time. Stretching TOO rapidly is a major health hazard, and can cause "Polyps." Practice with one, two, three fingers, dildo, etc. slowly building up. If it hurts, if you bleed, if it hurts like mad, or if you don't enjoy it, STOP. You may be using too large of an object. Wait a few days, and if you want to try again, try with something smaller. Anal is not for everyone. It takes patience to be properly ready.

The first several times, you're likely to feel an enormous need to dump afterwards. If you're using nothing larger than your thumb, it doesn't much matter whether you go to the toilet before or after... but needing to dump when there's nothing there can be painful, so go afterwards for the first few practices. Later on, you'll want to go before, as you can get quite a buildup of smelly stuff on dildo-sized objects, and there's less urgency once you've stretched yourself a wee bit.

Anal sex can be done at any time of the period... assuming your partner is willing. The anus does not change according to menses. Anal sex can transmit some STDs, but not pregnancy, although some positions can allow drip down of sperm into the vagina. I reccomend a condom for all anal intercourse. The latex allows a slicker surface for smoother action, and theres less yuck factor if you want to do something else in the future.

The Anus does change according to bowel movements, and for actual action with your BF, use the toilet about a half hour ahead of time. Wipe carefully, and/or shower before hand for best presentation. Anal will make you feel full up there. It will make you feel wide down there. It will stimulate the nerves on the dorsal wall of your vagina. It might make you feel like a hot and nasty sexy little bad girl, and it should make your partner feel like he's got a real prize winner champion for a girl.

As with regular sex, he should play with whatever you like for him to play with... unless he stuck his finger right in there, in which case he should NOT play with your vagina, or stick his fingers in your mouth. If he's fingered your hole, only let him play with things you're comfortable with him playing with.

Some reccomend not letting him penetrate your anus until you've put some fingers up his. It's a very sensitive area, and gentle use... at least until you're really into the act... is mandatory. Until he's had something in his, it's hard to know just how senstive it is, and how gentle he needs to be. Not knowing leads to a lot of bitter women who won't ever try it again, and who spread their pain around until everyone is scared senseless. You sound so excited. Don't let yourself become one of those women. Anal isn't for everyone, but it's REALLY, REALLY for some people. Start slow until you know which you are.

Answer 4

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Answer 5

Go very slow the first time. Use KY glide lotion it lasts longest. If it hurts stop. Don't use a condom. If fingers hurt, then sex probably will too, so try to relax more. Dildos just aren't the same. Bleeding isn't good so stop if you do. Of course it will stretch unless he's very slender. You 'could' use the toilet I suppose. If you're scared wait. He should do whatever turns you on. Yes you will probably enjoy it.

Answer 6

You must use a condom. You must be very lubricated or it will hurt. It doesn't hurt if you do it right, being on your back and he is on top. You can try it with a dildo first if you wish, just to get used to it and get the feel of it. It'll be better if you got to the restroom first. You can not do it all the time and must be gentl as it can "rip" and have serious medical complications.
Don't do it if you are not comfortable.

Answer 7

engaging yourself to anal sex is absolutely not a good practice.you are introducing bacteria to your partner and at the same time you will later develop a hemorrhoid which is painful evrytime you are removing your bowel and it goes also with your having a bloody stool.hemorrhoid is the rupture of rectal veins due to too much pressure exerted.
doing sex during menstrual period is a big NO. you are putting yourself in a disgrace because if you keep on doing this, your are developing in you a cervical cancer.

Answer 8

1 very much mentally and physically.2 yes and use latex globes.3 if you are prepare yes.3 hurts yes specially the first times,4 tons of Lib.5 non in particular(personal lube water base.6 yes at beginning,you have to be in control of penetration.use condom specially if you make vaginal love after, another condom you do not want, any vagina infection.7no. blading.unless your pardner be to big.8yes if you do it constantly,9 non when you get old,you have bigger ..hole.10 as long you enjoy it, 11 no just real relaxxxx.before do it.12no.13yes as long as you you want to do it, nobody forces you...14yes.15 good idea.16 yes as long as your partner wants and uses a condom. 17 always always.hope to help you with this info. see you remember nobody forces you to do something you do not want....take care of your self..

Answer 9

How do I prepare myself 4 it? TALK OPENLY WITH YOUR PARTNER ABOUT THE QUESTIONS BELOW.

should i have him stick his fingers up my *** so i know wat it feels like? THAT IS AN EXCELLENT WAY TO START AND HIGHLY SUGGESTED. IT WILL MAKE YOUR MUSCLES MORE RELAXED AND YOUR NERVES AS WELL.

should i try it with a dildo? YOU DON'T HAVE TO, BUT YOU CAN GRADUALLY START WITH SOMETHING SMALLER LIKE A FINGER AND WORK YOUR WAY UP TO TWO FINGERS AND THEN A LARGER DILDO OR YOU CAN GRADUALLY INSERT THE HEAD OF THE PENIS UNTIL IT FEELS UNCOMFORTABLE.

does it hurt? IF IT DOES YOU ARE NOT RELAXED ENOUGH...TAKE A DEEP BREATH AND START SMALLER.

should i use lube? YES, YES, YES...YOUR ANUS DOES NOT PRODUCE FLUID LIKE A VAGINA, THEREFORE FRICTION IS INCREASED AND THE RISK FOR TISSUE DAMAGE IS HIGHER WHEN INSUFFICIENT LUBE IS USED.

