idk what to do, even when i tell them they pretend like i dont tell them! what do i do?>?>?>?
2006-08-15 18:54:21 · 11 answers · asked by Johnny 1 in Society & Culture ➔ Cultures & Groups ➔ Lesbian, Gay, Bisexual, and Transgender
i dont know how easy it would be for you, but you need to seriously talk to your friends. especialy your so called best friend. they are ignoring something that is important to you. maybe they are not rejecting you, but by being indifferent they are also not supporting you. you should be able to talk to them about all aspects of your life, including your sexuality which is connected to your relationships. have a heart to heart with your friends. and then you will find out if they are your real friends. if they still act like they dont care, sorry, but your going to have to work on finding new friends!
good luck!
2006-08-15 19:12:53 · answer #1 · answered by Lovely L 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
A lot of times people who are close to you already know but they don't say anything because they want to think of you (and remember you) as a straight person. Sometimes they do this even when you flat out tell them you are attracted to your own gender -- and they make up reasons as to why you are like this (you are bored, experimenting, between love interests, etc.). I think it's part of the way humans are. It's a way they cope with something they don't want to face. I truly don't think they want to be mean at all to you. It just takes them time to admit that you are not the person they thought you were. Actually, it is a very good sign that they did not attack you verbally or dump you as a friend. You must mean a great deal to them.
2006-08-15 22:33:34 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
They probably heard you. They are ducking the issue whale they deal with it. Let them ask you at this point. Reminding them will be forcing it down their throats, and will cause leave. Just try and be the same friend you always were. They may come around or they could leave anyway.
Just let it be at this point. If you're in school you can't act on your desires anyway. I just hope your friends aren’t the objects of your desire. If they are it gets a bit harder.
Take Care, and Good Luck
2006-08-15 19:55:50 · answer #3 · answered by Spark 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
If you feel the need for them to know and you have told them, then that's all you can do... Their denial is not something you can fix... only they can... more then likely time will fix this problem for you on its own... Stand firm in who you are...don't sway to meet the demands of who you feel they feel you should be... They may just need more time to adjust to the whole idea.. Don't fret over it.
Your side of the street is clean... I'm guessing if they haven't already ran off then they will come around with time
2006-08-15 19:29:35 · answer #4 · answered by Levi Cristopher . 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
in my case it was denial/shock but eventually they got around to it.
you can try telling them again after a couple of months or so.
2006-08-16 08:21:17 · answer #5 · answered by Langdon 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Nothing you can do. You've come out to them. They sound like they don't want to aknowledge it. Go on with your life, don't worry about it.
2006-08-15 19:02:21 · answer #6 · answered by Eat At The Y 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
it may be thats it not an issue for them. i'd just stop telling them and when they see you with someone, it'll hit home for them.
2006-08-16 15:43:30 · answer #7 · answered by robyn 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
maybe u say it in a way that they think u are joking about it. or maybe they are in denial - thats wat my mum is like, even tho she knows im a lesbian, she ignores it!
2006-08-15 18:59:36 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
What you do is continue to be you.
2006-08-16 13:26:56 · answer #9 · answered by Necole 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
who cares...just be happy that they still like you and are still your friends...
2006-08-15 21:46:12 · answer #10 · answered by joy ride 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