my husband cheats on constantly?

Question

but i need him finacailly, and i feel to old to start over again and dont want to be alone

Answer 1

You are willing to put up with someone that is disrespecting you while you are married because of money wow why would you want that. My ex husband cheated on me and kicked me and our 2 1/2 year old son out of the house. I did not work I did not drive I had 0 income. I had to go on welfare and I got my own apt. I soon found a job at a daycare center so I could be with my son. I lived on my own for 3 years with hardly any money. It was hard and I was scared but every day I got happier and happier. I met this man who taught me how to drive and I bought my first car with my income tax money. I found another job and got off of welfare. I married the man and he is faithful and he loves me and does not want to hurt me. If I can do it you can do it too. DO NOT BE A DOORMAT!!!!! You deserve so much more then that.

Answer 2

I'm very sorry to hear this. Listen...and listen close....you "DO NOT" need him financially. Please don't hang onto him for that reason alone. I am not sure how old you are...but you can even get a job at Wal-Mart or a fast food place. You never have to depend on him...this is your choice. You are just afraid...afraid of not making it financially..afraid you can't pull it off. Sooo many people think they can't do it, but the truth is...they can and many do once they find the courage.

If you still have feelings for your husband then you really should try marital therapy...I know you are fed up with him and rightfully so. When I read this, I thought..what a jerk! BUT...therapy can help, he has to be willing to change. Good luck to you...please know that you can do anything.

Answer 3

You are never too old to start over again. That is just a state of mind. He can still support you financially if you're divorced since he is the one cheating on you. Don't be afraid of being alone. Don't you have families, friends or loved ones?

Answer 4

I told many of my friends that it is never good for a woman to depend solely on her husband for support. Your husband knows that you're not going anywhere because you depend on him, so he does what he pleases without any consequences. It sounds like you are settling also because you do not wish to be alone.

My friend was brought to this country from the Phillipines by her ex husband. She depended on him for the longest time and he cheated on her throughout the course of their marriage. Because they have two young kids together, it was terrifying for her to leave him. Finally he ended the marriage and she was force to be out on her own. She is still struggling but manages.

My mom don't want to be alone and is settling for a married man. She was with my dad for 20 miserable years due to finances.

My other friend stayed with her husband for 20 lousy years because they could not afford the separation.

Point is, when these women finally became more self reliant and financially independent, they were free from a life that was void of any meanings.

Answer 5

It's never too late. Don't worry about being alone. Just because you don't have someone spousewise, go out and make friends, develop a hobby, or hang w/ family. If you get away from this man you would probably be alive and happier. Yes it may be a struggle financially at first but you can do it! And you never know if one day he will ask you to leave...which would you prefer? Be strong and leave him. Why does he deserve a devoted wife if he is doing this?? Tell him to get to steppin. Good luck.

Answer 6

Well, it's obvious that you won't be going anywhere, so why are you even letting people know about your situation? This is what my ex thought too after 31 years, but he was shown differently once I was sick & tired of being sick & tired. He's with the last one & I'm on my own with 4 daughters (3 grown), and they claim he's miserable with ms. young home wrecker. He'll be alright because stress is not going to be a part of my life any more. When you get to that state, no one will expect your next move toward being happy.

Answer 7

Then you have no choice but to stay with him. Make use of him to "butter your bread" and don't "love" him totally. You have the option to not serve him with so much love as before his cheating and just live with him as you would live with a room-mate. When you need his help ask him to help and just do the minimum for him to keep him supporting you as a wife. Many women are in the same position you are in. You are not alone.

Answer 8

Is there a question in there somewhere? You sound like you have already made up your mind. You can't have everything. Why not just say I know you're cheating on me so I'm going to cheat on you and you have to accept it or give me all of your money and property.

Answer 9

hun never to old to start over, it takes time, if deserve someone that wont cheat on you, i dont think u will be single for the rest of your life, someone deserves you, because i am sure you dont cheat, Financially doesnt matter, you can get on your own feet.

Answer 10

If you divorce him he will be told to pay alimony.....and you are never too old to start over...believe me...and you won't be alone for long...Once you go out and socialize you will have someone in your life in no time....