Crying Baby (help)?

Question

My little lump of sugar wont stop crying... The only time shes not crying is when im in her face or if someone (anyone ) picks her up... How can i stop this? I have another child (2.5 yrs) who needs my attention also.. This i very serious for me. I starting to become depressed. Two people told me to let her cry and she will break the habbit. but it just doesnt seem right....

Question is ....

Is ok to let my little one cry and will it break the habbit?

Answer 1

Your self discipline! Babies do just like all other living creatures. If you reward for certain behavior, that behavior will be repeated again and again and again, as long as in the end, the reward is given.

You wrote that two people have told you to let her cry, why didn't you pay attention to their advice?

Until now, you have never failed to reward your baby for behavior that you do not want. It is YOUR fault!

First: your baby instinctively knows how long to holler to get the reward. It thinks it knows where your limit is and it will holler that long and then a bit more!

Your action: Insure that your baby is dry, not hurt or in what you would consider a negative position (Has to do with painful).

Once you are assured that all is well, let the contest begin!
LET THE BABY HOLLER! Close the door to the baby's room.

OK, OK you can check on her from time to time. Put Don't pick it up. If you do, you,ve just upped the crying time for the next show down!

You are the parent! NEVER let your child control you by displaying behavior that you do not want and then you reward the child by giving it what it is screaming for. Practice now so that you will not have to pay later. So what if it hollers? Hollering will just make the lungs stronger! Hollering never hurt a baby, physically or mentally. That does not include illness issues

Answer 2

she sounds pretty young... 6 months or less? well, you can't really spoil a child at that age. she may be a sensitive little person. i say grab a sling, back-pack or carrier! if you don't like the advice of letting her cry, then don't do it and don't feel bad about not doing it.

if, however, you are becoming depressed because you can't get anything done, then maybe you should try it. i never had to do that with my son, but then, i only have one child. i don't think there is anything wrong with letting her cry. but letting her cry to break a "habit" well, i don't care what anyone of any level of education says, there is no way that a tiny, young baby has a habit that needs to be broken! how can someone so young have already formed a habit? keeping that in mind, letting her cry it out at a young age is not necessarily forming a new or better habit.

with that in mind, cheer up! she probably won't remember how hard it was for her to cry while you assisted your 2 1/2 year old in the bathroom. i'd say if she were about 1, she should have an understanding that you can't hold her all of the time and letting her cry it out at that point would do the trick.

Answer 3

I have a 6month old and a 19month old so I definitely feel your pain. What I do when I can is I sit infront of my 6month while playing with my 19month old so that everyone is included. People have told me the same thing--let him cry but I can't do it. I also am teaching my 19month old to show my 6month old how to play with the toys. Try keeping the baby where he can see you and hear you and make little commits to him every now and then while spending time with your other child. you can also try to find something that entertains the baby like a modile, activity gym, or even music or tv. Good luck---it gets easier I promise so hang in there.
this advise is assuming there are no health reasons for the baby to bed crying. you need to rule out things like colic and reflux or just a plain old belly ache.
Does this happen all the time or certain times of the day. Because babies usually tend to have fussy times each day that usually follow a pattern and this is normal. I would talk to the doctor about this just to make sure there are no health reasons for the baby to be crying. Then he just may be what I like to call an arm baby---a baby spoiled to being held.

Answer 4

my daughter did the same thing! from 3 months to 6 months. You have to let her cry sometimes. what i did was hold her talk to her until she calmed down and then put her down. She would cry as soon as she no longer felt my arms. But my 13mo. old told me she was sad that I don't play with her.(yes my 13 month old could speak 4-6 word Sentences and she still would stop talking she 8). So I left her to cry for 15 min. at a time. I would go over and repeat the same process. This let her know I cared about her crying but I was not going to give her all the attention. And know she the best kid ever!

Answer 5

If you just let your baby cry she will just want to cry more because her needs are not being met. Evidence is showing that the idea that you can pick up a baby too much is wrong. The more confident she feels in your ability to take care of her the less she will test it. Some babies are needier than others.
Ask your doctor if she is a "colicky baby". There are teas, gas drops, etc. that will help or you may just have to know that she will grow out of it. Get help from others if you can and ask your doctor about help for your feelings.

Answer 6

Because you mentioned that she stops crying when someone picks her up, you might want to ask the doctor if she's suffering from silent reflux. You didn't say how old she is, but if she's still an infant that can't sit up on her own yet, I'd definitely have that checked out. A baby does not have to be spitting up or projectile vomiting to have reflux. If people hold her in an upright position, it's relieving the pain for her. It doesn't hurt to check it out if those are the circumstances. GOOD LUCK!

Answer 7

First of all, I know this is frustrating to you. Do NOT try to pacify her with food. You do not want your child to grow up relying on food for comfort. As long as you are sure that nothing is wrong with her (hunger, diaper, etc.), then put her in her baby bed with some toys and let her cry. Eventually she will either get too tired to cry or will become bored with crying and start to play. This will be incredibly hard for you but I promise you, she'll be fine. Be sure that she isn't cutting teeth or has an ear infection, any sort of medical problem that may be causing her pain and leave her. You may want to buy some sort of toy that attaches to the side of her crib. There are several that have lights and music and attach to the baby bed. Those usually distract babies. I'm so sorry she's unhappy. It will be hard to leave her crying but do your best to leave her. Good luck!

Answer 8

depends on how old she is. around 4months they can start teething so get teething tables or something to sooth the pain. also you can let her cry for about 5 to 10 minutes at a time but watch(listen) her (depending on age) so she don't stop breathing. she will learn you will not pick her up everytime she starts to cry for no reason and when she stops then you can pick her up this enforces good behavior even in young babies. sounds like you need a MOMMY DAY (or mommy time out) give the kids to grandma or someone for the afternoon and do something fun for yourself... good luck but make sure the little one does not have any health problems like colic

Answer 9

It could be whatever she is ingesting, whether it is breastmilk or formula, is not agreeing with her. It is not jus the attention she may be wanting; it could be picking her up relieves her from the pain and discomfort of the upset tummy.

An acquaintance had the same problem with twins until she took them to the doctor and he prescribed a baby version of Zantac for both of them and they now sleep through the night.

My son used to scream in pain when he was on a dairy based forumula and the doctor said that wasn't it and to try just letting him cry, but I did that and it didn't help. What I did was change from a dairy based formula to a soy based one and it solved the problem.

Answer 10

I think when a baby is crying it is because she doesn't feel good , maybe she has stomach ache or fever or something and the other one they get like that specially if you have a newborn I have a 5 month and a 3 year and that happened to me . my 3 year would start crying for my attention then my baby would get scared and star crying oh man i would get depressed and star crying too! eventually it will all be alright just hang in there.