Does a woman have to b a mother (give birth) to be a complete woman?

Question

What about some women who cannot conceive due to medical reasons, or their husbands r impotent, or could not get married due to social reasons, who hav adopted children ? Im not against motherhood, I love my mother the most but why so much importance to motherhood. I feel just being born a woman is special & not consider motherhood the ultimate for a woman.

Answer 1

Being a mother doesn't mean giving birth to a chilld. If so how can you say that saint. Mother Theresa is a mother? But, isn't she ? A synonum foer mother is love. A lady who loves others without expecting anything is a mother.

Answer 2

They don't have to be mothers to be complete women and complete people, but if they are not mothers (biological or adoptive, it doesn't matter) there is a whole element of being a person that the woman will not experience.

I guess the way I see it is this: A woman can be 100% complete as a person and as a woman without being a mother; but being a mother adds a new dimension to a woman's self that could be seen as making the woman who is a mother 150% complete.

I think its also possible - if you consider that a woman has the potential of being 150% if she is a mother and is otherwise whole as well - that a woman who is a mother may be only x % complete because she's a mother but because she lacks something in her life/self in other areas of life.

Women with children often think women who aren't mothers aren't complete. Women without children often think mothers overestimate the degree to which motherhood adds to a woman's being in terms of introducing a whole complex set of emotions, worries, plans, etc. Both groups are wrong. Motherhood cannot be denied as maybe the most life-changing and self-changing and self-building things in life; but I see it not as required to make a person whole but as an extra thing that some women chose to add on to either an incomplete or complete self.

There are many experiences in life that some people have that others don't: going through a war, losing a parent at a young age, being raised with a loving mother and father, having siblings, being a middle child, having a lot of wealth, having no wealth. Life is full of many experiences and relationships that change who we are for the better or worse. We all can't have all these experiences and relationships, and not having however many of them doesn't necessarily make someone less than complete.

At the same time, motherhood is probably one of the most unique experiences/relationships that someone can have. Like a college education or wealth or a great marriage or great parents, having motherhood adds to a life rather than substract from it (for the most part). It brings with it some personal strengths and wisdom that nothing else does. It also can bring worries that must be put at the back of one's head because they are just way to much to think about. Maybe motherhood should be seen as icing on the cake rather than the cake itself. Anyone who is a mother (a good one and a well adjusted and mature one) knows that motherhood has a whole lot of importance to it once it has come into your life.

Again, however, just because it is a big and important thing in the life of the woman who experiences it doesn't mean that it is required for a woman to be complete.

Just a note: My first child is adopted. The others aren't. The adopted one just had a birthday. People sometimes say adoptive parents don't celebrate the birthday but instead celebrate "anniversary day". I have always made a huge deal out of the birthday because it was on that day that a person came into the world who turned me into a mother. Just as with the other children, as the birthday approaches I can't help but keep thinking about it coming up, whether or not I was present for the delivery.

Answer 3

The woman have to b a mother (give birth) to be a complete woman. The some women who cannot conceive due to medical reasons, or their husbands r impotent, or could not get married due to social reasons, I love my mother the most but why so much importance to motherhood. I feel just being born a woman is special & not consider motherhood the ultimate for a woman.

Answer 4

Motherhood is not necessary at all to be a complete woman and all men don't need to have children to be whole either. There are many ways to express maternal and fraternal energies in life besides through having children.

Answer 5

being a mother does not make you a woman it makes you a mother.i really hope that u dont think that.there are millions of woman who dont have babys so what.it sounds to me by your answer that you are already a woman. is someone pressuring u is that why u ask.dont let them if that is the case.i of course have three but that was my choice it wasnt to make me become a woman i think that who ever put so much importance on this situation to u sounds a little old fasion because in the old days woman were born to stay home and have babies but guess what this is 2006 we can come and go as we please and make our own choices in life so just because there are people out there that think like that u make the decision and remember we are woman hear us ROAR.

Answer 6

Giving birth to child is an important function of men & women. Though woman & man can acheve their goles without this but that cannot be a completeness as per natures rule. & a woman or man feels something missing if they dont give birth to child. So giving birth to child is a sign of completeness.

Answer 7

well, good question. But don't disappoint those willing hv kids but not gifted by GOD. Motherhood has importance as every woman has it irrespective of that they give birth or not.

This is beauty of a woman.

Answer 8

What do you think about mother teressa ? She was a great woman and she never had a child. It is only illiterate peoples who would consider woman as incomplete if she is not a mom.Think about your mom don't you want her to be respected by other peoples if she was not a mom? That's all

Answer 9

Hii
ITs a gud question and ur reason is reasonable to some extent.But Indians still blieve a womens life is full only if she give birth to a child.Because WOmen in malayalam means "STHREE" had *** from the sanskrit word "SOOTHRA" which means the those who can give birth to child..........An innocent guy from kerala,9895100316

Answer 10

Of course not! Millions of women are choosing not to have children and to pursue other, more ecologically sound ways of finding satisfaction and meaning. None of them are less for it. In fact, most of them have more rewarding lives than women whose careers and social lives are sabotaged by pregnancy and having children.