and does it hurt like mad? IF YOU ARE RELAXED IT WILL NOT HURT AND IF IT DOES YOU NEED TO COMMUNICATE THIS TO YOUR PARTNER

will i bleed? IF YOU USE PLENTY OF LUBE YOU WILL NOT BLEED

does it stretch my *** hole? NO MORE THAN PASSING A BOWEL...NOTHING PERMANENT AND IF IT IS HURTING THAN YOU ARE STRAINING YOUR MUSCLES, NOT STRETCHING THEM AND THAT IS NOT HEALTHY.

what are the after effects? THIS IS DIFFERENT FOR EVERYONE, BUT YOU WILL NOT FEEL LIKE HE IS STILL INSIDE YOU HOURS LATER IF DONE PROPERLY.

what is the recommended length of time 4 doing it? NOT A SECOND LONGER THAN YOU FEEL PERFECTLY COMFORTABLE. IT MAY FEEL ABSOLUTELY AMAZING AND THEN ALL THE SUDDEN YOU MAY JUST WANT TO STOP…MAYBE YOU GOT SCARED, MAYBE YOU HAD A THOUGHT, MAYBE THE DOG BARKED, MAYBE YOU CAME AND ARE NOT INTO IT—IT DOESN’T MATTER—STOP DOING IT, IF IT DOESN’T FEEL RIGHT. YOU CAN ALWAYS TRY IT AGAIN.

should I be scared? IT IS NORMAL TO FEEL SCARED WHEN TRYING SOMETHING NEW. THAT IS WHY YOU SHOULD COMMUNICATE TO YOUR PARTNER FIRST TO HELP YOU FEEL AS LEAST FRIGHTENED AS POSSIBLE. WHEN YOU ARE SCARED, YOUR MUSCLES CLENCH AND THIS WILL MAKE IT MORE DIFFICULT TO PENETRATE. IT IS VERY IMPORTANT TO BE HONEST WITH EACH OTHER AND PATIENT. YOU DO NOT OWE ANYONE ANYTHING, DO THIS FOR YOURSELF. IF YOU START AND CHANGE YOUR MIND HALF WAY THROUGH--HONOR YOURSELF!!!!

should I feel full up there? YES, THAT IS NORMAL AND MAY BE CONFUSING AT FIRST. YOUR BODY NATURALLY RESPONDS BY PUSHING OBJECTS IN THE ANAL CANAL OUT--YOU MAY HAVE THE SENSATION TO TAKE A SH**. BUT, UNLESS YOU REALLY DO, IT IS JUST A SENSATION.

Will I enjoy it? IF YOU CAN GET OVER THE STIGMA AND RELAX...ANAL SEX CAN BE EXTREMELY PLEASURABLE FOR A WOMAN. THE ANUS AND SURROUNDING AREA IS FULL OF TINY NERVE ENDINGS WHICH ARE OFTEN NEGLECTED. FOR SOME WOMEN, STIMULATING THEM CAN PRODUCE ORGASMS WHICH ARE ALL TOGETHER DIFFERENT AND MORE INTENSE THAN VAGINAL ORGASMS. EXPERIMENT BY HAVING YOUR PARTNER TOUCH, KISS AND LICK YOU IN THIS AREA TO SEE HOW YOU RESPOND. MEN ALSO SHARE THESE SAME NERVES AND CAN BENEFIT FROM STIMULATION TO THEM AS WELL.

should he play with my boobs, vagina? MOST DEFINITELY...I CANNOT RECOMMEND THIS MORE. YOU WILL FEEL THINGS YOU NEVER THOUGHT POSSIBLE!!!!

should I go to the toilet 1st? YES, YOU WILL FEEL MORE AT EASE. EVEN IF YOU CAN'T MOVE A BOWEL, YOU CAN GENTLY CLEAN YOURSELF.

is it ok to do it with my period? YES, AS LONG AS YOU ARE BOTH COMFORTABLE, HAVING YOUR PERIOD WILL NOT INTERFERE.

should i need to wear a condom? YES, CONTRARY TO POPULAR BELIEF, ANAL SEX PUTS YOU AT HIGHER RISK FOR STD THAN VAGINAL SEX. THERE ARE ZILLIONS OF BACTERIA IN THE ANUS FROM UNDIGESTED FOOD AND BECAUSE IT IS NOT LUBRICATED AND NOT MEANT FOR INTERCOURSE THERE IS A HIGHER OPT FOR TISSUE DAMAGE. THIS COMBO DOES NOT DO WELL FOR INFECTION & DISEASE CONTROL. YOU SHOULD ALWAYS WEAR A CONDOM AND NEVER GO FROM THE ANUS TO THE VAGINA OR MOUTH WITH A FINGER, DILDO OR PENIS WITHOUT WASHING THE OBJECT THAT WAS IN THE ANUS WITH WARM SOAPY WATER FIRST. YOU CAN CONTAMINATE YOURSELF (VAGINA) WITH YOURSELF (ANUS).

sorry bout all the Q's please answer all of them if you can OK? DON'T BE SORRY, YOU ARE A VERY SMART GIRL FOR GETTING ADVICE FIRST...I RESPECT YOU! GOOD LUCK TO YOU...AND IF YOU HONOR YOURSELF FIRST THE REST OF THEM WILL FOLLOW.

Answer 10

Use lube and go slow. It may hurt for a little time but that will pass then just enjoy. I have broke in 8 and no one said no to a second time,